Hopelessromantic25 Posted October 12, 2013 Posted October 12, 2013 As the OM/OW, what are real expectations after your experience? Considered that you were involved for over 2 1/2 years and you and your AP had one last fight which ended things in that fashion. You're upset because for one, it ended that way, I mean there's never really a good way to end it right? Two, your AP who's already involved with something she considered a "good thing at home" blames you (OM/OW) for how unhappy she is that she no longer feels confident in things she does personally and professionally and admits how tired she is from bumping heads (arguments), I feel she's saying those things so she won't feel guilty. In my defense, we argued so much because it wasn't the best situation. We were dealt a crappy hand and we did the best we could. Even through all the fighting and misunderstandings, we really had something and there was love on both ends. but now it's over, I can understand that and I love her enough to let her go. I mean if thats what she wants, hey at least I gave it try. I just wanna know what your take is on any expectations and explanations on why we want them back even if we know it's not in the cards for us? Are we doomed after these choices? Thank you for your feedback
RickFox Posted October 12, 2013 Posted October 12, 2013 affairs are not like typical relationships. we want what we can't have and rejection makes it worse. She blames you because it makes it easier for her to deal with and if you get so mad at her that you hate her it eases her mind and makes it all easier to deal with. you'll be fine just let her go. problem is there's a large chance she will reach out to you and you'll respond and be back at square one
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