otownlvr Posted October 13, 2013 Posted October 13, 2013 I never thought I would join a forum like this for help with situations in my own personal life... But here goes. Some background. I meet this beautiful girl at work a few weeks ago.. During training I sat near here and didn't think much of it. From there we all were split into groups on that same day and what do you know... She happens to be in my group in our tiny training room of 15 others. After 3 weeks we get off of training and jump into the real job... This whole time I was being low key with her and flirting here and there... I come to find out she's 21 and also recently single... Her ex bf having been a huge douche to her and ruining her life... Leaving her alone in her apt with the rent and bad memories. So about two weeks ago I chat her over the computers at work (don't worry. This is secured chat and also not saved onto company property). She needed some help with a customer so I helped her out no problem. She seemed impressed and thanked me for it. That same week the same situation happens a few times until Friday comes around. She needed a book for her class and didn't have the cash for it. So I remembered I took the same class as her and offered to give her my book. She said sure and then I tried being slick.. I asked her how I would let her know without her phone number... And well easily enough I got her number. Fast forward past that... We texted only a bit that weekend until we got back to work... We went back to chatting over the computers.. The whole week she was excited about her 22nd birthday coming around and was extremely happy. We talked about relationships and I continued being flirty when I could and letting her know that I have that interest in her... But she would mention I'm too young and she wants a mature man... This attributed to her ex who left her helpless. So now I will tell you about myself... Then get down to the situation. I'm 20 and also a college student. I live with my parents and older brother at home. I would consider myself mature and knowledgeable as well. I always had a hard time with my appearance... I personally put myself down with women because I constantly think I'm not attractive enough... This is with numerous women telling me I have gorgeous eyes and a cute face... The leading contributor to my lack of self esteem is my body... I'm quite skinny. Anyways... So before last monday I stepped up my game with her.. I was being flirty as usual with her and she would sometimes ignore my advances and continue with other convos. We would text more personal things on our phones but... Sometimes she would acknowledge my flirty remarks and then sometimes she wouldn't. But anyways... I offered to take her to work on Tuesday and she accepted even though she was hesitant at first. Tuesday comes around... I pick her up. We talked all the way to work and laughed just as much. I also took her home that day... It was a regular day.. We talked I made her laugh a lot. Etc. I also met her father who thought pretty well of me. Anyways... I took her home that day and she was pretty thankful for it. On Thursday I invited her out to eat because I wouldn't be able to go to the clubs with her on Friday to celebrate her birthday. I went somewhere pretty nice and not cheap and we had a great time. Again... Laughing and talking a lot. I paid the full bill and also took her home. She noticed I was coughing a bit and she gave medicine... Literally she gave me the medicine... She was being flirty at that point but nothing else happened. I met her biker buddy who is married and has kids. He sort of showed up and she sent me a txt saying that I should go so they could talk about his problems. She hugged me and I gave her a kiss on the cheek and then left home. She later texted me asking if I was mad and I told her no. It was cool. I made it aware to her that I'm a pretty chill guy. We spoke a bit more that night before I started being a bit flirty.. She then told me "you have bad timing." I sort of took that like "if only you had come later when I was ready". Anyways... Friday comes around and everyone is happy for her bday.. Etc. She kept asking if I would be able to go even though she knew I couldn't. So she has a great time that night.. She had a few guy friends with her that she made clear she didn't find attractive. They were mainly there to keep an eye on her and have a good time. She kept txting me while she was in the club and when she got out... I was a bit worried because she had mentioned her friend was wasted and was also driving. So I tried my best to give her the space anyone needs and also be vigilant. Eventually she let's me know she's safe at her apt with her friends... We kept texting until 5 in the morning yesterday. I woke up 4 he's later and went to get my haircut. I let her know that I hope she had a good time and also tossed in some flirting for good measure. She text me an hour later while I'm getting my haircut then immediately calls me letting me know she really needs me that she