Mcscooter Posted October 13, 2013 Posted October 13, 2013 I come to find out that my ex of 3 years left me for another guy. Not just any other guy though. Mr. Perfect to her. She finally found a guy that's tall, can sing and dance. She was also into those type of things. She finally left me when she found someone better. I wasn't good enough for her. I really wasn't. It sucks that I didn't have those talents to keep her, but I should find someone who actually appreciates me for who I am. The thing is I'm not ready though. It hurts to know I've been replaced. It hurts that she lied to me, when she said she left me because she needed space. It's been 3 months and I'm now finding out. I hope the best for them because I know she wishes the best for me. I know she feels bad leaving me, but if she didn't she probably would of cheated. Hell I secretly wish the worst for them, but that's out of anger. Just a little vent. Seeking for words of motivation. I keep my head up, but I want to keep it higher. 3
Bubberfly Posted October 13, 2013 Posted October 13, 2013 Hey. He might be Mr. Perfect to her, but you sir are Mr. Perfect to someone else. Just keep that in mind. 7
barky2 Posted October 13, 2013 Posted October 13, 2013 Mr perfect now. But it's just like a bandaid in water It comes off. Get it? Barky 3
h0000 Posted October 13, 2013 Posted October 13, 2013 how did you find out? you sure she didn't meet him after the breakup?
StalwartMind Posted October 13, 2013 Posted October 13, 2013 Despite the breakup you seem like a levelheaded guy even if you are hurting right now and without a doubt have some anger in you. Some people are simple just not meant to be together, no matter how good you might of had it together. Obviously she was looking for someone whom had some abilities, that you don't, in no way does that make him better than you. Like Bubberfly said, you'll be Mr. perfect for someone else, without having to try and just being yourself, someone will appreciate you for all the qualities that you do have. As a last thing I know this probably isn't the most amazing thing to hear when one is hurting, but honestly, would you really want to be with someone whom can't value and appreciate you for whom you are. I'm not one to judge what other people prefer in their life but, if he can sing and dance (better than you) those are some incredibly insignificant things to me and seems rather silly to leave someone for but I guess people have left someone for even less. Hope you'll find some courage through all of this and for whatever it's worth you deserve someone to treat you better whom will appreciate all that you are. 3
thegrouch Posted October 13, 2013 Posted October 13, 2013 Damn dude. I am in pretty much the exact same situation. I found out after the breakup 2 months ago, that she left me for another guy. The guy seems to be a better match as well. Hurts like hell.
Never Again Posted October 13, 2013 Posted October 13, 2013 If you were left because you weren't tall enough and you couldn't sing/dance, then you were left by someone who was extremely shallow. That has nothing to do with you fitting together, and everything to do with not being able to accept a great person who may have different interests. Those abilities do not make a "Mr Perfect"...they make for a "Mr Perfect Illusion". However, I'm glad you can wish her well. I also would like good things for my ex, who dropped me because I didn't make her tingle when I came near anymore - she said she loved me, was attracted to me and happy with me...but needed that "spark" to be bright and shiny all the time. Found a guy who was taller and dresses up like her favorite television characters for fun. I still think she's shallow, though. 2
Waz Posted October 13, 2013 Posted October 13, 2013 Lawl OP. Yes, the perfect relationship for her, depends on the height, a good voice and dancing skills. Those are very crucial factors for a successful relationship in a Sims game maybe. Oh boy, i'm already seeing her getting hit by the reality Don't be disappointed OP, you will see that good things happen time after time. ANYTHING. Also think this: I suppose you are not tall, you can't sing good and you don't know how to dance. Yet though you had a relationship with this girl for three years. 3 years. 1096 days. 26,297 hours Three years with a girl who wanted her boyfriend to be tall, good singer and dancer and you weren't anything of these, yet you challenged these "obstacles" and you won epicly. Seems to me that you have better traits than these OP 1
theothersully Posted October 13, 2013 Posted October 13, 2013 Wow, with an attitude like that, you'll be happily involved with a new girl in no time, once you are over this one (you will get through). I am very impressed. I would not take it as well as you are taking it. I think the post right above mine has it right. You love or loved her, but she has a defect. A very shallow personality looking for some kind of a "checklist" and just keeping you around until she finds that checklist. Very lame of her. You will do much better...
