magicwound2 Posted October 11, 2013 Posted October 11, 2013 Hi All of you! It is my firs posting on here. the story is pretty simple. I dated this girl for 2 years. After a year on July 14th she left me saylng that she isnt in love anymore. After 2.5months of NC she wanted to get back together. She left me again on July 23rd. I did nc since day one. We saw each other at a show our friend was playing at. We didnt talk at all. She drunk texted me after the show saying it was weird to not talk to each other but if it was what i wanted she would agree to it, that was a month ago, i simply responded "we can be courteous at parties. " we have a lot of ppl in common therefore we are invited at the same things often. On sunday I broke nc after another full month. I sent a email stating that i had no expectations just wanted to know how she was doing. especially since the dust has settled after 2.5months and i offered coffee. She responded a nice email saying that she was wondering how i was doing and was thankful i broke the silence. she kind of sold her new life (she has always dpne that) and agreed to coffee. then i realised i wasnt ready for it. but here is the issue she offered a first date, i declined politely, she offered a 2nd time i declined again - i never offered another option- she has offered a 3rd option, i am not going to decline again. She has never acted this way before i have always been the one chasing. I dont know what to think of all this. Any help would be super useful.
Author magicwound2 Posted October 11, 2013 Author Posted October 11, 2013 I should clarify it was july 14th 2012 and july 23rd 2013
Anethen Posted October 11, 2013 Posted October 11, 2013 So to clear things up, you two were dating for 2 years and broke up July 2012, then after 2.5 months, got back together, then broke up again July 2013?
Author magicwound2 Posted October 11, 2013 Author Posted October 11, 2013 I am going to decline again sorry for typos
Author magicwound2 Posted October 11, 2013 Author Posted October 11, 2013 (edited) yes she left me again a year later. the first time we wre broken up for 2.5 months before she came back Edited October 11, 2013 by magicwound2 typos
Anethen Posted October 11, 2013 Posted October 11, 2013 Do you know what she did in the 2.5 months before you got back together last year? Did you figure out the problem(s) and work on fixing things? Maybe the problems from the previous break up were still there and causing her to second guess the relationship the second time around. Maybe she wanted to test the waters, or maybe she really did fall out of love, who knows. Now, there's a reason why she is wanting to come back to you. A rebound relationship could have ended, maybe she got tired of being single and wants to be with someone and you're an easy target, it could be a number of reasons. If you don't want to see her, then don't. Just ignore things and move on. But if you think you might want her back, then go talk to her. Tell her to be truthful and explain herself.
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