2sure Posted October 16, 2013 Posted October 16, 2013 I know. Making the decision is hard , and I think you've done that. Carrying through is harder, but you just muscle through it and start your recovery. Fully and completely and without this man. There will be people here, since you've reached out that will encourage you to one side or the other of the issue. Years ago I also gave a child up for adoption. Not so many years ago, we met and we have a healthy and beautiful relationship. The years between no one tells you about. They are brutal. I have also held hand with loved ones when they terminated a pregnancy, because I agreed with their decision. You can choose you path. It's a hard decision that no one wants to make. But you can do it and you will be able to accept it. I would want you to have someone to be with you during the process.
Solcita2 Posted October 16, 2013 Posted October 16, 2013 So... I guess he's not separated or getting a divorce... or anything... you do realize that you are a hidden part of his life... a side player, right? You HAVE to get away... you are the only one getting hurt here... take care of yourself if not for you for your daughter... Best of lucks...
Author Scared28 Posted October 16, 2013 Author Posted October 16, 2013 Yes I get it, I was just another whore sleeping with a married man ... Except I'm not a whore and haven't slept with anyone but him since we started seeing each other. I love him. I called and spoke with a clinic about an abortion. They said there may be protesters outside but they have people that will help me get in safely. They also said that I'll have another sonogram done the day I go in. They also said that I have to watch a video and talk with a counselor to make sure I understand everything. Then I'll have to wait for 2 hours by law until I receive the first portion. I don't know if I'll be able to go through with it. I'm a complete mess at work ... my emotions are running all over the place! I feel like such an idiot! And I'm angry at myself that I keep going back to him. Part of me wants to tell his wife because I know that if I do and she hears everything from me (not all of his friends that have run their mouths in the past) that we will be done for sure!
SunshineToday Posted October 16, 2013 Posted October 16, 2013 We ended up having sex. He kissed me this morning before he left and said that he would call me today. . After he told you NOT TO TELL ANYONE YOUR PREGNANT WITH HIS KID? Great move. Best of luck.
unicorn farts Posted October 16, 2013 Posted October 16, 2013 Hi Scared, I think the wife deserves to know, but right now probably isn't the best time. You have more than enough on your plate right now without adding extra drama when you're at your most vulnerable. Talk to people who care about you if you can, not xMM and his wife. And if he tries to contact you with some pretty words about how he's changed his mind and he's going to be a great daddy, take them with a grain of salt.
rumbleseat Posted October 16, 2013 Posted October 16, 2013 Yes I get it, I was just another whore sleeping with a married man ... Except I'm not a whore and haven't slept with anyone but him since we started seeing each other. I love him. No one here has called you that, as far as I know. All they are trying to do is to help you untangle all of this. You wrote it out yourself, in very black and white terms, that this man does not love you. He showed up, begged you not to tell his wife or say anything about being pregnant. Then, when you say you don't think you will terminate the pregnancy, he "loves' you again and wants to have sex? If he loved you, he wouldn't want you to go through this alone. He'd see how hard it is for you, and do his bets to be there for you. maybe go with you to the appointment, hold you hand, talk about it afterwards if you feel you need to. Instead, this guy chooses this horrible time for you to suddenly say he;s getting along well with his wife, he doesn't want his sort of complication. If this was happening to your best friend, what would you tell them? Would you tell them to stick with him or to stop putting up with this cr@p? Seems like it's time for you to start being your own best friend. You may be in love. you may love him desperately and hopelessly. But just because we love someone that doesn't mean we should be with them, or that they are good for us.
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