all_cats_rgray Posted October 14, 2013 Posted October 14, 2013 Okay, so it's been a long. long. time since i was dumped. Go ahead judge me. I don't know why it feel's like yesterday.. its been a year. They say when you create new memories time move's slower. Well I guess when you don't create new memories time stands still. What should I do? Iv dated, exercised, my whole life exists on studying. I still feel odd. I feel like I should have meet someone already, and it will have all have been a distant memory. Can I have some original advise. None of this; work out, work on yourself. Something a alittle more deep. Oh and the wow, its been a year posts aren't particularity usefully too. I feel so suck... I f.u.c.k.i.n.g hate the past. But since i haven't found anyone interesting in the present, im stuck in the past. ..date..is this the advice i should get. Anyone relate?
e.clipse Posted October 14, 2013 Posted October 14, 2013 sure. it's been a few of years since the relationship that brought me to LS ended. i remember that, when i came here, all of my feelings were so raw, that i could not understand the concept of "time." all i knew was the present and the past--only two dimensions, nothing more. i felt no one understood. no one knew. no one could relate. for i loved like no one ever had before. today, years later, i can tell you that is not true. others have loved, just as strongly as you, and they are correct when they say that "time will heal all wounds." safely, today i can say that i no longer feel the hurt that i did in those times. time passes, you know, regardless of your permission or lack thereof. and, with each passing day, the experience--the memory--fades a little more, like your favorite shirt, every time you wash it. you might still have it and might still like it, but it is not the same as it once was. in the years that have passed, i have dated many, and truly loved none of them. i apologize if this is not what you want to hear, but, for me, i have yet to find a love like my first: something so pure and true. however, that, alike all other days past, is a memory: one that i cherish and love, but am no longer in love with. i hope that i will someday love again, but, today, i am in the middle ground. it is a transitional phase, where i no longer love the ghosts of times past, but have yet to experience a true new love. know that, for some of us, it takes longer. however, the time does come. and, you too, will move on. someday, sometime. it is all different, but it will come. 2
Author all_cats_rgray Posted October 14, 2013 Author Posted October 14, 2013 (edited) I really thought it would be easier. I mean people fall in love, all the time, everyday. Are you really over someone, if you still have met, fallen in love again? You truly haven't moved on till you have met someone better? this thought sits in my head. . . I hope it happens soon.. I mean the Ex (dumper) moves on so fast. I guess it's the "love" we had/have for them that is stopping us from falling in love. Or the complete lack of trust. Or desire to open your heart again. Or their really is no one out there. .. A great list of "reasons".. Edited October 14, 2013 by all_cats_rgray
Haydn Posted October 14, 2013 Posted October 14, 2013 Hello allcatsaregey, Great cure song that is. No as good as `show me heaven`. I dont want to agree with you but this is pretty much how i feel. If was looking for advice then this would be it. I feel that there only a few people we meet in life that make our hearts explode. Usually (in my case), they are all wrong for us. I wont bore you with my details. Ive met really nice beautiful women but i just cannot connect. Its not them, its me. You said in a previous thread that the one who dumps us has changed and moved on. We cant do it so easily. Maybe it take someone so special again to take our hearts again. I am so scared to give an inch in a relationship and i know i could be losing something special. I guess it will take time. But how much? Who knows? I hope this was not to depressing? But its how i feel and putting a coat hanger in my mouth at bed time so i wake up with a smile on my face wont help me at the moment. Take care. Haydn I really thought it would be easier. I mean people fall in love, all the time, everyday. Are you really over someone, if you still have met, fallen in love again? You truly haven't moved on till you have met someone better? this thought sits in my head. . . I hope it happens soon.. I mean the Ex (dumper) moves on so fast. I guess it's the "love" we had/have for them that is stopping us from falling in love. Or the complete lack of trust. Or desire to open your heart again. Or their really is no one out there. .. A great list of "reasons"..
Author all_cats_rgray Posted October 14, 2013 Author Posted October 14, 2013 I feel like we must just all still be blind and delusional. I'll give a example to prove this. I have this stunning, smart, funny, girlfriend. I think she is perfect, I think im almost in love with her. To bad im straight She comes to me a say. "I think this is it, i'll never love anyone like I did him" ... this sentience to me is crazy. But to her it is true. To me I KNOW, that she will meet someone amazing and fall in love. BECAUSE she is amazing and men will fall at her feet. I guess if you can't see your worth, you can't see all the possibilities in your wake. IF you don't believe, you will fall into a self-fulling prophecy. When you really think about it. ITS bull****. Its just one person,... how many people do you think their are in the world.. The idea you can only truly connect with one person isn't true. And really if you think about it, the "connection" you had with your ex was a really s.h.i.t.ty one. If your "connection" was so great, why did they dump you. It's not a connection if its only going one way. Ranting, in positive mood. ... 1
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