Wildthing_5704 Posted December 6, 2004 Posted December 6, 2004 [font=times new roman][/font][color=black][/color] My boyfriend and i had dated for four motnths. Ever thing was going good.Then all of a sudden he quit coming around as much. I knew their was something wrong. I didnt ask. We had gotten into an argument and broken up. We didnt talk for a week. After that we were like bestfrineds but he would always come on to me and send me mixed cignals. The other night he came up here and told me he missed me and loved me. Then that same week he went to a party and got drunk. He started dating a girl he DOESNT even know. So one of my guy friends and i went to the store where he works. When we had gotten out in the car. Here comes my Ex he was like how are you doing?..I was like fine. He was like is this your new boyfriend i was like yes. I could tell his face expressions changed..He was like Well you all make a cute couple you should stick with him. REALLY smart. Then walked off. Which we did that to make him mad i think it worked. But What i dont understand is why did he say the other night he misses me and still loves me and then just go and do that. I know he still cares. I have tried ever thing to get him back. I dont know what to do. I am tired of playing these games with him. We know we both still care. And we do stuff to make each other jealous all the time. I am just really tired of it and if something is going to happen it needs to now!!! What should i do??... Please someone help me!!..I love him so much and something is telling me to move on but dont let go. He just seems like he is the one for me?..Really confused HELP ME ASAP!!!
HokeyReligions Posted December 6, 2004 Posted December 6, 2004 Originally posted by Wildthing_5704 I am tired of playing these games with him. We know we both still care. And we do stuff to make each other jealous all the time. I am just really tired of it and if something is going to happen it needs to now!!! Then stop playing games. Call him. Tell him that you want to discuss the permanent ending of your relationship like adults and that you no longer want to play games. Make a firm date to get together and talk about the reasons you think you should be together; the reasons you think you should be apart; and if you do want to try again - make an outline of what each of you expect from the relationship and what you would desire from the relationship. Then talk about ways to accomplish those things. There has to be give and take and if you find a few issues that you will not budge from, then seriously consider ending the relationship permanently and accepting that last discussion as all the closure you need to move forward with your life. You will each leave the relationship with a better understanding of yourself and what you want in a relationship and what to look for in others.
alphamale Posted December 6, 2004 Posted December 6, 2004 leave him alone for about 4 to 6 weeks, meaning no contact at all. Then see what happens. If he really cares he will contact you but you should under no circumstance contact him first. this will be a test.
Author Wildthing_5704 Posted December 7, 2004 Author Posted December 7, 2004 But if i dont talk to him wont he think i dont give a **** and move on?...That's what ive herd.. I mean if he speeks to me while i am out should i just keep on walking on stop to say hi but thats it ...Not let him know that i care anymore? I am just really confused on what to do. I dont want to make the wrong move!!..
scoping Posted December 7, 2004 Posted December 7, 2004 hmm i agree with hokey, not so much with alphamale.. i think what alphamale is a good indication is some situations, but not everyone works like that. Personally i think you should just stop playing games and seriously talk to this guy about, let him know what you think, and find out what he is thinking, so that you can both decide if its something that you want to try again... this way, i just think you're safer for the future, so you won't have any regrets, and wonder... what if i had just talked to him abt it and tried?
Author Wildthing_5704 Posted December 8, 2004 Author Posted December 8, 2004 WEll it's only been 3 days sience i have talked to him. And i talked to his sister. Well were best friends so we talk all the time. I know he was putting her up to it. But she asked me if me and my NEW Boyfriend has done it. I was like yeah 3 times. Which really i dont have a new boyfriend and i havent done any body else. Well i was on icq and his best friend started talking to me and said caleb said that i cheated on him and i didnt...I told him i didnt that i hated caleb and never wanted to see him again.Which i know is a lie i do still love him. But he has to be talking about me to other people. Another thing i fount out today is . He has the condom from the first time we did it and the last time we have ever done anything. Does that seem Strange To Ne one??..I dont know why would he keep them. Then he told his sister that he was drunk when he asked this other girl out hes with now. He said he really doesnt like her all that much but he is trying to get over me. So i dont know what to think .. I am Just so Fusteraited and confused i dont know what to do .. HELP!!!!!
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