Author crazybestie101 Posted October 15, 2013 Author Posted October 15, 2013 And you couldn't take the hint that maybe you should back off? I mean, what's done is done, but the fact that you still think this was a good idea is pretty concerning. This is absolutely something you should never do again. You shouldn't be justifying it. Oh Lord , after BU i never had chance to confess that i still have feelings. As i said earlier i acted like different person. When i finally realized it was late so i had to do this. Thoughout entire time he would reply if i text him. Yes , he also told me when all this happened that you should have called or texted or emailed.. Because he didnt have guts to face reality..
Simon Phoenix Posted October 15, 2013 Posted October 15, 2013 Oh Lord , after BU i never had chance to confess that i still have feelings. As i said earlier i acted like different person. When i finally realized it was late so i had to do this. Thoughout entire time he would reply if i text him. Yes , he also told me when all this happened that you should have called or texted or emailed.. Because he didnt have guts to face reality.. Stop trying to justify crazy. You acted crazy and inappropriate. He knows you have feelings, he just doesn't care. Being crazy and trying to bully him into listening to you wasn't going to help -- it will just drive him back more. What you did was immature, stupid and selfish. There is no justification for it. Admit that it was stupid and move forward and then laugh about it. If it wasn't for you defending it I'd be laughing about it, because that's literally one of the most ridiculous things I've ever heard. 1
reddragon588 Posted October 15, 2013 Posted October 15, 2013 Yeah , may be in future i will laugh on what i did. As for right now, i am just crying , kind of feel like i can never fall in love again. Have no faith in it , just be forever alone.. You'll fall in love again! You just need to heal first. 1
Petunia20 Posted October 15, 2013 Posted October 15, 2013 Wow its nice of him that he actually met up with you. He atleast understood that you drove all this long way. My stupid Ex didnt even care about it, started insulting me . He even ignored my calls , messages after that. He replied to my email saying that leave him alone and never contact him back again .. Sometimes I wish he would have told me that. Told me something where I understood it was over for sure. With your ex, as much as it may hurt, he gave you a clear answer that you were not what he wanted. Being led on feels a lot more painful. Its lies and betrayel where they dont even give you the respect to tell you to your face "I dont love you anymore, I dont want you in my life." I personally would rather know the truth and deal with that then live with the questions of how he really felt.
JDPT Posted October 15, 2013 Posted October 15, 2013 Yeah , may be in future i will laugh on what i did. As for right now, i am just crying , kind of feel like i can never fall in love again. Have no faith in it , just be forever alone.. What you are experiencing is completely normal, embrace it. And as harsh as it may sound, learn to live with it but knowing that in time with a lot of hard work that sense of hopelessness will eventually dissipate. 1
Author crazybestie101 Posted October 15, 2013 Author Posted October 15, 2013 Stop trying to justify crazy. You acted crazy and inappropriate. He knows you have feelings, he just doesn't care. Being crazy and trying to bully him into listening to you wasn't going to help -- it will just drive him back more. What you did was immature, stupid and selfish. There is no justification for it. Admit that it was stupid and move forward and then laugh about it. If it wasn't for you defending it I'd be laughing about it, because that's literally one of the most ridiculous things I've ever heard. Thanks :mad::mad:
Author crazybestie101 Posted October 15, 2013 Author Posted October 15, 2013 Sometimes I wish he would have told me that. Told me something where I understood it was over for sure. With your ex, as much as it may hurt, he gave you a clear answer that you were not what he wanted. Being led on feels a lot more painful. Its lies and betrayel where they dont even give you the respect to tell you to your face "I dont love you anymore, I dont want you in my life." I personally would rather know the truth and deal with that then live with the questions of how he really felt. its hard but i gotta move on from here. Cant believe someone who told me he is always going to be there for me no matter what did all this to me..
Simon Phoenix Posted October 16, 2013 Posted October 16, 2013 Thanks :mad::mad: You can't control how another person acts, only how you act. I just wanted you to be aware of just how off-kilter what you did was. Learn from it and don't do it again. Don't let anyone rob you of your self-respect and dignity. In a few years (maybe even months) you'll be like "Oh god, I was a dumbass once" and then tell the story in a joking manner. 1
Author crazybestie101 Posted October 16, 2013 Author Posted October 16, 2013 You can't control how another person acts, only how you act. I just wanted you to be aware of just how off-kilter what you did was. Learn from it and don't do it again. Don't let anyone rob you of your self-respect and dignity. In a few years (maybe even months) you'll be like "Oh god, I was a dumbass once" and then tell the story in a joking manner. Alright , got itttt. I know what to do from next time. One mistake is enough to learn from. I guess people would never understand my side but will defend my ex. Its all cool. I will pick up pieces from here & move on. Anyways, I am no longer interested in dating or relationship any more. I just want to go away from dating and spend time for myself , family ,school. There is so many better things to do than all this ..
