mutant Posted October 14, 2013 Posted October 14, 2013 It really does... My exe's profile on FB kept popping up and I kinda clicked on it and guess what? NOTHING...I felt freaking nothing. I haven't checked her profile for about an year now and wasn't going to but today it just happened and I realized I am way past her. I really never thought this would come to pass because she put me through hell and I tried to win her back for months before I finally gave up on her. NC played a great part in this and I will forever be grateful for the LS community for helping me get through that extremely difficult period. I love this great community that exist here on LS! Anyone who is struggling should take the advice that they are getting here because it's priceless. Love ya! 4
Stealth3 Posted October 14, 2013 Posted October 14, 2013 I started NC today for good and this time im sticking to it. No point in trying to win over anything, just NC from the beginning....**** trying to talk **** over and change people's minds...the hell with understanding anything...just NC forever. And if they come back...the hell with trying to get back with them because NC destroyed that chance. 1) You try to win them over....you fail and will end up doing NC after months of pain. 2) You do NC from the beginning, they eventually come back to you and you say f it because you are moved way the f on. 3) You do NC from the beginning, they eventually come back and you take them back and you two eventually break up after finding out all the **** that your ex did in the meantime or the real reason they broke up with you. My ex said because of me trying to win her back so hard, she started disliking me more and more. I wanted to work on that chance that I knew we had because going NC I knew I would have moved on and wouldnt want her back and it would have been totally over. Now she doesnt want to have anything to do with me...so f her.. NC forever now.
Phthonos Posted October 14, 2013 Posted October 14, 2013 First thing you have to tell yourself is the relationship is over. There is no going back. Breaking up is a difficult and painful action, and people don't do it unless they really mean to. I think what really helped me lately is going out again and dating. It took me 8 months since my break up do begin dating again, but seeing other girls and making them smile and seeing them happy made me feel really good about myself. I know its only a matter of time before I will find another girl again. Just be thankful for the relationship you had as long as it was a good one. 1
Author mutant Posted October 15, 2013 Author Posted October 15, 2013 What I find hard to believe, is that I spent months and months trying to win my ex back while she on the other hand was busy seeing someone else. I feel like I should have left earlier and tried to improve myself but now that's water under the bridge. I can't believe the progress I have made so far in my life since I decided to go NC. Sometimes I forget the strides I have made but they are really significant. My ex tried to contact me last month and just like other similar instances I ignored her without feeling any guilt. Of course I could establish and maintain contact with her but there is absolutely no benefit in doing so. What makes me happy is that I am at peace with myself and comfortable with the situation I am in. The girl I thought was meant for me, is now completely insignificant in my life. I know she is a good person but the situation we were in made her pretty hostile to me. I don't think we are compatible as a couple because similar situations are likely to occur in my life/relationships in future. NC really helps, stealth3 really summarizes the likely outcomes of breaking NC. Phthonos is quite right about the perspective you should keep after a breakup. The pain is temporary all you have to do is hold on and stay NC till you cross to the other side. This site is excellent in providing support to help you do so. 1
Chi townD Posted October 15, 2013 Posted October 15, 2013 That is totally awesome dude! And I'm sure you made many positive changes in your life as well! I love it when people come back here to share their success stories! Especially now that we got so many people starting NC and they're a little unsure about it. Hearing your success story may be the motivation they need to see it through!
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