raychel Posted December 6, 2004 Posted December 6, 2004 Alright here goes: My story is less complex than most on this website but I feel like If I see other's points of views and maybe be given some advice I'd feel alot better about the situation. I met this guy about 4 months ago and he broke up with his g/f of 2 1/2 years so he could date me, and they lived together. We started dating about 3 months ago and they still lived together and he told me it was due to him not being financially stable enough to support hiself and that she helped alot and they were just "friends." Be being as ignorant as I am fell for it. But a few weeks ago she moved all her stuff out and I felt alot better about our situation. I left my phone at his house after I stayed the night, so i decided to swing by there on my lunch break, and her car was there... So i decided to stop and call him first instead of just showing up like i should have. I watched her leave from down the road and so i stepped outside and she came back in like 3 seconds and stopped to talk to me. I bucked up enough nerves to tell her how it was and everything and she seemed like she had no idea that we were even together!! She told me they were engaged and ect! I was hurt. I left right after that and had my friend go get my phone so i didnt even see or talk to him. This happened on Tuesday and Saturday night i took a few shots of courage and i called him.. It didnt go well. He told me that he had nothing to say to me and that he was too busy to talk to me. I asked him why he was mad at me and he told me b/c he wanted to tell her hiself and i shouldve acted more like a gorwn up and told her to ask him. Which makes no sense b/c i am pretty sure he'd lie straight through his teeth. I really care about this guy! What should I do? I was thinking about leaving the stuff he gave me and the pictures i took of us and leaving them on his porch... Any help or words would be greatly appreciated!
moon Posted December 6, 2004 Posted December 6, 2004 What should you do? Nothing. Do nothing at all. Let this guy deal with his own life. You dated for a few months. Take it at that. I really wouldn't delve into anything with this guy. He was obviously lying to his girlfriend and you. You know all this BEFORE you start any sort of real relationship with him. Some people sit in relationships for years (me included) before they realize that their boyfriend is capable of this type of deception. So now you know. He's already lied and cheated. Does this sound appealing to you? If it does then grab ahold of some self help books and therapy. Don't attach yourself to this guy. Even if he was really single right now (which he obviously isn't) would you want to enter into a relationship with a guy who'd cheat on his past girlfriend on his way to you. See what happens here is you write the ending to your relationship before it begins (things you learn as you age). He'd probably end up leaving you (mid relationship) for somebody else, too. These are usually well tuned patterns in people's lives. Get yourself out of the pattern of trying to interfere in other people's relationships. No disrespect here. But what you are saying is that you were rooting this guy on to end his other relationship for you and then you had the nerve to confront his (probably shocked and innocent) girlfriend and unload this all on her....for what? So you could get her man? That's not right. That is not right. I am sure deep down you can understand that. You were probably played by this guy. I am sure you were. But PLEASE look at this situation for what it is. Sorry for your hurt. I am sure it hurts. But just think! Now you are free to go find somebody who will want to be in a relationship with you. It's hard to see that as a payoff now. But I am sure it will once you meet that available and good man to actually start a good relationship with. Good luck. I've been hurt and in love before too and it sucks to feel like somebody led you astray, but I'd really let this one go!!! Good luck.
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