NotThisAgain Posted October 11, 2013 Posted October 11, 2013 How exactly does one deal with this type of dumper?: he came back once before but not for anything length of time.(making it much easier to have false hope) he has said to you he doesn't love you anymore because he isnt attracted to how "weak" & "crazy" you are () he has blocked you on every channel possible: phone & all social networking sites ( you kind of over contacted the first 2 days of the breakup) he has gone completely NC wont respond to anything e.g emails YET since the break up he makes all his profile pictures ones you took of him or are somehow connected to during the heat of the breakup you told him to stop using images you created for him and he makes sure he uses them makes sure you know he has been reading your emails without contacting you by hinting & just when you finally give up because you see him post a picture of a girl you had asked him about prior to the breakup & go NC (& with this you have disabled or gone private on every social network you could) he lets you know he has been cyber stalking the one social network you couldnt disable without losing it for good (one he hadnt used for 6 months until you deleted your other profiles) by liking something you posted months ago...accidentally or not.. (im thinking he accidentally liked it because he unliked it shortly after) at this point i have ceased all contact i was going strict NC no cyberstalking until I saw the notification on my phone that he liked my post which made me go look at his profiles..but im starting again full NC i know i sound clingy but its really hard to watch the same person leave twice...& i know if i never looked at his profiles i wouldnt have seen the pics that are bothering me now but if he hates me so much and he wont speak to me at all why is he doing these things no matter how small to hinder me any insight? other than stop looking at his profiles and contacting?
headinthecloud Posted October 11, 2013 Posted October 11, 2013 It's time to refocus all those thoughts and energy into you. Start being selfish and don't care what he is or isnt doing - only you matter. Train your brain to think of you first. You will find someone who cares about you the way you deserved to be loved but you have to love yourself first. 1
Beautiful diamond Posted October 12, 2013 Posted October 12, 2013 You just are attached to him. Please don't beat yourself up about it. He is trying his best to cut all contact. I think dumpers too get curious, but unless he is calling you nonstop and apologizing daily, he is not interested in reconciliation. I looked at my exes Facebook one time, and what I saw hurt me enough to NEVER do it again. I think post breakup, it is in both parties best interest to forget and cut all connections. Remember every day you don't contact him or look at his social media stuff, you win a little more 1
The dot Posted October 12, 2013 Posted October 12, 2013 How exactly does one deal with this type of dumper? any insight? other than stop looking at his profiles and contacting? You ask for insight, but don't want to hear the best advice? As far as the question of why he's doing it is concerned, who cares? Do you really want anything to do with someone as screwed up as he apparently is? If you're worried about what he's putting up on social networks, how about turning off the computer for a while and going outside? The world is fascinating and full of possibilities, and there are better things to do than social networking.
BC1980 Posted October 12, 2013 Posted October 12, 2013 How exactly does one deal with this type of dumper?: he came back once before but not for anything length of time.(making it much easier to have false hope) he has said to you he doesn't love you anymore because he isnt attracted to how "weak" & "crazy" you are () he has blocked you on every channel possible: phone & all social networking sites ( you kind of over contacted the first 2 days of the breakup) he has gone completely NC wont respond to anything e.g emails YET since the break up he makes all his profile pictures ones you took of him or are somehow connected to during the heat of the breakup you told him to stop using images you created for him and he makes sure he uses them makes sure you know he has been reading your emails without contacting you by hinting & just when you finally give up because you see him post a picture of a girl you had asked him about prior to the breakup & go NC (& with this you have disabled or gone private on every social network you could) he lets you know he has been cyber stalking the one social network you couldnt disable without losing it for good (one he hadnt used for 6 months until you deleted your other profiles) by liking something you posted months ago...accidentally or not.. (im thinking he accidentally liked it because he unliked it shortly after) at this point i have ceased all contact i was going strict NC no cyberstalking until I saw the notification on my phone that he liked my post which made me go look at his profiles..but im starting again full NC i know i sound clingy but its really hard to watch the same person leave twice...& i know if i never looked at his profiles i wouldnt have seen the pics that are bothering me now but if he hates me so much and he wont speak to me at all why is he doing these things no matter how small to hinder me any insight? other than stop looking at his profiles and contacting? How do you deal with this type of dumper? Well, I would say NC and stop analyzing all this stuff he is or isn't doing. It's really not worth it. The bottom line is you are not together, which sounds like a good thing since he has dumped you before. Break the cycle, and erase him from your life for good. It's a bad sign when you are analyzing all of his actions like this because it isn't supposed to be this difficult. 1
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