HeartBorken Posted October 14, 2013 Posted October 14, 2013 Me and my now Ex Girlfriend have been together for 23 months would have been 24 months 10/21/13 but 3 weeks ago she decided to break it off with me. This was our relationship before the break up. Me and my Ex started dating senior year in high school and life felt great. We would constantly see each other and text each other whenever possible. As our relationship continued it became clear that we cared about each other very deeply and i knew in my heart i would do anything for this girl but then came the first sign of bad news. Her Sister (My Ex lived with her sister) was moving about 2 hours away and that left us devastated as a high school student with no car i didn't see a way of meeting her but i knew i could make it happen and sure enough i was able to find a bus route to get to her. So from then on out everyday after school (Yes everyday) i would travel 2 hours there and back just to see her and it was worth it. Her smile meant the world to me and seeing it everyday just puts a warm fuzzy feeling in my heart. I truly felt in love with her. As our relationship continued we started to get more sexually involved with each and it was great. We would make out in public all the time & we would have sex where ever possible. Bathroom - Behind a building - anywhere. Being high school students everything just felt carefree and we loved it. Then the night when we actually made love to each other everything felt perfect we even smiled and cuddle right afterwards. We felt as my Ex would say "One with each other". Then came our pregnancy scare. Her period came late between 2-4 weeks (Not sure of exact time frame) but when it did finally arrive she described it as very painful and bloody. This led her to believe that she had a miscarriage. I instantly disagreed because we always used a condom (Yes i will admin i have put it in raw for a few seconds & yeah we did lose a condom inside her once) Still i didn't really see how it was possible. This led her to be very hostile at me because i didn't know how to handle the situation. She even said that i refused to take responsibility for our dead child. That made me feel bad. I tried suggesting we go to the doctor and see for sure but she insisted that because i was her boyfriend i should believe her and support her. So from here on out we would have fights every few weeks related to this pregnancy scare. Moving forward our relationship was good and we enjoyed all the times we spend together. Yeah we would have our fights every now and then but nothing that couldn't be fixed. The longer we dated the more i realized that her family life wasn't that great. Her parents kicked her out of Florida to live with her sister in California and her sister constantly judged her. When we first started dating her sister told me that my Ex wasn't worth it and that she is trouble and a lair. Still i didn't care i saw the good in her. It was about a few months into the relationship when her family decided to pull this horrible stunt. She was sleeping over at my house and her phone was turn off so no one was able to reach her. Her family decided to tell her that her father died. That was incredibly wicked and cruel. In my anger i tried to get my uncle to find her a place to stay (but my efforts where futile). Still she was hurting so much i couldn't bare to see her like that. What kind of family would break down there own daughter like that? That's when i made the promise that i would always be there for her and i would never abandon her. After a few months have passed since her Family's stunt. (We are in college now) i decided that i wanted her to live with me. Her family life was still hectic and i could tell she didn't want to stay there. So i pleaded with my mom to let her move in with us and sure enough it happened. Life felt great waking up and going to sleep with the girl of your dreams was amazing but the reality of the real world started setting in and she did not like it. For example my mom rents an apartment and the land lord lived below us. The landlord is always complaining about something so i tried my best to keep the peace by turning off lights or reducing water or telling my Mom and Ex to be careful not to waste anything. Both my Mom and my Ex told me that i was letting her drive me crazy but all i wanted to do was make sure we all had a place to stay. Later it became clear that me and my Ex weren't to good with money management skills and i wanted to improve that. So i created organizers with the intention of building a better budget but all it did was make her even more mad at me. She even felt as though i didn't think she was capable of doing anything on her own. Which wasn't true i simply wanted to make sure things where done correctly and i would call her out if he made a mistake. (Yeah she hated that). Still we where able to get along and at the end of the day we still loved each other deeply. Later down the road i wanted to do something special for my Ex (Her family was Jehovah witness) so she wasn't allowed to celebrate holidays. So what better way to give her a new life than to give her the best Christmas ever and me and my mom did just that. We truly felt like a happy family together. I couldn't see anything going wrong but then a few months later we started to have issues related to bills again. To help her with the debt she put herself in i decided to sell my stuff (The gifts she has given me) in order to help pay off her bills. I knew i was doing the right thing because i didn't want her to be in trouble. Still i held anger to that because if she just followed my plan it would not have happened in the first place. I felt we had our whole life together for her to pay me back but still me having to sell my stuff for her would come up in arguments from time to time. Don't get me wrong she had a job when i didn't and i know she did her best to buy groceries and take care of me when i was sick so i know she wasn't using me. I guess you could say i wanted to sell my stuff so i wouldn't feel completely useless in everything. Nearing the end of our relationship my mom went through surgery and was left house ridden. This put a strain on me and my Ex because we where no longer able to have sex as often as we would like. Also i felt we have grown up a lot since our high school days so i wasn't into overly making out in public anymore. That doesn't mean i was no longer attracted to her or that i didn't love her. I just felt weird Overly making out in public like i am an adult doing this i didn't feel like our relationship would be taken seriously. but she didn't see it like that. She felt that i didn't love her anymore and that i am just a complete different person. This is not the case. It's hard to want to have Sex all the time with a yelling landlord and your mom in the room right next door not to mention worrying about bills. It was just a hard time. Due to all the stress going on at the time me and my mom ended up getting into an argument which resulted in me and my Ex getting kicked out. So from there we decided that she should move to her parents in Florida for about 3 months and i will save money and move down and we could be together again. So that was the plan. After she moved to Florida i instantly missed her and with all the other stressful stuff in my life i feel into a depression. She quickly realized this and would be mad at me for not wanting to talk all the time and we would end up getting into fights a lot more often. She told me to see a doctor about my depression but i declined. I felt that once i moved with her in Florida things would get better (This was just a hard time). but our fights would get worse and worse and both of would start to say hurtful stuff towards each other. She then started saying that she was going to break up if i didn't fix my attitude (I known her for a long time i felt she was exaggerating) our relationship was hard because of the distant its not like we wouldn't work out once i moved. So we tried working on things and things got better until she asked me to remove my Ex. (Through out the relationship my girlfriend hated my Ex but i insisted that we were only friends. Still my girlfriend did not like her and from time to time we would argue about this). I decided that i wanted to start a new life with my girlfriend in Florida and if she wants my Ex gone fine. So i removed her from my Facebook and out of my life. Considering my Girlfriend and my Ex where my only two friends i felt angry that i had to remove her from my life. So that led to me not wanting to talk much again for a few days. This lead her to breaking up with me. She said that i emotionally abandoned her and that she understands that i wasn't trying to hurt her but she still got hurt. Out of everything we have been through (A lot more stuff that i can put in this story) i am angry that she would think that i abandoned her. So now miles away she is ignoring my calls and text. She has all my clothes and she left me with a $600 credit card bill that she ran up...... When we talked on the phone she told me to accept responsibility that i made her leave. Since the break up i decided to see a doctor to work on my depression and slowly i have been feeling better. I tried to tell her that it takes two to maintain a relationship and i understand my depression and communication skills were getting in the way of that but we can work and still be happy together. She replied saying that just because i am ready to work on things doesn't mean she is and that i should accept that i made her leave and take responsibility for it.
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