Author TheBladeRunner Posted October 15, 2013 Author Posted October 15, 2013 The bottom line is that some people believe being in an online environment means they no longer have to act like human beings. This isn't unique to dating. Just look at some of the nasty posts you find on these boards. Most of the people who spout hateful crap online would never dare do it in real life for fear of the repercussions. I know, this is true. On the internet we can say we are anything and anybody and yes, people will behave like jerks sometimes. Agreed about what people would do IRL, it probably wouldn't happen.
StanMusial Posted October 15, 2013 Posted October 15, 2013 This thread is depressing, dang. I tried OLD and didn't have any success. This is in contrast to decent success in my life in general as far as dating goes. My advice would be trying to meet girls using some other method(s). I get the impression in OLD that you have to have certain statistics and a certain look in your photos or you're not going anywhere. Even if you can get a date, you have to assume with immediate access to thousands upon thousands of other guys it would be hard to hold her attention.
FitChick Posted October 16, 2013 Posted October 16, 2013 I'm taking a break myself. Just heard from a man who has been separated for ten years, his wife has a longtime boyfriend, their kids are in their twenties. He told me I have a fear of commitment for not dating a separated man! To top it off, he is a life coach. The holidays are coming up and that is always a slow time for OLD. I plan to spoil and pamper myself. Instead of spending money for online dating, I will do online shopping! 1
It's Just Me Posted October 16, 2013 Posted October 16, 2013 I will only date single moms as well because I am a single dad with 50% custody. Mistake. I have no kids, am in my late 40s, and had no issues with dating a man with kids and custody arrangements. And, because I have no kids, scheduling time is much simpler with only one custody arrangement to work around. My BF has two boys and it's been great. You sound like a cool cat. Reset your criteria, and have another go. We non-breeders have a lot to offer a man. 1
MalachiX Posted October 16, 2013 Posted October 16, 2013 This thread is depressing, dang. Then let me offer something positive. Even if many of us havn't found a lasting connection through OLD, I'm willing to be that it's helped us in ways we may not realize. We had the experience of trying over and over again to make a connection with someone. We made a choice about what was important to us and took a chance over and over again trying to get it. Yeah it sucks if it didn't work out but I think the experience alone can prove useful. You said that you've recently had more luck in your personal life. It may well be that all the challenges of OLD made you less concerned about rejection, gave you more experience in dating so you felt more confident, or just got you used to the idea of going after what you wanted. This may have helped your real-life dating life. Of course, i don't know you or your history so this is all conjecture. As frustrated as I've got at points, I do think I've learned a lot of things I'm grateful for through OLD. One of them is that I'd like to apply the same gusto to my friendships that I did with OLD. Yes I got wrapped up in it and wasn't as sociable as I would have liked to have been but I realized through OLD that I'm willing to take risks and put myself out there and I no longer have to be so guarded whether it comes to romance or friendships. That's not a bad lesson to learn. I also learned that it's OK to take a break sometimes. I'm really enjoying not dating right now. I don't think of myself as a loser if I don't have something to do on a Saturday night because I realize that sometimes it's OK for me to stay in and watch Netflix rather than running around with someone I barely know from OLD. That's not to say I want to be alone forever but it means that I'm more OK with waiting for a real connection that is worth my time. In conclusion, yeah OLD can suck. But a lot of things about life can suck. The important thing is finding something positive about them and I think I've found a lot of positive things from OLD even if I didn't find someone to fall in love with.
Recommended Posts