mereduke Posted December 5, 2004 Posted December 5, 2004 Hi. I am new here. I've read lots of the posts but I have decided to "tell" my story and see what you guys think. My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years this coming dec. 14th. We are in love and have a great relationship. I am 22 and he is 35. Age difference has never been a problem. He has a wonderful career and has a stable lifestyle. I work two jobs and go to college. Unfortunately I made the huge mistake of "pressuring" him about marriage and commitment for a while until a couple of months ago when he said he doesn't know if he'll ever want to get married again (he was married for 5 yrs. to a woman who cheated on him). I told him that from now on there would be no more "expectations" and "pressure", that my want to be with him outweighed my want for marriage right now. And I haven't mentioned it AT ALL since then. But what i told him is not really true. I just want him to not feel guiltly for not knowing about marriage. He isn't into living together either (but thats ok b/c i don't like the idea of living together before marriage). But now that our 2 yr. anniversary is coming up and christmas and new years, I can't stop thinking about how much I want him to propose. I really have to tell myself when my mind starts wandering that ITS NOT GOING TO HAPPEN!! This is so my heart doesn't completely break in two when these holidays go by and there is no proposal. I am really entertaining the idea of cutting my losses after the holidays and moving on. I am so confused. My questions are pretty much should i do that? Have I given him enough time? And these months since i told him no more pressure, is that enough time for him to feel like he isn't being pressured and can make a decision? Hes a wonderful man but my life is moving forward in all areas other than this one and I don't want to be in a dead end relationship!!! Thanks to all who have taken the time to read. