TheMoonBug Posted October 12, 2013 Posted October 12, 2013 Hey everyone, I have a rather random question that has been boggling for a good day or two. First off, I've been NC for about two months with my ex and I am doing rather well with it all. As resilient as I try to be, questions hold me back. If you want my story, here: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/coping/428864-he-good-boyfriend My question is this, and I really want a male to help me with this(you know, to get into the male psyche haha). After the break up, I quickly rounded up the birthday presents I finally did get(please, read the story lol) and I put them in bags and gave all of his gifts to my mother to 'look after.' I also deleted all his texts, pictures, etc. But, I've caught wind that my ex still wears the shirts I got him and everything. Why hasn't he boxed all of my stuff up and do what I'm doing? On my side, I am getting over him. Whenever I dream of him, I shrug it off in the morning and I carry on during my day. I still hurt, but I plan to get over him as quickly as I can, and hearing other people's answers to my questions really help me. Thank you everyone
melell Posted October 12, 2013 Posted October 12, 2013 He doesn't need to get rid off things because they don't cause any emotional response in him. Usually, because he decided to leave, those things that would cause pain for the dumpee don't cause pain for the dumper. If reminders caused a lot of pain for them they wouldn't have left, or they would be trying to reconcile. A possibility anyway.
gothicrose Posted October 12, 2013 Posted October 12, 2013 I'm female and by no means an expert on men, but my children's father had loads of clothes that exes had given him in the past and he still wore them, because he said they were "just clothes". My most recent ex still has photos of him and the ex before me on his Facebook profile, the birthday card and soppy poem she wrote still hung on his noticeboard (when I brought it u he said he had forgotten it was there) ... I think in general guys can desperate material belongings from the emotions surrounding them a lot easier than girls can. 1
emi Posted October 12, 2013 Posted October 12, 2013 Because he doesnt remember of you when he wear it and he likes the shirt
Mr Scorpio Posted October 12, 2013 Posted October 12, 2013 Because he is a dead-beat, do-nothing, waste-away, bottom-feeding, video-game addict who probably can't afford to buy even a five-pack of plain t-shirts and it is simply easier to wear the stuff that you sent him. Hell, to him they might even be trophies ("look what this online girl sent me"). My question is how did you catch wind of this? Why did you catch wind of this? Stop torturing yourself over this guy. Stop it! If you don't stop it, you could be doing it for a long time! Believe me! I know! Stop it!
Haydn Posted October 12, 2013 Posted October 12, 2013 My ex made get rid of all the clothes a previous girlfriend had bought me. I work for a fashion magazine and worked with my previous girlfriend. My ex was livid if i showed up wearing anything she had given me. For me i guess i really didn`t think it was such a big deal. But i would understand items like earrings and pendents and keep sakes. But my ex was very jealous of everything and everyone around me. Even the tattoo of my daughters name was a problem.
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