Hopelessromantic25 Posted October 13, 2013 Posted October 13, 2013 If an A ends, whether mutually or badly, do you break NC to greet and respond to birthday wishes and what not? Do you completely ignore at all costs? In my case, my 2 1/2 year A ended in a fight and it's been over a week since that fight and we haven't spoken since. My 30th birthday is coming up soon and I really don't know how to approach this being that it's still pretty fresh.
Author Hopelessromantic25 Posted October 13, 2013 Author Posted October 13, 2013 Lisalee yes, well what should I do if she does contact me on my birthday to wish me well? I'm think it's NC for a reason, she made her decision right. 1
Goodbye Posted October 13, 2013 Posted October 13, 2013 My exMM would use "dates" as an excuse to break NC. I let it happen the first time...I thought it was special. The second time, I realized NOTHING had changed. Nothing. If he calls you on your 30th you could respond with "You still with your wife?" and when he says yes...hang up. Just a thought. 2
whichwayisup Posted October 13, 2013 Posted October 13, 2013 Lisalee yes, well what should I do if she does contact me on my birthday to wish me well? I'm think it's NC for a reason, she made her decision right. Let it go to voice mail and ignore. You two are in NC mode. Keep it that way.
hippetyhop Posted October 13, 2013 Posted October 13, 2013 Absolutely not. Why open a new can of worms? If the xMP texts/contacts you first, I wouldn't respond.
MissBee Posted October 13, 2013 Posted October 13, 2013 If an A ends, whether mutually or badly, do you break NC to greet and respond to birthday wishes and what not? Do you completely ignore at all costs? In my case, my 2 1/2 year A ended in a fight and it's been over a week since that fight and we haven't spoken since. My 30th birthday is coming up soon and I really don't know how to approach this being that it's still pretty fresh. NC is NC unless it is an actual life or death situation where you absolutely have no choice but to speak to this person, but if you're in NC, no need to send birthday wishes neither is there a need to respond. Cross the bridge when you get there. He may not send you birthday wishes, which will be easier for you. If he does, I know it will be hard but I'd just ignore it.
Daisy2013 Posted October 13, 2013 Posted October 13, 2013 No way would I break NC to send bday wishes or any other thought. What's the point other than for them to know you are thinking about them, then if there is no reply, or a generic reply, you really feel bad. NC is for yourself, and your healing. 1
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