lloreti Posted December 6, 2004 Posted December 6, 2004 I'm a 21 year old girl who hasn't really had a boyfriend before, I like this guy who's 35 and I talk more to his friend, actually he knows that one of the girls at my work likes his friend , so I was thinking of telling him it's me who likes his friend. But I really don't know what to do.
neptoon Posted December 6, 2004 Posted December 6, 2004 I know you're both consenting adults but I think you might want to proceed with caution with a 35 y.o. guy....just because the difference in age means you may be at different stages in life, facing a different set of challenges, different friends, different goals in life, etc. etc. etc. It causes you to think very differently as individuals. Why I say that is that this game is good when you're in your late teens or early 20's. You might be walking into this thinking it doesn't make a difference in how you meet the guy but it does affect whether or not this will be a long-term relationship. If he doesn't know who likes him by now but is willing to take any one from a group of women -- he might be at a stage in life where he was recently hurt and just looking for anyone to go out with without knowing anything about them...which means that you may get hurt in the end.
SoleMate Posted December 6, 2004 Posted December 6, 2004 Hunnhhh? You're 21, but you're acting like 14. If you were sufficiently mature, I would advise you not to "tell" anybody anything, but rather, to start giving your attention to the man who has caught your eye and see where it can go. However, if you're still in the "getting your friends to tell your crush-object about your feelings" stage, you better wait a few more years. Adult women have more confidence than this.
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