jinandjuice Posted October 14, 2013 Posted October 14, 2013 So I have been really talking to this girl for about a month now at college. I took her on a couple of dates and what not and showed her a good time. Took her out on a couple of dates but things didn't really escalade until last couple of weeks when we went out for drinks and then went back to her place and made out. After we cuddled for a bit and then hung out the next night to watch a movie. Didn't lead to sex but just cuddled. Told her I liked her but she told me she felt insecure and it takes her a long time to be really into guys because shes been hurt before. We text almost everyday. After she tells me this we go out the next weekend and the same thing happens. We make out at my place and sleep. Later that day she apologizes for leaving a wrong impression. She tells me that she doesn't know if she likes me or not. It is a uncertain feeling. Usually when her friends tell her that they like her she instantly tells them that it wouldn't work and that they are just friends. To me she said it was different and says that she could see us together later but not right now. I ask her lets just date and get to know one another but she says wants to take baby steps. She mentions we have great chemistry, she trusts me and she does have a feeling inside her for me but she isn't sure if she likes me. I asked her if she just saw me as a guy friend from school, like a brother, she says of course not I don't. How do I handle this? Should I give distance from her and see if she comes back? Should I pursue her and get to know her more and try to take her on dates? I am not sure if she is dating anyone else right now because its not like we are exclusive. I think she was talking to one other guy but he is far away.
deathandtaxes Posted October 14, 2013 Posted October 14, 2013 It seems like she is being very upfront and honest with you. Ie the need to take baby steps. Cuz she probably figures if she does have sex with you, it will screw things up. So if you like her and want things to develop, what's the harm in going how things are going?
Author jinandjuice Posted October 14, 2013 Author Posted October 14, 2013 It's just because I know she likes someone else but they aren't going out. She said she doesn't know if she likes me but there are feelings. I don't want to get hurt or waste time? I really like her and just need some advice to get her. Should I just be distant and she if she comes back? Should I even take her out anymore even though Wht she said? I don't care about he sex. More than sex I just would want her affection back
deathandtaxes Posted October 14, 2013 Posted October 14, 2013 You pursue. Or you don't. The worst thing to happen is being rejected. And being rejected sucks. But it's a good learning experience.
Author jinandjuice Posted October 14, 2013 Author Posted October 14, 2013 Did I not get rejected though? Her saying that she doesn't know if she likes me and her dating another guy back from her hometown? She says he has feelings for me but she can't determine what it is. I want to pursue her I really do but I don't to be or seem desperate and turn her off. I really like and she says she wants to take baby steps but does that mean I gotta back off taking her on dates and texing and talking. We used to text all the time and don't know if I should stop that to make her miss me?
deathandtaxes Posted October 14, 2013 Posted October 14, 2013 So I say again - pursue. Or not. And by pursue, ask her out.
Assasda Posted October 14, 2013 Posted October 14, 2013 I feel like I know the scenario. Dude, She likes you. She just doesnt want to place a label on the relationship. Keep taking her out and have fun with her, but DO NOT place a label on it, because she's probably been hurt by LABELs before. Dont drop the "I love you" line too early, and just play it by ear, dont be distant, just stay in the same zone that you're right now, but without labels. Dont ask her on "dates", just hangout with her, if she wants to call it a date, then its fine. Keep on smashing that punani bro
Author jinandjuice Posted October 15, 2013 Author Posted October 15, 2013 She's never had a serious boyfriend and she friendzones a lot of guys but she said that I was different. That I wasn't just a friend from school. I just don't understand if she has feelings how can you not distinguish if you like them? I just don't want to be played by her because she is talk g to another guy but then again we aren't exclusive. But then again she also said she doesn't just kiss her guy friends let alone sleep with and make out . Just so confused and venting right now.
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