Simon Phoenix Posted October 16, 2013 Posted October 16, 2013 (edited) Alright , got itttt. I know what to do from next time. One mistake is enough to learn from. I guess people would never understand my side but will defend my ex. Its all cool. I will pick up pieces from here & move on. Anyways, I am no longer interested in dating or relationship any more. I just want to go away from dating and spend time for myself , family ,school. There is so many better things to do than all this .. I'm not defending your ex at all. My comments toward you have nothing to do with your ex at all. I'm sure he didn't handle his business properly, but you can't control that. You can only control how you handle things and how you handle things is the only thing that reflects on you. It's a lesson learned. Edited October 16, 2013 by Simon Phoenix 5
Author crazybestie101 Posted October 16, 2013 Author Posted October 16, 2013 So after break up all this time i pretended to be someone different. I acted like i moved on and seeing other guys to make him jealous because i didnt wanted to look desperate. When he said not to contact him , i didnt talk to him for 2 months. When i finally realized that i should stop playing this game , it was already too late . So i finally decided to pour out my feelings to him . He lives in another state. So without telling him i drove the state he lives in. 700 miles one way. It was complete out of blue for him. To make things more weird , i went to his work to surprise him or shock him you can say. Moment he saw me , he blasted on me . He told me i already made it clear that its over , why are you here. I dont want to see you. Go away , never contact me again . When i saw this , i broke into tears . He told me i am all fake. This all made me think i drove all the way for him , he didnt care to ask me anything but started blasting on me . Felt like one of the worst decision i made while driving to pursue this guy. Deleted all his pictures from my phone , whenever i think about what he did , makes me so angry. Feel like to punch him . Never want to hear from him again . Part of me really wish he realize what he has lost in midst of misunderstanding, ego and what not ...
Fufu Posted October 16, 2013 Posted October 16, 2013 Yep you are right. No matter whatever was result i am glad i followed my heart and did everything . Now i can easily move on with my life with peace of mind . Its time to take care of myself .Luckily , got good roommates who supports me . The quote that you have put here is so true. I have faith in you, you can do it 1
forgetmenot75 Posted October 16, 2013 Posted October 16, 2013 Really, you drove 700 miles unannounced after he broke up with you? sorry, haven't read the whole post, just wanted to mention that you really don't need a closure after this. He was clear he doesn't want to see you anymore, and that is enough for you to delete everything (I read you did this) and move on. Forget him. 1
BC1980 Posted October 16, 2013 Posted October 16, 2013 Alright , got itttt. I know what to do from next time. One mistake is enough to learn from. I guess people would never understand my side but will defend my ex. Its all cool. I will pick up pieces from here & move on. Anyways, I am no longer interested in dating or relationship any more. I just want to go away from dating and spend time for myself , family ,school. There is so many better things to do than all this .. It's not about the ex, as Simon is saying. You control your actions. Next time, don't let someone have so much power that you get to the point of doing something foolish. You will always regret it. 1
hurts2death Posted October 16, 2013 Posted October 16, 2013 i did sth similar .i drove to reach her i had gut feeling she was leaving me and she dumped me when i reached her then i drove back super sad... i know how it feels like...it is hell. be strong remain nc...it gets better.... for me just as an example not to get any hopes just saying. my ex girl was so sure to dump be and i did nc and 1 month later started calling like crazy hours i still ignore.... in the long term being the dumpee will be better .... just focus on sth else...i also find very helpfull at times like these to help other people... wish the best. , if i would have let him know i would have never seen him ..**** about miles and money , i get to see him , i tried my best to save this relation. Thats more than enough for me , No regrets in life! 1
flight E Posted October 17, 2013 Posted October 17, 2013 U will be fine. We all make mistakes. U grand gesture was not a waste. One day he will look back and say someone felt he was meant that much he will think fondly of it and you. U did your best and that's all you can do. Show that kind of love to a deserving guy n u will be happy 2
Author crazybestie101 Posted October 17, 2013 Author Posted October 17, 2013 I just found out that officially my ex has blocked me from everywhere. After what he did to me , i hate him but why it pains so much when i learned this? Also found out that he started following new girls and liking their pictures. No wonder he doesnt care about me and what i did. After all attention he has been getting. He also told me about his fake dating when i just saw him. When all this will end , when he will realize that he needs to stop with all this games . I am already doneeeee , no need any more torture . I feel like to email and him and tell him so he stops with this because all this is still affecting my brain. But part of me says i dont need to do anything just stay on NC he will learn himself.. What do you guys say on it ?
