Floppy Posted October 14, 2013 Posted October 14, 2013 Its been 2 months since my ex left me and I have been in NC since that day. You can search my other thread for my story. We were together for 4+ years and engaged/living together for 3+. I have come a long way in this short time. I have a new apartment and am living alone for the first time in many, many years and it is not near as bad as I had feared. Honeslty I was terrified about being alone. I have been seing a therapist to overcome my issues which I know I have (one of which was scared to be alone). Therapy is going well as I feel more in control of my life. I also joined the gym and go 6 days a week after work and have changed my diet for the better. Ive lost 20lbs and am wearing clothes I hadnt worn in many years. I even broke out the shirt I bought for the first date I had with my ex which I had out grown more than 3 years ago. I still have many moments where I think of her and still miss her to this day. I have no clue if she is happily seeing someone else or is wallowing in her own self pitty missing me (I assume she isnt missing me since she hasnt tried to contact me). No contact really is for the best. I usually get on these forms everyday and read everyones stories on how they struggle to go full NC. It is very hard but it must be done. I'll admit when I see stories of people who cant seem to help but shoot themselves in the foot by breaking NC, I feel so much better about myself that I have not once in these 2 months called, text, begged, creid or pleaded to be taken back. I feel their pain as I have been in their shoes in past break-ups and made those mistakes but I have learned from them as Im sure the ones doing it now will learn as well. Commiting to NC is the best thing I could have done for myself. 7
thompkevin Posted October 14, 2013 Posted October 14, 2013 Congratulations. You are on the right track and I wish you the best for your future.
hms_ocean Posted October 14, 2013 Posted October 14, 2013 I broke the no contact rule but in my situation I had to because there was something I just had to explain to her, otherwise I would look really strange and she would've had an even worst view of me. It depends really on the person I think. Now she knows the truth about me (couldn't tell her because I was so scared to), if she is in a relationship and it screws up there is a better chance she may come back, not very likely though. I really think it depends on the situation. Everybody who says they held to no contact and it worked, could probably equally say the no contact thing didn't work either. I suppose if you want real closure just completely forget about it and really do the NC.
send_me_flowers Posted October 16, 2013 Posted October 16, 2013 ive done 10 weeks NC like you not begged cried or pleaded to be heard he made his choice leave him to go and and live. i feel alot better in myself also im coming through this and its getting less and less to think of him well done us :bunny::bunny:
StyleOnEm Posted October 17, 2013 Posted October 17, 2013 I'm proud of you, man. It's been 3 months of NC for me and I already have dates lined up. I used to date A LOT before my ex... was very picky.. yet she took my breath away. I am now on that same path again, as if she (us) never happened. Good luck w/ everything and stay strong.
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