Jc12345 Posted October 14, 2013 Posted October 14, 2013 Wish there was a way I could make this shorter but here it goes. In the beginning of our relationship I made the mistake of visiting a strip club without telling my girlfriend. I never recieved a lap dance or did anything while I was there. She later found out and gave me a black eye over it. Our relationship reluctantly continued for two years. Over these years I did everything for her. Gave her rides to work bought her gifts and took us out all the time. I was spending close to 300 dollars a week on her. Throughout our relationship she would always seem to be a part of a past flings life through Facebook. I ever caught her talking to him countless times. Time went on and I had thought our love was real and moving forward. One thing I realized is the entire time she never did anything for me. I could never count on her for anything. I always had to pick her up to see her. Even when my car wasn't running I would ride my bike just to see her. Even spent hours at her side in the hospital. All this wasn't enough however for she broke up with me over the strip club two years ago and was already dating the guy I caught her talking to a few weeks later. My question is where did I go wrong?
Author Jc12345 Posted October 14, 2013 Author Posted October 14, 2013 Also caught her sending fully nude pictures to some guy out of state with a tablet I bough her for Christmas! Never admitted to it till this day and would use my visit to the strip club to justify her actions.
Turnandcough Posted October 14, 2013 Posted October 14, 2013 Also caught her sending fully nude pictures to some guy out of state with a tablet I bough her for Christmas! Never admitted to it till this day and would use my visit to the strip club to justify her actions. Alright dude first of all I'm sorry you had to go through this, it's sad that people can be so heartless. My ex also would tell me she would hate it if I went to a strip club, so I never did. First, you had this girl expectin things from you! All these gestures of how much you love her my giving her all your time and money makes you look weak and honestly undesirable. I know you did it out of love and because you genuinely wanted to please her. She took everything you did for granted and completely abused her power over you. Girls wants to chase and they deep down want to have to fight for something they can't have because it keeps them guessing. You gave her everything on a silver platter and when she had it all, she saw this guy as something new she would have to work for. You made yourself way to available and she lost attraction. Don't worry! Happens to most all dumpees. You need to step back and stop questioning what you did, take we off this pedistol you have her on, and look at all the red flags and flaws she has! She used your strip club inccident as a window of opportunity to leave you high and dry. You really want to be with a girl that is gonna send nudes to random dudes and say that it's justified? That is sick, immature, and a spiteful thing to do. Look at it from an outside view. I'm sure you can see how sick that is. It's cheating.... Emotionally and physically. You need to now go hard NO CONTACT!!! I mean throw away everything of hers, block her social media and for god sakes don't torture yourself and look at it. She is no longer your girlfriend and you have to accept that. No matter if you want her back or not. I'm sure with time you will realize how unprepared she is for a relationship. Don't text/call/e-mail her. No matter if her bunny fifi dies, it's her birthday, he wins who wants to be a millionaire. Don't give her that satisfaction. It's time to SACK UP. Be an alpha male and you'll get whatever you want. Set some goals and beat them. Both physical and in your career. Look amazing everywhere you go and smile even when you wanna cry. Fake it till you make it. I'm going through some of the same **** you are. Mine had sex with a guy the say after she broke up with me and told me she loved me. I'm about 4 weeks Nc and I'm honestly happy. I can even see her out flirting with dudes and it doesn't bug me. You know why? It's because I'm all about me and I remembered how much fun being single is. I was surrounded by girls and she couldn't stop looking at me and trying to flirt with more guys to piss me off. I just shrug it off and go to another bar. It sounds like your young and I know she has to be. The moral of this story is take care of yourself from now on and stop giving girls the world on a plate. Make them earn something! Makes them feel accomplished. WALK YOUR PATH IN LIFE, I promise once you have motivation an direction some girl is gonna want to be apart of that because she feels so special she can be apart of this path your headed down! Remember relationship or not, your always number one until you say those vows.
Author Jc12345 Posted October 14, 2013 Author Posted October 14, 2013 Thanks for the reply. It all makes sense now. Heartless people on this earth
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