all_cats_rgray Posted October 12, 2013 Posted October 12, 2013 That my ex loses his hair, his relationship with his rebound crashes and burns. That's all... If that's all that happens I will be so happy.I'v thought of worst.. but iv landed on some realistic and not overly harsh outcomes.. I know, I know. happiness come's from inner peace. The best revenge is success. But, really... What about you?
Salvatore85 Posted October 12, 2013 Posted October 12, 2013 lmao I wish nothing for my ex, not the best or the worst. I only wish for things for myself or people I love, who appreciate me. If I had to wish for anything it would be to never see her or be bothered with anything related to her ever again. 1
JDPT Posted October 12, 2013 Posted October 12, 2013 I couldn't help but chuckle...:)I recall wishing my ex the worst in this world and beyond. Luckily those thoughts have subsided with a lot of work. And as the saying goes "hate is like drinking poison and expecting your enemy to die." We often indulge and internalize all detrimental components that hate and anger provides us with and temporarily sooth our current mental state. I work on not wishing anyone not only my ex and ill will and eradicate an environment filled with animosity which I've for a long time managed to coexist with. I'm tired and don't wish to subscribe to it any longer. Anger is a perfectly normal stage, don't be so hard on yourself. Continue to work on getting rid of the anger and hate you have towards this stranger, free yourself from your ex and start living again. 1
Beautiful diamond Posted October 12, 2013 Posted October 12, 2013 (edited) Better to wish them well. All that negativity will only make their relationship thrive. But not caring hurts them more than anything. Think of it like this, they went through all the trouble to find someone to use to get over you, pretend, wine and dine, have sex, all to make you jealous, hurt you, and make you want to beg to be their number 2, but you didn't. You foiled all their plans, and they are probable mad as hell. Do you know what a blow to their ego that is? You Mr./Ms. Clingy Pathetic Ex, don't wish them I'll, don't bother them, and damn sure don't contact them. Now they are stuck in a fake relationship, that failed at drawing the craziness out of you. That's the best revenge. the moment when you smile and laugh at them only changing for the worst. Edited October 12, 2013 by Beautiful diamond 1
im_thedude Posted October 12, 2013 Posted October 12, 2013 I know my ex did nothing to purposefully hurt me. But with some of her disrespectful habits during our relationship, the way she chose to break up, and some of her actions (including entering a rebound really quickly), I do have a lot of anger toward her. She's not an awful person but what she did was awful. I don't want to be angry at her, or wish any ill will on her though. At the end of the day if she is happy that's great. It is about time I start working toward the same on my end. It would be nice to get some sort of apology though... 1
Author all_cats_rgray Posted October 12, 2013 Author Posted October 12, 2013 I know my ex did nothing to purposefully hurt me. But with some of her disrespectful habits during our relationship, the way she chose to break up, and some of her actions (including entering a rebound really quickly), I do have a lot of anger toward her. She's not an awful person but what she did was awful. I don't want to be angry at her, or wish any ill will on her though. At the end of the day if she is happy that's great. It is about time I start working toward the same on my end. It would be nice to get some sort of apology though... I sometimes know, think, believe, understand.. That my ex didn't do anything purposefully to hurt me. BUT as I type that I call complete bull****. He must be a complete idiot to think that the disrespect he showed through his actions didn't hurt me. Thus, I come to the conclusion that he did hurt me on purpose. I know one day I will find "peace". BUT, I also think their are things that some people will never not be angry about. In which I'm completely understand. And I don't understand why I should be at "peace" with this. I'm very happy hoping the worse for him. I will never understand how he could treat me like the way he treated me. Thus, I will never stop hating him. Really, it just gets stronger as time goes by. To me it feels like the anger give's me strength. It's not a poison, its a delicious concoction of drive and understanding. It removes the rose tinted glasses, and revels the ******* I was dating. Oh on the outside i'm indifferent. I'm socially a polite pleasant woman. I don't understand why people are so scared of anger. It's strong, it gets you places, and it reflects a light of truth.
