How long do you stop crying over your ex

[mrlost]

It has been 2 months and a week since she broke up with me. I have been trying to move on.. keeping myself busy and meeting new people. But when i'm alone in my room I still cry over her. I don't cry everyday, it's just that the feelings are stronger on some days than others. I'm wondering how long does it usually take till you stop crying over your ex.

[chinacat sunflower]

Everyone is different. It has taken me a long time. Almost a year. I don't cry as much, but every now and then my eyes fill up with tears and I get that awful feeling in my throat.

[seekingpeaceinlove]

Everyone's different. I'm 2 months post BU and I cried and howled like a dying wolf on the day of break up and then on and off for 2 weeks after. I've been doing amazingly well since then (with ups and down of course) with only one little outburst a couple of days ago.

 

I have to say, it felt good to let it out the last time I cried.

 

Allow yourself to cry, feel the sadness/pain and then give yourself a time limit. 2 months is just scratching the surface of healing in my opinion. Be proactive about your healing and take it one day at a time.

 

(HUGS.)

[AnnaAnna]

It's been two weeks since we broke up and I haven't cried yet. I get sad and angry at times. I miss him a lot and I wish I could cry. Maybe it would make it a little easier for me but I just can't do it.

Maybe I will soon, I don't know.

[Petunia20]

4 months since BU, 3 months since I spoke to him and I cry about 2-3 times a week depending on the day. Sometimes its a few tears other times its like almost an hour long sobbing.

[seekingpeaceinlove]

What helped me get through some of the overwhelmingly sad moments was to get up and get out of my house. I am obsessed with hiking and biking now and am enjoying nature in all her glory. The feel of sunshine and wind on your face does wonders.

 

Getting together with my friends and family makes me feel loved and supported but being alone while hiking or biking allows me to feel a sense of peace and calm.

 

In doing this, my spirits have been lifted and I feel myself healing every day. Plus I've lost about 15 lbs!

 

Get up and get out, folks.

[JoelBarish]

You guys are lucky that you CAN cry. I don't know what my deal is. I've always cried for past break ups. But this time I only got slightly teary eyed once. Maybe it's a sign I've been in this position too many times...crying would be a nice way to release some pain if I could do it. For me this break up has all been about panic attacks, anxiety and sometimes just being numb. I actually even dreamt last night that I finally had a good cry about everything but otherwise, no such luck.

[im_thedude]

Last week I shotgunned three beers and listened to Cher's "Believe" 20 times on repeat while I bawled my eyes out in the middle of the day.

 

The week before that, I felt in control. Like I was beginning to take my life back. Then I had that moment of weakness, picked myself back up, and am back to feeling pretty decent today.

 

I don't think about when I'm going to be completely over my ex. I just think about the day at hand and how I could make myself happy.

[mrlost]

I just feel weak every time I cry because I Know she doesn't deserve my tears. It also annoys me that I still have all these feelings for her. I want to feel nothing towards her and I don't want everything to remind me of her.

[Anethen]

It's been 6 weeks and I cry almost everyday. I cry when I think about the times we had together and I cry after I see him in class (lab partners). 2.5 years gives you too many memories to forget, it's so damn hard not to think about him (especially when I see him in class for 6 hours a week). Wish I could just feel better so I could move on with my life.

[mrlost]

Exactly Anethen, I've been together with her for 1.5 years and we went on a lot of holidays. So everytime someone mentions that country or city, it reminds me of her and the memories we shared together.