TheVoski Posted October 14, 2013 Posted October 14, 2013 (edited) I'm 28 and been separated for a year and divorced for 6 months. I've noticed this girl, who is 23 or 24, around town at local events and bars (not one of those lets get wasted girls though). Well, I went to eat at a local bar and grill during the day with some friends and she works there. I never said anything to her. Well, later that night I went to a beer tasting and she was there at and she acknowledge me and I started talking to her and I sat with her and her friends for the rest of the night and walked her to her car and got her number and gave her mine on a a funny business card I have from a site that we are both visit actually, (card said I find you very attractive blah blah). Anyways, I told her I might be going to that bar and grill she works at Saturday and I'd see her, she said that'd be good, cool, or something to that nature. Well, I went there and right before she got off and had lunch and a beer and when she got off she sat beside me at the bar and we hung out the entire rest of the evening from lke 4:30p-2a, drinking and talking. I then said "well, I'm about to go to Waffle House to eat" and invited her and she drove out there and we ate and she even made a reference that I was a cutie because we were joking with each other. Well, afterwards we sat outside there and talked for about another 30 minutes. I never made a move to even kiss. I then said I'm free next Wednesday and would she like to do something, she pretty much said yes, and I told her I'd give her a ring before then more than likely. Well, the predicament I'm in is its been so long since I've dated a woman - like 10 years - let alone a woman that seems to be nice and generous. She even said she'd like to make me food one time when I said that the grill doesn't serve my favorite food anymore. Anyways, I was too nervous to even go in for a kiss and I felt like she was waiting on it to be honest. Why else would she hang out with me pretty much for 12 hours and even sit outside a Waffle House talking to me while we smoked a cigarette. Just need some good advice what I should of done and what to do in the future. She goes to this local pub that is right near my house. I was thinking about going there tonight fit a drink on hopes to see her and talk again and such. I don't want to be that weird guy though. I haven't called or even texted her since I've gotten her number. Edited October 14, 2013 by TheVoski
deathandtaxes Posted October 14, 2013 Posted October 14, 2013 Have you confirmed your plans with her? If you haven't ask her out on a specific night, time, and place! Don't be so passive. 1
Author TheVoski Posted October 15, 2013 Author Posted October 15, 2013 Not really. I was gonna call her tomorrow and see if she is still up for Wednesday and if she didn't answer then shoot her a text. It seemed like she was/is interested in me. We damn near hung out for 12 hours. I'm just not good at reading signs. How am I being passive? Again haven't dated really at all if you call my ex and me dating at like 19.
tlegend Posted October 15, 2013 Posted October 15, 2013 I guess in this context... Aggressive: Knowing you like her, you ask her out on a date and make those plans. Passive: Knowing you like her, you make plans to make plans to make plans to make plans to make plans.... See where I'm going with this? If you like her, solidify some plans with her. 1
Assasda Posted October 15, 2013 Posted October 15, 2013 TheVoski You are doing great. She is digging you You should kiss her after she's made physical contact with you. If she touches you, like on your leg, especially your thigh, she wants to be kissed, even if she playfully hits you, and you feel it in you, just go for the kiss If she rejects the kiss, it doesnt even matter. Just keep on keeping it lighthearted and dont get hurt A chick doesnt hang out with a guy for 12 hours that she doesnt like. - I think you've got this one wrapped up man
Author TheVoski Posted October 15, 2013 Author Posted October 15, 2013 (edited) I guess i'm just not good at reading signs mixed with a little low self esteem. She even had me add her on Facebook the first night we sat and talked. Edited October 15, 2013 by TheVoski
Bootsky Posted October 15, 2013 Posted October 15, 2013 The fact that you didn't kiss her or try to on the first date doesn't erase the fact that you spent 12 hours with her. Try not to put so much pressure on yourself for things you didn't do/things that don't matter. The fact is she is interested, you just gotta keep it cool and lighthearted...make the plans to hang out with her. And go from there. If she's digging you, and makes any attempt to physically be close to you/touch you, you will know. If that's the case you should be in the clear to try a kiss....just don't put to much pressure on yourself or the situation in general. Just go with the flow...good luck
Author TheVoski Posted October 16, 2013 Author Posted October 16, 2013 Texted her and confirmed the date for tomorrow and texted back for a short period. Really nervous about this date. I guess I'm into this chick.
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