Author Nvsx7 Posted October 16, 2013 Author Posted October 16, 2013 Uhh. I don't want to put all my business cause I am trying to keep myself from being known, But I have a infection in the body. and My system cannot really fight it. I told her cause I love her. I just seen the guy she is talking to via facebook creeping. And not to ****ing toot my own horn but me compared to him... im a perfect 10. I don't get it. ANYWAYS. I have blood work. If you want to talk and help me out on a more personal level message me some way to contact you. My support system has been great and it takes my mind off of it. (p.s. What the doctor told me is thats the worst that can happen) still possible.. right?
JoJo54321 Posted October 16, 2013 Posted October 16, 2013 Make no contact whatsover. If things dont work out with this guy she might well come back. You have to decide weather to take her back. Girls dont usually leave for sex like a guy does so you have to decide if she is worth it. Of course if things do work out with this guy she will not give you a second thught. Sorry to be so blunt.
Author Nvsx7 Posted October 16, 2013 Author Posted October 16, 2013 Jojo it's fine. I know for a fact it will not work out. NC starts now. Thanks everyone. I will keep everyone posted in three hours time with my blood work results.
Author Nvsx7 Posted October 16, 2013 Author Posted October 16, 2013 I'm home and they said that it is 75/25 right now. I'm on rest and my body is relaxing.
Author Nvsx7 Posted October 27, 2013 Author Posted October 27, 2013 Okay so I posted before but since two weeks have passed I found out a lot. Long story short. My ex and myself broke up and she found another guy. This guy is the exact opposite of me. We dated for two years prior. We were very much in love. I sent her a letter and that was it. According to her friend. She says she needs to see a change in me. She should of got the letter yesterday if not tomorrow. Any advice ?
Gretl Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 I will take a stab at this. Since I have been reading a lot about rebounds lately and having the fear of my ex getting into one (2 year window is probably too late for a rebound, hey?) that the person tends to go for someone exactly the opposite of their ex. When did she start seeing him?
lihp Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 I have almost the same story but my ex didn't leave me for someone else. She told be I needed to change but I don't think she would have waited that long to drop me if it really bothered her. I think she was just looking for reasons to drop me. Ironically I sent her a letter too. I actually changed for myself and became what she told me before leaving me. I met up with her and she saw it, and even told me that I had change yet nothing changed between us. Maybe your ex needs to explore a bit and she might comeback one day. Worst part is you probably will be over her and enjoying life with someone better. But don't put your hopes up, think about yourself and don't contact her you need to get your dignity back. Trust me it took me a month to realize that.
Salvatore85 Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 In a matter of 10 months after 5 years with me she's now in her second relationship. Sure it sucks but it doesn't hurt me like I thought it would so I guess that means I'm moving on. You'll get over this and you'll see that there is light at the end of the tunnel. No more letters, no more contact, just go out and do what makes you happy and eventually something great will come your way.
Harradin Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 Last year, my ex girlfriend cheated on me and ran off with a so called friend of mine when I was away during a weekend. I did the clingy dumpee thing of sending a letter and then a video with our "song" to try get her back, she eventually told me she didn't know what to do so I gave her an ultimatum, choose between trying again with me or choosing the other guy and never hearing from me again. She chose him and told me all this crap about how I was a major part of her life and how important I was to her and tried to stay in my life but I cut her completely out of my life. She's not contacted me even once since that day, nor has she asked friends about me or done anything to try contact me. Its been over a year NC now and I now realise how much better I was without her and that I deserved better. If I could have done anything differently, I wouldn't have bothered sending a letter or trying to get her back. It doesn't gain you anything, you're better off going NC and living your life to its fullest. At the end of the day she did leave you for someone else, would you really take back someone who regarded you as a second choice?
haggard969 Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 let me give you some more advice, feels like you got hit by a car that she was driving right, your just destroyed, think of this, she may of hit you with that car, but aslong as you let her drive the way she wants shes going to eventually crash right into a pull, she will be more hurt than you. what ever you do, dont take anything she says seriously, if she tries to let you down slowly saying shes with him now and crap, just put "lol" and ahaha into the convo, make it seem like you think its a big joke, then leave it at that, NC all the way and then it will leave her confuesed with that big question mark.
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