Tryin Hard 2 Make It Posted October 12, 2013 Posted October 12, 2013 Well, the signs were there and i finally acted. I broke up with my "amazing" girlfriend. I moved out and told her i fell out of love. I felt she was almost perfect but then i look back on my past relationships and i remember having girls that went out of their way to make me happy and i realize there are more "perfect" fish in the sea. I know i have my faults but in the end i dont want to continue our relationship. I met her shortly after my divorce 2 years ago and we moved in together a year ago this month. The lease is up and i am out of there. We both have a child from our previous marriages and i hope our kids take this break up ok. I love the fact that i can vent here on Loveshack and this site helped me TREMENDOUSLY when i went through my divorce. feeling sad and empty....
coolheadal Posted October 13, 2013 Posted October 13, 2013 What happen between you two though? Why did you fell out of love with her? You both have kids and these kids will be effected if they're close to you both while you two had some sort of relationship. No turning back for you I see your intent is to pull out of there right now. So something happen for you to get out this relationship now.
h0000 Posted October 13, 2013 Posted October 13, 2013 "having girls that went out of their way to make me happy and i realize there are more "perfect" fish in the sea" I do not understand this part. how do they relate?
Author Tryin Hard 2 Make It Posted October 14, 2013 Author Posted October 14, 2013 What happen between you two though? Why did you fell out of love with her? You both have kids and these kids will be effected if they're close to you both while you two had some sort of relationship. No turning back for you I see your intent is to pull out of there right now. So something happen for you to get out this relationship now. When we first began seeing each other we agreed not to be ugly or use profanities when arguing. After a few drinks in her and she would turn into a ugly person who i did not know lived in her body. This ugly person would emerge if she was angry and or jealous. She crossed that line and in turn did not stop using profanities and/or name calling in future arguments. In addition to that, she would accuse friends and family of saying or doing things when in reality were not true and i was there to witness. She would lash out at friends of ours in public places and yell profanities at them that is was their fault i was leaving her. Friends agree with me that she has borderline Schizophrenia because she imagines things being said or done when in reality nothing happens. I moved in with my ex a year ago and 50 miles away from my child (who lives with her mother) and my office. In addition to the above i want to be closer to my child and my work and not be a part of someone who turns into another person when the drinking and the arguments begin. Yes, i know i have faults too like not being a good communicator but in the end i am doing what is best for my daughter and myself. Excuse me if my story seems all over the place, i am typing as i remember in my head...
Author Tryin Hard 2 Make It Posted October 14, 2013 Author Posted October 14, 2013 "having girls that went out of their way to make me happy and i realize there are more "perfect" fish in the sea" I do not understand this part. how do they relate? In my mind, when she was sober she was perfect. She did everything for me and made it a point to make me happy. BUT, i do recall having girlfriends in the past who did the same thing. i was just typing out loud and venting...
hms_ocean Posted October 14, 2013 Posted October 14, 2013 You sound like my ex girlfriend. Unable to see past your own faults. Have you ever considered that? I know what I did wrong at the end of my relationship. I apparently talked to loud around her and had a strong debate with my family whilst she was there (even though that's what my family always does and it's just natural) but according to her they were lovely people even though that was the first time she had ever met them, when I for one behind the scenes know they are not that lovely people. The truth is about my girlfriend is that although I never told her these things, she laughed so loudly sometimes it went straight through my ears, she basically on the night when I was with my family pretty much bagged one of my hobbies and so many other things I could mention which I wont on here for her sake. Think about that for a while. Keep telling yourself those things. I agree if drinking was causing those things then that is a huge problem and you're right but then do you do things sometimes that are wrong when you do stuff?
Author Tryin Hard 2 Make It Posted October 14, 2013 Author Posted October 14, 2013 You sound like my ex girlfriend. Unable to see past your own faults. Have you ever considered that? I know what I did wrong at the end of my relationship. I apparently talked to loud around her and had a strong debate with my family whilst she was there (even though that's what my family always does and it's just natural) but according to her they were lovely people even though that was the first time she had ever met them, when I for one behind the scenes know they are not that lovely people. The truth is about my girlfriend is that although I never told her these things, she laughed so loudly sometimes it went straight through my ears, she basically on the night when I was with my family pretty much bagged one of my hobbies and so many other things I could mention which I wont on here for her sake. Think about that for a while. Keep telling yourself those things. I agree if drinking was causing those things then that is a huge problem and you're right but then do you do things sometimes that are wrong when you do stuff? Hmm, you lost me.
loversquarrel Posted October 15, 2013 Posted October 15, 2013 Been there, she sounds like she can become an abusive person. I was in a relationship with a woman who I thought was perfect for me. She was amazing when things were good, but damn! when things got bad it was hell. She was good with my kids, that was never an issue, but I had to think of how it was effecting me, which in the long run would have effected my kids.
Author Tryin Hard 2 Make It Posted October 15, 2013 Author Posted October 15, 2013 Been there, she sounds like she can become an abusive person. I was in a relationship with a woman who I thought was perfect for me. She was amazing when things were good, but damn! when things got bad it was hell. She was good with my kids, that was never an issue, but I had to think of how it was effecting me, which in the long run would have effected my kids. Yes. My Ex was AMAZING to my child and hers. No one treated our kids better than she!!!! Today She asked me to get my stuff from the house to help her move forward with her life. She has been texting and calling all night and somewhat histerical because i told her i have movers meeting me there in the morning. She says she has a confession to tell me. She told me he has an addiction and wants to get help.
Author Tryin Hard 2 Make It Posted October 25, 2013 Author Posted October 25, 2013 Update, she says her addiction was taking adderall and vyvanse (-sp) and abusing those pills for a year now and that coupled with drinking made her say crazy things to me. This was said to me a week and a half ago. A day ago she contacted me and began to talk to me about what was going on in her life and how she was becoming a better person.. She said she has been exercising and keeping busy with work. I asked her if she had done anything to help herself concerning her addiction and she said she quit taking pills but hasnt stopped drinking because thats just who she is. She said she enjoys a beer and will not stop that since when she and i met we were both drinking beers at the concert. Now...... she has been hiding this pill addiction for over a year and now i am suppose to believe she just quit? I am not buying it. i originally told her after 6 months of being clean we could see about dating/seeing each other again. she emailed asking if we could go to counseling together and i said no.
aybc123 Posted October 25, 2013 Posted October 25, 2013 You sound like my ex girlfriend. Unable to see past your own faults. Have you ever considered that? I know what I did wrong at the end of my relationship. I apparently talked to loud around her and had a strong debate with my family whilst she was there (even though that's what my family always does and it's just natural) but according to her they were lovely people even though that was the first time she had ever met them, when I for one behind the scenes know they are not that lovely people. The truth is about my girlfriend is that although I never told her these things, she laughed so loudly sometimes it went straight through my ears, she basically on the night when I was with my family pretty much bagged one of my hobbies and so many other things I could mention which I wont on here for her sake. Think about that for a while. Keep telling yourself those things. I agree if drinking was causing those things then that is a huge problem and you're right but then do you do things sometimes that are wrong when you do stuff? This made zero sense what so ever, did you post in the wrong thread?
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