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Does It Really Get Better?

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I was with my girlfriend for 5 years and 5 months. It's always been an on and off relationship since we've been together. We got into a really nasty argument one day and just ended it right there...but it wasn't because of that one argument..so many bad things have been building up and we both felt like it was just time to break up for good. Literally after we broke up, she started talking to another guy. I was devastated when I found out. For weeks I was just numb.

 

After not contacting her for a week, I caved in and sent her a text. Not surprised, she told me she didn't want me checking up on her; she wanted me out of her life for good and that she was finally starting to be happy with this new guy. I was actually glad I texted her because hearing those words from her gave me the motivation to finally let go and move on with my life.

 

So this whole time I'm just completely in no contact mode. Feeling more bitter than ever.. I mean I felt so disrespected. She just rushed into a new relationship and forgot about me like I didn't matter. I deleted her off every social networking site and got rid of all of her stuff she gave me. 3 weeks passed and I was starting to find happiness again. I've just been focusing on bettering myself. But of course I still thought about her... but not as much anymore.

 

1 week later... I get an unexpected text from her saying she needs to talk to me it's important. So I'm trying to play it cool like sure ok what's up? She tells she honestly misses me so much and that it's actually been really hard for her to move on. She doesn't wanna be with this new guy anymore because he's not me. He doesn't make her happy or understand her like I do. Basically she was ready to drop him for me.

 

I was not expecting this at all and it just completely messed me up. When we started talking again all the feelings came back and I really wanted to get back with her... After texting back and forth with her I told her I had to go and that I would text her again tomorrow.

 

I needed time to let this is all process through my head so I avoided her all day. She ended up texting me later that night kinda upset about me not texting her like I said I would but whatever because she blew me off that one time I texted her. We continued texting for 2 more days and then that was it because she wanted to get back together and I didn't.

 

I honestly didn't wanna feel vulnerable but that's exactly what I felt. I felt weak again. I didn't want all of those days I spent trying to move on be all for nothing. And now it's like I'm starting the whole process of getting over her all over again…. Like why... when I'm finally over her she just has to mess it up for me.

 

Btw she's talking to that guy again smh.

 

What do you guys think about this? I'm really lost and confused.

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million people's experiences tell us that as long as you dont contact her it really does get better.

but everyone just breaks NC at some point, myself included.

so, after a few back and forth, it does get better.

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It gets a hell of a lot better BUT you have to follow the "The guide for the long walk" by Member "No foolin" he has a great thead and as do others but his helped me a lot. Also. Invest in books to better yourself so you dont let this happen to yourself again. I have some great material i can share ...

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I dunno man. It got better for me after about 2 months, then another 2 months passed seemingly fine, and the last 3 months have been the most difficult for me. Not really sure why. I think a part of me deep down knows that she is not coming back now(I never really expected her to, but was hoping).

 

I've also had a lot of turmoil in my personal life the last three months in which I'm probably just emotionally drained and it's boiling over.

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Youre kidding yourself if you think that she wasnt with that guy while she was with you.

 

Hit up some dating sites, go to a bar. Check out the other "talent" that's out there.

This chick will just drop you again, whenever its convenient

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Its a healing process man. Take the pain as it

Comes and be with it and take the happiness as it comes and be with it. You will get through it i promise you. Healing takes time....

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I honestly didn't wanna feel vulnerable but that's exactly what I felt. I felt weak again. I didn't want all of those days I spent trying to move on be all for nothing. And now it's like I'm starting the whole process of getting over her all over again…. Like why... when I'm finally over her she just has to mess it up for me.

 

Btw she's talking to that guy again smh.

 

What do you guys think about this? I'm really lost and confused.

 

Misterlovesick, although it is obvious that you are still confused and in pain, you should feel good that you did what you needed to do for yourself. You need to feel good about rebuilding a relationship and not weak and vulnerable.

 

You showed a lot of strength to do what many of us have not been able to do.....

 

Good luck and know that it will in time all be better..... work on yourself and do what makes you happy

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Here is a good answer: If you want it to get better.

 

100% of the time, it gets better for you, but ONLY if you want to get better. There is a little bit of work involved. Some stew on broken relationships for YEARS without it getting any better. They WANT to get better probably, but not willing to make it happen. IF you want to get better, it takes time and some work. If you are willing, I promise you it will happen.

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Thanks for all your guys' feedback. It definitely gets better...time is all it takes. I've been able to think clearly again ever since I've been keeping myself occupied with school work and friends. Although, I am still bitter towards her I hope one day I can look past all of it.

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