LDRdumped Posted October 13, 2013 Posted October 13, 2013 (edited) Im in the same situation as the OP....found out yesterday that she broke it off with me because she was seeing this other guy...we're on LDR. she wants to marry this guy but he had a kid with some other woman. A woman he chose not to get married to....what assurance will she have that this guy will follow through with their marriage plans? hurts like hell really but its quite a relief that i found out the real reason for the break up...a month after she broke up with me...why couldn't she tell me the first time? ..i found out because her family told me.... .i could have accepted the fact and would have moved on faster...but she kept me hanging on to false hope that we would reconcile by telling me that there was no other guy involved and that she just feels that her feeling for me have waned....and she needs time to sort herself out....BS. i am trying to be levelheaded as the OP but i admit sometimes the thought of being cheated on gets to me.... i am just praying that she made the right decision and not regret it later when issues regarding the woman he had a child with surfaces or gets into their own family life.. but honestly i still entertain the thought of accepting her back if things don't work out between them..as he might just be a rebound...her family is convincing her to go back home and not deal with this guy..... am i being fair to myself or im just hanging on to false hope? im seething with anger right now. Edited October 13, 2013 by LDRdumped mispelled "woman" wrote women instead
Stealth3 Posted October 13, 2013 Posted October 13, 2013 Like I said in that thread that I made a few days ago....most of the time, its always because of another guy...... They always give you bs reasons and **** like that but most of the time its because they want some other guy, they want to upgrade.... They can tell you the real reason so they feed you bs. 2
Stealth3 Posted October 13, 2013 Posted October 13, 2013 Im in the same situation as the OP....found out yesterday that she broke it off with me because she was seeing this other guy...we're on LDR. she wants to marry this guy but he had a kid with some other woman. A woman he chose not to get married to....what assurance will she have that this guy will follow through with their marriage plans? hurts like hell really but its quite a relief that i found out the real reason for the break up...a month after she broke up with me...why couldn't she tell me the first time? ..i found out because her family told me.... .i could have accepted the fact and would have moved on faster...but she kept me hanging on to false hope that we would reconcile by telling me that there was no other guy involved and that she just feels that her feeling for me have waned....and she needs time to sort herself out....BS. i am trying to be levelheaded as the OP but i admit sometimes the thought of being cheated on gets to me.... i am just praying that she made the right decision and not regret it later when issues regarding the woman he had a child with surfaces or gets into their own family life.. but honestly i still entertain the thought of accepting her back if things don't work out between them..as he might just be a rebound...her family is convincing her to go back home and not deal with this guy..... am i being fair to myself or im just hanging on to false hope? im seething with anger right now. holy **** dude....my story is so similar. I found out about a month after she dumped me too, and the guy she dumped me for also has a kid with someone else. And she would never tell me the real reason when she dumped me...she just made up bs.
LDRdumped Posted October 13, 2013 Posted October 13, 2013 sorry to hear that stealth3. but it hurts right in the middle of your hollow chest where your heart was ripped out, rolled in salt and dumped in vat filled with alcohol... what hurts even more is that i have found out from other people rather than from her... i guess dumpers underestimate the dumpees ability in handlng the truth...but i guess its them that can not handle the truth....some of you may not agree with that but thats my two cents... wouldn't we as dumpees be saved frm being in limbo when we are told outright what the truth is? i think it would make us heal faster by even a wee bit...but its better than nothing ..when we are told what the real score is we only have either hope for reconciliation or no hope at all(time to move on).... no false hopes or anything in between.... ..it saves us from sleepless nights thnking what we have done wrong when we could have used up all those time by thinking what we could do better in our next relationship.
Fufu Posted October 13, 2013 Posted October 13, 2013 You will be Mr Perfect for some one else and equally you will find her as Mrs Perfect 1
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