was in pain and had drank too much. So I do what any guy who likes a girl would... I rush my damn haircut and get her some gator Ade and water... Then rush to her apt and she let's me in. I took care of her and brought her back to soberness. She was extremely thankful that I came and helped her and told me she could only think of me when she felt she was in pain. So I hung out with her all day yesterday... We went and bought things for her and ate together... And she was also pretty playful with my new haircut, running her hand over my head. We were watching a comedy whole she was doing her hw and every time she laughed she would look over to me and we would lock eyes. Nothing much came from that but later that night we picked up her friends. Two gay guys and a straight chick. We went to McDonalds so she could use the WiFi there to upload her hw. While we were there I started flirting with her and teased again... She then mentioned I had bad timing again... And now this is where I am... What do guys think she wants? Does she seem interested in me? I really think she does... And I also think she finds me attractive... But do you recommend I give this some time? Please help! I really like this girl... She is extremely gorgeous and I can't help myself when I'm around her.. Even if I try my best. What do you think? 1
Author otownlvr Posted October 13, 2013 Author Posted October 13, 2013 PS. This isn't a spam post. Lol
hogwild Posted October 13, 2013 Posted October 13, 2013 She clearly likes you. The most important thing here is that she is still healing emotionally from her previous relationship. So take the emotional part slowly and let her feel that it's at her own pace. Over time she'll feel closer and closer to you and begin to trust you. She needs reassurance that you're not like her ex AND that you're not like most young dudes who only want sex and video games and having sex like it's a video game in that you jump after "winning" to proclaim, "You got fragged, b!tch!" Show her your maturity, leadership and fun side. You've already been doing this! Keep going what you're doing and DFIU! (Don't F It Up!) 1
Author otownlvr Posted October 13, 2013 Author Posted October 13, 2013 Thanks for the advice bud. Definitely gave me an unbiased perspective and the truth. Thankfully my gaming years are long gone. Way too focused on getting money together for life expenses. Hilarious humor too! On another note. I'm usually a quick to act kind of person... Would you recommend time on this? I was thinking of taking her out to the movies this Friday. That's hopefully enough time in between. Like I said... I act quick sometimes lmao.
Author otownlvr Posted October 14, 2013 Author Posted October 14, 2013 So I was also talking to her today... She was busy most of the day doing work for college... I let her know to just hit me up when she was done and she did. She let me know she was pretty distracted. Anyways... I let her know what I was doing then asked where she was.. Just casually. She just sent me question marks and asked why. I instantly knew it didn't come off the right way and asked if it sounded wrong of me to ask... To which she replied yes then quickly changed the subject. Any ideas?
deathandtaxes Posted October 14, 2013 Posted October 14, 2013 Lol she ****ed the biker buddy! She's already said you're too young and she wants an established mature man. You appear to have been friendzoned. And you don't even make any moves or try to ask her out? Passivity is not attractive.
Author otownlvr Posted October 14, 2013 Author Posted October 14, 2013 Lol she ****ed the biker buddy! She's already said you're too young and she wants an established mature man. You appear to have been friendzoned. And you don't even make any moves or try to ask her out? Passivity is not attractive. Lol thats not true. But good try. Anyways.. I have taken her out on dates and I do make moves on her buddy. So I don't know what you are getting at? Maybe my post was too long for you to read... Perhaps read it again? Thanks.
deathandtaxes Posted October 14, 2013 Posted October 14, 2013 Lol thats not true. But good try. Anyways.. I have taken her out on dates and I do make moves on her buddy. So I don't know what you are getting at? Maybe my post was too long for you to read... Perhaps read it again? Thanks. I did read it. The first thought that popped into my mind about the married biker dude and asking you to leave? Holy rude! Anyways...the repeated bad timing comments. She's stringing you along with platitudes.
Author otownlvr Posted October 14, 2013 Author Posted October 14, 2013 I considered it about personal space since it was about his own issues. That's why the guy didn't bother me any. I do see your point with her continuously mentioning the bad timing... But that isn't an indication of a dead end. There's more than one conclusion to that comment... And that's what I am trying to figure out for certain. What I'm more concerned about now is not screwing anything up.
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