tbbearcat5 Posted December 5, 2004 Posted December 5, 2004 Hello all, I have quite a situation on my hands, I'll give a little insight into it, and then see if you agree with me on my course of action. Thanks for reading, it is a little wordy. To start off, the girl is 18 and a freshman in college, and I am 21, and a junior. I first met her through friends at a bi-weekly dance party (I am part of the group that puts them on, along with these friends), and after that night I didn't have any contact with her until last Monday night (a period of a few weeks), when I was invited over by one of her friends to her room to play cards and drink a little. Throughout the whole time I was over there, I found myself looking in her direction a lot, and vice versa. I hinted to one of her friends, who happens to be one of my best friends as well, that I liked her. Apparently, the girl felt the same way, and she told my friend that if I would ask her out, she would accept. The next night, we watched a movie together, and cuddled in bed afterwards, where she initiated hand-holding and kissing. I wasn't about to do anything that would make her feel uncomfortable, unless she made the first move. She left around 1:30 that morning due to having an early-morning class. Same thing happens the next night, except I am with her in her room. I left at around 1 AM due to also having an early class, and also due to her bed being a little smaller than mine (I am a big guy) so it was hard to get comfortable at all. The next night is another one of those dance parties, and not many people show up. I ask her to dance, but she is rather shy, as she doesn't like to dance when there aren't a lot of people around. But here's the strange thing - she has initiated almost everything. MSN conversations, handholding, kissing, etc. She even has invited me over to her room often in the past few days, and often messes with me when I am there. We talk 2-3 times a day online. Pretty much the only thing I have initiated at all so far were a few MSN conversations, and I asked her out to a movie this upcoming week, to which she replied that she would have to get back to me on it, which is fine. I guess what I'm trying to say is that it's just strange that the physical contact (cuddling, not sex) just stopped immediately...I understand that she is a freshman in college, I was one once, and that she has to become more comfortable with herself, as well as others. I don't want a relationship right off the bat, just some more opportunities one-on-one with her, to get a better idea of what she's like, which so far, I like. I don't have solid feelings for her, but she did make me feel a way I hadn't felt in a while...a sense of completeness. Now for my question: Should I talk to her about how I feel, or just wait a little bit to see if she confronts me? If she didn't like me, I don't think she would talk to me so often or want to spend time with me much. There's more, but I'll cut it off here. Let me know if you have any comments, insight, or if you need clarification on anything. Thanks again for reading.
Pocky Posted December 10, 2004 Posted December 10, 2004 What's happened since December 5th when you wrote this? Seems it slipped though the process and stayed in the unreplied list. I want to hear the latest news before I comment.
Author tbbearcat5 Posted December 10, 2004 Author Posted December 10, 2004 Wow, I thought this topic was dead in the water. Well, I'll let you know what's been going on in the past few days. Since then, we have been talking back and forth on msn, and we have seen each other around every other day, mainly visiting her room. Sometimes she will talk to me, sometimes I will initiate conversation online. She calls me "hun" often...and seems to care about what goes in my life. For example, I was having a bad day yesterday, and later on in the day she left me a msg while I was away, asking if my day was better. I noticed about three or four days ago she changed her font color on msn to match mine...I don't know if that means anything, but I heard something about that. Here's the meat and potatoes. Well, last night, there was a dance. I am part of the group that puts the dances on, and she came with her roommate. I went up behind her and kicked her softly in the rear, and she turned around and gave me a playful smirk. I danced with her later, after that was over, I thanked her for the dance, and she gave me the very same smirk again. I noticed a friend of ours off the dance floor looking at us and had the biggest grin on her face while we were dancing. As the night went on, she seemed a little more withdrawn, and reserved. I asked her for the last dance, but she turned me down, along with a few others, so I don't think she was upset at me...I was the only guy she danced with the whole night...I don't think I did anything. She left with some friends to go driving around afterwards. I asked another one of her friends, we'll call her A, who is also one of my good friends, what was going on and she said she would tell me later. But she also wanted to talk to my best friend/roommate about it too. My roommate and I both think that she told our mutual friend (A) to talk to him about it...I noticed that I wasn't involved in this discussion. My roommate and I both are decently convinced that my friend (the girl I have a thing for), now we'll call her C, has a thing for me. Possibly. That's what's new...It might be a little confusing...if you need clarification on anything don't hesitate to let me know. Thanks for reading. tb
Author tbbearcat5 Posted December 11, 2004 Author Posted December 11, 2004 Originally posted by Pocky Why don't you ask her out again on a date? I wish it was that simple. LOL A bit of news....my roommate had discussed this with a friend of hers (not mentioned in the earlier posts), and it turns out that she has feelings for two guys. One of them is a guy that this she introduced her to, and the other guy is myself. She (the friend) told my roommate that this girl isn't sure of what she wants to do, but I talked to her today online, and she called me "sweetie". That kinda threw me for a loop. You would think that a girl wouldn't call a guy "sweetie" for no reason. I think it is a good thing that winter break is coming up, so that everyone can kinda get their minds off of this. I feel like I should step back on this, not completely though, b/c she's gotta be confused...
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