My ex of 3 years dumped me and rebounded 9 days later, will she regret it?

[socklessmonkey]

I feel pretty bad. A few weeks ago my girlfriend of 3 years decided to break up after being in college for 2 weeks. She told me it was cause I wasn't exercising, or being healthy, i wasn't frugal enough, I wasn't like her dad? (wtf) and i dunno some other minor crap that I could fix easily. She told me she would stay single until at least the end of the semester and told me she wouldn't talk to me for 30 days still telling me I love you. Well after that I decided I wouldn't give up without a fight! I signed up with a personal trainer, got a nutritionist, joined a badminton association my roommate is part of, and started doing capoeira all to win her back and show her i could change. WELL I had this hope for sometime until my friend told me she posted a picture on fb with her and another guy awfully close to each other. She blocked me when she said she needed 30 days so I had no idea about this so he told me who and I looked him up and saw his profile picture was of him and my girlfriend in business suits one arm around each other. I knew I had to contact her early and tell her all the **** I had been doing. I eventually got her to video chat with me on google and I told her everything while she just listened awkwardly, not even respecting me enough to go into another private room, at least she put headphones on. After I told her everything she told me she wouldn't get back with me and I asked and she told me she was seeing that douche and has kissed him (probably more but she wouldn't tell me). All this apparently after 9 days after breaking up with me. I don't know what to make of it, literally the day of the breakup 3 hours earlier she was telling me 'I love you' and she showed me a care package she was making me with both our faces drawn on it with love letters attached! She was even sending me nude pictures before she broke up that day... I truly loved her, and did so much for her always being there for her. She called me crying and still saying 'I love you' while breaking up. I'm confused still, I thought the relationship was perfect other than apparently I got to comfortable and let myself go a bit, I've since lost 20 pounds. People say it's just a rebound relationship but what does that mean? Will she regret it and try to get back after she realizes the grass isn't greener? I'm currently on 19 days of no contact after that video chat and I would do anything to talk to her. Also would like to mention that all my best friends were her best friends and after what she did they all won't talk to her and pretty much hate her. Will that impact her at all? :/

[The dot]

I feel pretty bad. A few weeks ago my girlfriend of 3 years decided to break up after being in college for 2 weeks. She told me it was cause I wasn't exercising, or being healthy, i wasn't frugal enough, I wasn't like her dad? (wtf) and i dunno some other minor crap that I could fix easily. She told me she would stay single until at least the end of the semester and told me she wouldn't talk to me for 30 days still telling me I love you. Well after that I decided I wouldn't give up without a fight! I signed up with a personal trainer, got a nutritionist, joined a badminton association my roommate is part of, and started doing capoeira all to win her back and show her i could change. WELL I had this hope for sometime until my friend told me she posted a picture on fb with her and another guy awfully close to each other. She blocked me when she said she needed 30 days so I had no idea about this so he told me who and I looked him up and saw his profile picture was of him and my girlfriend in business suits one arm around each other. I knew I had to contact her early and tell her all the **** I had been doing. I eventually got her to video chat with me on google and I told her everything while she just listened awkwardly, not even respecting me enough to go into another private room, at least she put headphones on. After I told her everything she told me she wouldn't get back with me and I asked and she told me she was seeing that douche and has kissed him (probably more but she wouldn't tell me). All this apparently after 9 days after breaking up with me. I don't know what to make of it, literally the day of the breakup 3 hours earlier she was telling me 'I love you' and she showed me a care package she was making me with both our faces drawn on it with love letters attached! She was even sending me nude pictures before she broke up that day... I truly loved her, and did so much for her always being there for her. She called me crying and still saying 'I love you' while breaking up. I'm confused still, I thought the relationship was perfect other than apparently I got to comfortable and let myself go a bit, I've since lost 20 pounds. People say it's just a rebound relationship but what does that mean? Will she regret it and try to get back after she realizes the grass isn't greener? I'm currently on 19 days of no contact after that video chat and I would do anything to talk to her. Also would like to mention that all my best friends were her best friends and after what she did they all won't talk to her and pretty much hate her. Will that impact her at all? :/

 

How old are you? It sounds like you and her are both too immature to be having this type of relationship. If you've lost 20 pounds and got yourself in shape, use that to your advantage. Go out and date some different girls -- as many as possible. Have fun. Let her problems be her problems. You have better things to do.

[socklessmonkey]

I'm 20 and she's 18. We were both very committed to each other being each others first everything. :/ I thought we could make it work despite being young.

 

Still trying to get in better shape, I am trying to get a beach body essentially. After she made my image an issue that dealt a pretty big blow to my own self esteem and I'm trying to fix that first to my own liking before seeing anyone else.

[The dot]

I'm 20 and she's 18. We were both very committed to each other being each others first everything. :/ I thought we could make it work despite being young.

 

Still trying to get in better shape, I am trying to get a beach body essentially. After she made my image an issue that dealt a pretty big blow to my own self esteem and I'm trying to fix that first to my own liking before seeing anyone else.

 

I thought as much when I read through your post. Too young. You shouldn't even be looking for a permanent relationship at that age. Just go out and have fun. There will be plenty of time to be married when you're 25 or 30. Trust me, you'll have a very different view of the world and what you're looking for when you're 30 -- whether your get into a relationship or not.