Anethen Posted October 12, 2013 Posted October 12, 2013 I know my ex did nothing to purposefully hurt me. But with some of her disrespectful habits during our relationship, the way she chose to break up, and some of her actions (including entering a rebound really quickly), I do have a lot of anger toward her. She's not an awful person but what she did was awful. I don't want to be angry at her, or wish any ill will on her though. At the end of the day if she is happy that's great. It is about time I start working toward the same on my end. It would be nice to get some sort of apology though... I'm in the same boat as you. I know he didn't do this to hurt me and I know what we had was real and that we were madly in love and deeply cared for each other. He just had a change of heart, and he's doing what he thinks is best for him, so I respect that. But not gonna lie, pretty upset that he chose to ignore me for a few days instead of coming straight to me when he didn't feel right anymore. He didn't change his facebook relationship status for a week after the BU, so it gave me false hope for a while. And 3 weeks after the BU, he started hanging out with another girl. So thinking about those things makes me wanna be mad at him for being selfish, but I just can't.
Never Again Posted October 12, 2013 Posted October 12, 2013 I'm in the same boat as you. I know he didn't do this to hurt me and I know what we had was real and that we were madly in love and deeply cared for each other. He just had a change of heart, and he's doing what he thinks is best for him, so I respect that. I suppose I can join this party. My ex and I also had something real - and I was her first healthy relationship to boot. She flipped from wanting to live with me to dumping me in 2 months. The excitement just faded away - when she didn't feel the butterflies around me anymore...when she didn't miss me horribly when we were apart for a week, she called it off. It confused and killed me, after all, I had stopped feeling the butterflies around her awhile before the breakup, but that didn't mean I had stopped loving her...just that our love had matured past the "puppy love" stage. While I think what she felt was normal (I was stable and reliable...she KNEW I'd always be there for her and would't just disappear. Why would she get anxious and miss me when she knew I'd stick around?!), I realized I couldn't change her mind and had to accept her decision as being for the best, even if it tore my heart out.
Anethen Posted October 12, 2013 Posted October 12, 2013 I realized I couldn't change her mind and had to accept her decision as being for the best, even if it tore my heart out. It's so crazy how many people are going through the same pains as me. Getting your heartbroken from someone when you least expect it is the worst feeling in the world. We were supposed to have a future together, but suddenly he wasn't sure if I was what he wanted anymore, and it just breaks my heart. I was with him for all but my first semester of college, and now going through senior year without him is the hardest thing. I feel empty inside. Can't wait for the day that I start feeling better and stop picturing my lost future with him.
Haydn Posted October 17, 2013 Posted October 17, 2013 This is not, this is not, a song This is a shield, this is a charm, with your name on By this beat, by this verse, I'm protected From your heat, and your curse, is reflected If anybody hurts me If anybody hurts me Here's a mirror with your name on Singing we're gonna miss you when you're gone Here's a mirror with your name on Singing we're gonna miss you when you're gone Your green eyes, poison pen, serpent's tongue Will return to the source that they came from Revenge is the wine Forgiveness is fine Forgiveness divine Revenge is more human Here's a mirror with your name on Singing we're gonna miss you when you're gone Here's a mirror with your name on Singing we're gonna miss you when you're gone No words, all's been said and done No more words, all's been said and done Here's a mirror with your name on Singing we're gonna miss you when you're gone Here's a mirror with your name on Singing we're gonna miss you when you're gone Here's a mirror with your name on Singing we're gonna miss you when you're gone I sometimes know, think, believe, understand.. That my ex didn't do anything purposefully to hurt me. BUT as I type that I call complete bull****. He must be a complete idiot to think that the disrespect he showed through his actions didn't hurt me. Thus, I come to the conclusion that he did hurt me on purpose. I know one day I will find "peace". BUT, I also think their are things that some people will never not be angry about. In which I'm completely understand. And I don't understand why I should be at "peace" with this. I'm very happy hoping the worse for him. I will never understand how he could treat me like the way he treated me. Thus, I will never stop hating him. Really, it just gets stronger as time goes by. To me it feels like the anger give's me strength. It's not a poison, its a delicious concoction of drive and understanding. It removes the rose tinted glasses, and revels the ******* I was dating. Oh on the outside i'm indifferent. I'm socially a polite pleasant woman. I don't understand why people are so scared of anger. It's strong, it gets you places, and it reflects a light of truth.
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