brookebb Posted October 14, 2013 Posted October 14, 2013 Hi. I'm a college student and living in the same suite as one of my friends, leah, who i met last semester (we both transferred here last semester and met at a meeting). I was going to my friends school an hour away to see her/visit her college. I asked leah if she wanted to come with me for the weekend, and originally she said yes, but then she said no because she wanted to go home to see her dad before he went away, which is understandable and i'm not mad at her for that. so i told her i got my ticket and i was leaving at 3pm on friday and i was excited to go. on sunday when i got back to school, i texted her asking how her weekend was. she told me it was great and she doesn't want to come back and study chemistry. she did not ask me how my weekend was. i figured she'd ask me in person, but she still hadn't. i finally confronted her about it on the way to dinner. i said.. "thanks for asking me how my weekend was at syracuse". she said "ohh yeah how was it?".. and i said.. "you obviously either forgot or don't care since you haven't asked this whole time." and she was like.. "i was going to ask you at dinner". and i said "no i think you just forgot. or you obviously don't care. and it's rude because i asked you about your weekend". so then we ate together at dinner in silence and she still didn't ask about my weekend. and then we parted ways awkwardly after we finished eating, but we did not fight. all my other friends asked me how my weekend was, but her. the truth is.. i had a fun this weekend visiting my friends and i'd do anything to go back. i feel that i have a true connection with them. we also have more in common. another thing that bothers me about leah is that she can't really hold a conversation and she never has anything that interesting to say. she doesn't really talk about guys, etc. she's purely academic and it gets on my nerves. all she talks about is class related stuff. am i wrong for feeling this way? am i being overly sensitive? please be honest. how do i cope with this? how would you feel if you were in my position?
Outsider77 Posted October 15, 2013 Posted October 15, 2013 To be honest, you are completely overreacting. I realize that you're only college-aged, but don't you have better things to worry about? You're acting like this person is your lover rather than your friend. She has a different personality than you do. She's probably an introvert that likes to learn instead of gossip. Respect the fact that she is different from you. Maybe she thinks you are boring since you don't share her interests.
Arabella Posted October 15, 2013 Posted October 15, 2013 Seriously. You met this girl like 6 months ago, and you're bitching her out for not asking about your weekend? If you feel it's so important to share this information, why don't you just do it? Create a pattern of sharing what goes on in your life, and chances are, she will follow your lead. But I still think you're overreacting. If I were her, I'd be totally weirded out about your behavior.
headinthecloud Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 You have a lot of growing up to do. Dont be a drama queen.
IfWishesWereHorses Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 Read on the differences in introverts and extroverts. For an introvert making small talk is like having a tooth pulled. Try to discuss deeper subjects with her, thought, ideas.... Whys more so than whats if that makes any sense. Be mature enough to understand and respect your differences. Good luck.
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