Ex boyfriend depressed, homeless

[youaremysunshine]

My ex and had a pretty tumultuous relationshi. It seemed constantly on the brink of imploding.I loved him passionately though, and I know he loved me. We hitch hiked together to New York where we stayed in a house he was roofing. I left him in NY because I missed my family and I was sick of fighting and crying over him.

 

Well a month later he called me from LA. He hitch hiked all the way there and is living in the streets of skid row. He's a mess. He's depressed and using drugs, speedy ones not like acid or whatever that we would do together. He hardly sleeps. He pan handled for days to get the money to buy a calling card to ring me from this pay phone.

 

I tried to convince him to come back to Toronto, where I live or Montreal where his mother lives but he says he doesn't want to be safe or comfortable, that life is about struggle. That he must always move forward and never backwards.

 

He did say he loved me, incredible for someone who has extreme difficulty sharing his feelings. At 21 I was his first girlfriend.

 

I may still have contact info for his mother, should I let her know her sons in trouble?

[Assasda]

WTF. No. Even though you cared about him let him stay on the street. Speak nothing of this:laugh:

[Chris715]

WTF. No. Even though you cared about him let him stay on the street. Speak nothing of this:laugh:

 

Wow, some people... Yes I would contact his mother and let her know and deal with it, and then you can plan to stay out of it from there. You obviously still care about him to some degree so think how you would feel if something happened to him living on the street, abusing drugs, etc.

 

Do not use this as an excuse to let him back into your life. Pass this on to someone that should be responsible for him, and move on

[youaremysunshine]

Thank you.

 

Unfortunately he doesn't have a great relationship with his mother, who neglected him. I'm fact I feel like his his struggles forming close bonds with anyone stems from this. Obviously though, she would be troubled by his current situatation.

 

I don't think he's trying to get back in my life, I think he's just trying to make me guilty. I'm already seeing someone else, who is nothing like him.

[reddragon588]

You need to let someone know.. Skid Row in LA is incredibly dangerous place to be and there is a very good chance he could contract a serious illness like HIV from intravenous drug use like speed there.. He may not have a good relationship with his mother but she can step up to the plate now. While he is no longer your responsibility, it would be wrong to not let someone know whose responsibility he is. Then remove yourself from the situation.

[youaremysunshine]

Also... I still love him and I'm afraid of what's going to happen if he comes back to Toronto