MackieGirl3 Posted December 7, 2004 Posted December 7, 2004 I've been dating Bill for over a year. I don't know if it's just me or what but I used to be in love with him but he does so many things that just turn me off. He's always arrogant and brags about stuff that I just roll my eyes at. His father has given him a home that's fully paid for and he always brags about how lucky he is to have such a great family and how his son is going to grow up to be a fighter pilot, blah, blah, blah. Half of what he tells me is overexaggerated and total b.s. He talks big all the time and I just wish he'd stop trying so hard to impress me and act normal and be himself. He's always got to be the center of attention or control our conversation and if I say something he's got to override me and TOP it with something he's done that's bigger and better. I've asked him "Why do you constantly try to compete with me and act like you're so much better than anyone else"? I'm a widowed single mom who struggles to work my butt off and have taken care of myself and my own son with no support from anyone else. I'm proud that I have a great job and a beautiful townhome which I pay for on my own and I get sick of hearing about how he's going to inherit all this money from his dad. My parents died and I have no family. My husband died shortly after my son was born and I'm on my own. I get so tired of Bill treating me like I'm such a "poor soul" because I have no family and no support system. While he brags about how lucky he is and how his son is spoiled and gets anything he wants. I have plenty of money but I don't tell him anything about my finances because I feel it's no one's business except my own. I have taught my son to work for what he wants, appreciate things and never depend on anyone else. He's growing up to be independent and definately not a spoiled brat. Why is this man so insistent on trying to be one up on me and better than me? I don't think love should be a competition. He either feels threatened or wants so badly to be the center of attention and in control he belittles me to try and knock me down to a level below him. I thought he was a great guy until his ego kept getting in the way. Now he's just turned me off. I want a guy who's down to earth and doesn't have to prove himself. I'm just curious as to why some men have to have such huge egos and the need to prove themselves and act like they are better than others. I told Bill that half the time our conversations are him talking incessantly on and on about himself and I could set my phone down and go grocery shopping - come back and pick up the phone and he'd still be going on and on about how great he is and how great everything in his life is. He's nauseating and boring. I've tried to tell him that he's turning me off but I don't think he has a clue as to how dull he is and how much of a turn off he is trying so hard to impress me with his boring talk about himself. I never get a word in - he dominates the conversations and even sex is so god awful boring because he seems to be more into himself than into me. We have sex and the whole time he's checking out himself in the mirror. Pathetic ain't it? I don't plan on hanging around much longer - I just thought I'd post on here to see what others thought of this and why this guy is this way.
guest Posted December 7, 2004 Posted December 7, 2004 my take on this loser is low self esteem. he has to make sure that you know how great he is so that he can convince himself that he is. he wants you to believe the illusion that he is portraying. i bet he really envies you for being self reliant and not a butt kissing daddy's boy. you made it yourself and he is depending on the old man's wallet. you sound like you are well grounded and deserve better. plus, he may have money, and he and his family may have a lot of debt also---who knows. what i do know from hanging around a lot of "rich" people in my job of yacht deliveries, is that the ones who really have the big bucks dont want to advertise it. they know who they are and what they have, and dont care that you know or care. and a lot of the ones who go for the flash and make sure that YOU realize all they have, with the fancy watches and rings, etc.... these are the ones to slow pay or try not to pay at all.....i have even been back to repo several such yachts from these types. after awhile you can separate the beef from the bull****, and from what i see from your story is that you had better check your feet before you walk on the carpet!!!! good luck.
zara Posted December 7, 2004 Posted December 7, 2004 Get rid of this loser - heck, i think you've already made up your mind. You don't even like him, let alone love him, so cut yourself free so that you are available for someone who is interested in YOU! I didn't work this out until my ex had dumped me, it took my therapist to make me realise that actually, this guy was an egotistical jerk and there was nothing to miss about him now that he was gone! - This will make you giggle: after he left me there was a fatality on our local train track, someone fell under a train. My ex called me to say "I just wanted to check it wasn't you, you know, all upset after we broke up." I laughed and put the phone down. Idiot. Enjoy life as a damned fine single woman again!
Pocky Posted December 7, 2004 Posted December 7, 2004 Pathetic ain't it? I don't plan on hanging around much longer - I just thought I'd post on here to see what others thought of this and why this guy is this way. If he's so pathetic why are you dating him? I really see no reason to analyze why this man acts this way. You dislike him and plan on leaving so why even take the time to post this? This whole thing is really pointless.
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