should i get back my bf or leave him?

[Lorraine N]

Hello Friends from this Forum. I am very new user for this Forum and I just found this and registered as i need some help from people ...

 

 

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I am an Asian girl who grow up in Asia and My bf (American) who is almost 5 years younger than me and he is just 24yrs old man who is divorced and we online 4 months ago. I lived in Maryland and He lived in Pennsylvania. we were texting almost everyday for a month and sharing things. after we start liking each other so much and we dated...He came down and meet me from PA state. we lived in hotel. things were pretty went well and we love each other and commit for relationship. we dated for 2 times, things went well and we loved each other so much. as we lived so far away each others, things are difficult to handle our relationship.

the reason is he is sex driven and he wants to have cyber sex or pics and videos from me but i couldn't accept this things coz i am not used to it and none of my bf asked me to do this. but in the end, I do this for him as i love him so much and as i want to continue our relationship. we both planed for our future coz we both want to be settle down.

so we decided to move in coz i focused on my healthy relationship. At the time, He is broke and no money. But i said it doesn't matter and I will help paying for 3 months and he can taking care of me after he can make money and good job.

 

So we both moved in at his friends' house and i paid for the room fees and all his expenses like foods and everything. After we moved in a week later, i see his real color and he totally changed into different person. he use cuss words to me whenever he talks, he doesn't give any respect to me, he always look down on my English language and sometimes when i dun understand his slang and idiom, he told me that your English is so bad and you need to learn English. I feel so sad. the worst things is when he has sex with me, he become selfish. he comes to me only whenever he needs and again he used to said sorry to me and he always tell me to try better our relationship. I forgave him many times. after a month being together with him, i have got many stressed and things are not work as we planned. I paid for two months rental for this place to his friends.

 

These days, I caught him that he was texting with his high school ex gf and asked her to have relationship with her and even more. he text her every time that as he always used to do it to me ... he told her that he already left his psyco gf n move in with his good friend. actually it is not true and he is still with me and still having sex. even he told his friend (house owner) that we broke up. I didn't explained to them cox he will always be their friend no matter what. and again he told his good friend that he broke up wit me and he try to play nice with me coz he doesn't has money to rent new place. I obviously know that he is using me for his own good sake and he doesn't love me any more. he knew that i am so soft and love him so much.

 

the things is i am so depressed being with him and upset but i still has a feelings for him. i know that i made that big mistake that i did the early move in with him and i agreed on easily whatever he wants to do. now, i told him that i can't live with u any more and i am going to move, i need my half month rental back to rent at other place. he said that i agreed to pay for this rental and he couldn't give it to me back. I dun mind to provide and pay for things a person who love me sincerely or to my bf but he said that he is not my bf any more and said sorry. and again, he is still sleeping with me at same bed. what should i do? either should i leave him or should i go for love spell casting to get back him as before? Pls kindly advice for me ... I am feeling so hurt and pain at the moment

[learman3]

I am so sorry that he has treated you in this way. It sounds to me as if he was going to take advantage of you right from the start. He does not sound like a very good person at all. He made you feel as if he was in love with you so you would fall in love with him.

 

If I were you, I would leave him as soon as you can. I really hate that men take advantage of women like this.

 

*hugs you tight* I think you need that for support.

[dating magic moments]

looks like he is trolling for "sex" and just being a player, I would move on and see if I could find a genuine date. There are so many dating sites and I guess some of them will be full of this type of player and I guess you need to filter them out as best you can, take a look at findyourperfectmatch.org and see if this helps, I am really not sure that you even sounded that compatable and a good dating site would probably not have mateched you up.