whoahman07 Posted October 14, 2013 Posted October 14, 2013 I apologize for the length but a lot of factors go into this My ex gf and I recently broke up...we had been dating for a year and a half now and we started off great (a lot of passion) after a year we moved in with each other and everything was going great (no fights or trust issues). The last 3 months have been another story...we started fighting a lot more and it caused me to start becoming insecure about the relationship. She recently started going to school full time and relied on me to be the man and take care of things which I do have the monetary means to do so I'm just not so good with my money but I decided to say I can take care of her...as time went on became shady with my money and she started to not trust me.. We fought all the time and would sometimes go days with out speaking two words to each other...I decided to sit down with her and hash things out and we ended up mutually breaking up so that she can heal from the pain I have caused and so that I can become a better individual... After the breakup she said that I'm her best friend and she loves me and wants to remain friends and she even said you never know a few months down the road we could be back together....my question is is it possible to be close friends because I'm afraid that if I don't remain close then she won't be able to see the positive changes that I am making in my life but if I stay too close I will always want to be romantic with her How do I handle this situation so that I can eventually get her back??
Woop1337 Posted October 14, 2013 Posted October 14, 2013 Your first mistake is moving in together in such a short amount of time. In my opinion, at least 2 years before you marry and/or move in with someone. Moving in together magnified the things she finds distasteful in you. Which makes sense, because y'all living in an enclosed space together. Anyway most break ups are not mutual, it just appears that way. I'm sure she broke up with you. So my suggestion to you, is to get yourself together. Don't try to get her back, because when it's over, it's over. Women have great memories when it comes to things like these. They wil always remember the stuff you do that turn them off.
deathandtaxes Posted October 14, 2013 Posted October 14, 2013 You really want to get her back just so you can go back to fighting all the time and not speaking to each other for days at a stretch? 1
tlegend Posted October 14, 2013 Posted October 14, 2013 You really want to get her back just so you can go back to fighting all the time and not speaking to each other for days at a stretch? Can I quote this twice so I can stress the importance of it, as noone can really say it any better? 1
deathandtaxes Posted October 14, 2013 Posted October 14, 2013 Can I quote this twice so I can stress the importance of it, as noone can really say it any better? Indeed!!! OP - don't be the person that wants to get back with an ex just because. You're lonely. I get it. You miss her. I get it. But reread what you wrote. It was fun. Then it wasn't. It's a pattern a lot of relationships follow. Take this time to reflect on yourself. A long period of introspection. And figure out what you really NEED.
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