Matthewb12456 Posted October 15, 2013 Posted October 15, 2013 Hey there, so I am tired of being alone and am ready for some intimacy and love in my life. First of all, I love myself and believe I can be a great catch for many women. So, I have joined Tinder, Okcupid, match.com, pof, none worked. I have tried old fashioned asking a girl out for coffee, thought it went great, now she doesnt respond. I just cant seem to catch a break. Can you relate? I am sick of being alone when there are HUNDREDS of women on my college campus, but they wont give a guy a shot. What am I doing wrong here.
elmichi Posted October 15, 2013 Posted October 15, 2013 (edited) Hey there, so I am tired of being alone and am ready for some intimacy and love in my life. First of all, I love myself and believe I can be a great catch for many women. So, I have joined Tinder, Okcupid, match.com, pof, none worked. I have tried old fashioned asking a girl out for coffee, thought it went great, now she doesnt respond. I just cant seem to catch a break. Can you relate? I am sick of being alone when there are HUNDREDS of women on my college campus, but they wont give a guy a shot. What am I doing wrong here. I can relate! I think I am a good catch as well. New to my university and joined a few of the things you have listed. I keep getting flaked on and what not by boys. I would love to get coffee with a guy. Who knows. ** btw, long shot, but what state do you go to school in? Edited October 15, 2013 by elmichi
theothersully Posted October 15, 2013 Posted October 15, 2013 Hey there, so I am tired of being alone and am ready for some intimacy and love in my life. First of all, I love myself and believe I can be a great catch for many women. So, I have joined Tinder, Okcupid, match.com, pof, none worked. I have tried old fashioned asking a girl out for coffee, thought it went great, now she doesnt respond. I just cant seem to catch a break. Can you relate? I am sick of being alone when there are HUNDREDS of women on my college campus, but they wont give a guy a shot. What am I doing wrong here. It's a numbers game. Keep on going. That's all you can do. Also, the less you care about if you have one, the more you will have. I know... weird... but true. If 99 reject you or aren't interested, there will be that 1 around the corner. You have to get through the 99 first. Without any more details, that's the best anyone can offer. PS: Make sure to show the girl a good time. College is about fun, expanding your realm and new experiences. Be that guy that shows her something new and you're set. 1
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted October 15, 2013 Posted October 15, 2013 Hey there, so I am tired of being alone and am ready for some intimacy and love in my life. First of all, I love myself and believe I can be a great catch for many women. So, I have joined Tinder, Okcupid, match.com, pof, none worked. I have tried old fashioned asking a girl out for coffee, thought it went great, now she doesnt respond. I just cant seem to catch a break. Can you relate? I am sick of being alone when there are HUNDREDS of women on my college campus, but they wont give a guy a shot. What am I doing wrong here. Well, online dating is a terrible idea for guys unless you're EXTREMELY good looking. Your best chance is POF though. As far as dating IRL, you'll have to give us a better picture. How many girls have you approached and in what context? It's really all a numbers game. You'll have trouble if you're not willing to casually hook up first. That's how I got all of my girlfriends both in college and afterwards. Traditional dating generally doesn't work, even among older people.
mbee Posted October 15, 2013 Posted October 15, 2013 In my opinion, just try to stop looking and be confident in who you are. when I was actively looking I got absolutely nowhere. I stopped looking sometime in August. I got asked out by two extremely good looking guys in person (neighbor and in an airplane) and hit it off with both of them. A couple of guys from online dating who I hadn't heard from in months, randomly got in contact with me. One just yesterday too, asking to take me out for dinner this weekend. Odd! But all started after I just let it go and decided to have fun, be confident and enjoy life without worrying. That enthusiastic attitude tends to attract people, friends or more. You can seek potential relationships with traditional dating. I don't do hook ups. Never have and probably never will and never had issues developing a relationship. Just give it time. It's difficult to find the right match, it really is.
crederer Posted October 15, 2013 Posted October 15, 2013 Honestly, being a bit of a jerk helps. In a playful way though, not in a total asshat way. I was mr nice guy and it worked at times, now I'm still a good guy to women but I pick up way more frequently by slipping in some insults (jokingly). Makes them see you in a flirty way rather than a "friend" way (i think this is what it is, I don't really know, women are confusing). It backfires on me sometimes but more often than not it works. Then again I am a social guy with quick whit, so if you're a little socially awkward I could see it backfiring.
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