cavalier99 Posted October 17, 2013 Posted October 17, 2013 Umm PLEASE JUST STAY NC! Stop learning stuff about him. Cav 1
BlueIvy Posted October 17, 2013 Posted October 17, 2013 I just found out that officially my ex has blocked me from everywhere. After what he did to me , i hate him but why it pains so much when i learned this? Also found out that he started following new girls and liking their pictures. No wonder he doesnt care about me and what i did. After all attention he has been getting. He also told me about his fake dating when i just saw him. When all this will end , when he will realize that he needs to stop with all this games . I am already doneeeee , no need any more torture . I feel like to email and him and tell him so he stops with this because all this is still affecting my brain. But part of me says i dont need to do anything just stay on NC he will learn himself.. What do you guys say on it ? NO CONTACT! No offense but you played the fool once by hitting up him up multiple times by text, phone call,etc and he didn't hit you up back for 2 months. Two, you drove 700 miles unannounced where he shamed you? He is done with you. And if you were done with him like you claim, why care about what he is doing now? Based on the fact he shamed you, I wouldn't be surprised ...and wouldn't blame him if he got a restraining order or something. If you keep pushing on to you, the more disgusted he will be with you. I think you were only with him for 3 months? Life goes on, you need to find your value and don't let a man determine your worth or beg for a guy to be with you. Learn and grow from this. 1
Zahara Posted October 17, 2013 Posted October 17, 2013 I feel like to email and him and tell him so he stops with this because all this is still affecting my brain. But part of me says i dont need to do anything just stay on NC he will learn himself.. What do you guys say on it ? So, after traveling 700 miles and getting shunned away, you now want to email him to ask him to stop? Stop what? Living his life. Doing what he wants? Just as Simon said, you control your own actions. You cannot control what he does. And yes, when you tell him to stop, he'll say, "I'm so sorry I am messing with your brain, I will stop." No, he'll roll his eyes. Think you insane and keep on doing what he is doing. This last episode should have taught you something. Instead, you're going online and checking to see where he's blocked you, etc. He told you to go away. Like a mangy dog he shooed you away. So, stay away. And that means from anything and everything. I hate to be harsh. But for goodness sake, learn from it.
Author crazybestie101 Posted October 17, 2013 Author Posted October 17, 2013 NO CONTACT! No offense but you played the fool once by hitting up him up multiple times by text, phone call,etc and he didn't hit you up back for 2 months. Two, you drove 700 miles unannounced where he shamed you? He is done with you. And if you were done with him like you claim, why care about what he is doing now? Based on the fact he shamed you, I wouldn't be surprised ...and wouldn't blame him if he got a restraining order or something. If you keep pushing on to you, the more disgusted he will be with you. I think you were only with him for 3 months? Life goes on, you need to find your value and don't let a man determine your worth or beg for a guy to be with you. Learn and grow from this. Damn , i am not crazy. Thoughts just come in my mind but i would prefer to come here than to do anything silly again..I am on NC , will never contact him again. I deleted all social media.. 1
BC1980 Posted October 17, 2013 Posted October 17, 2013 You are attempting to control something you cannot control, which is him. He isn't the key to you moving on.
Author crazybestie101 Posted October 20, 2013 Author Posted October 20, 2013 Its been 7 days since i contacted my EX and i got reply " leave me alone , never contact me back". Its been rough, can't concentrate in anything . Just question why all this is happening . My heart aches while seeing my ex posting up news pics of himself and what not. I am completely not on his mind . Feels like he completely forgot me . Ignoring whatever just happened.How can someone be so heartless? Words cant define what i am going through right now. He was such caring man , i never though he will turn to be such evil and cold.He told me " I am all fake". It broke my heart when i hear this from him. I dont know why he feels that i am fake . Driving 700 miles for guy speaks everything , right ?I feel like No one can understand & i am in complete mess. Some background info for people who didnt read my other post: Poured out my heart to Ex So after break up all this time i pretended to be someone different. When he said not to contact him , i didnt talk to him for 2 months. When i finally realized that i should stop playing this game , it was already too late . So i finally decided to pour out my feelings to him . He lives in another state. So without telling him i drove the state he lives in. 700 miles one way. It was complete out of blue for him. To make things more weird , i went to his work to surprise him or shock him you can say. Moment he saw me , he blasted on me . He told me i already made it clear that its over , why are you here. I dont want to see you. Go away , never contact me again . When i saw this , i broke into tears . He told me i am all fake. This all made me think i drove all the way for him , he didnt care to ask me anything but started blasting on me . Felt like one of the worst decision i made while driving to pursue this guy.
reddragon588 Posted October 20, 2013 Posted October 20, 2013 Only 7 days? That's a long time. Nice work, keep it up! 1
bedelgeuse Posted October 20, 2013 Posted October 20, 2013 Keep pushing, I am on day 3 NC from my ex girlfriend and I think about her non stop - lose sleep even. But I've also been through a bad divorce where I went NC years ago - there is a light at the end of the tunnel. One way to distract yourself is through some kind of physical activity if possible, exercising is a great way to not only feel good, but look good for yourself and whoever comes next, whether your ex comes back and you work it out or if someone else comes along.
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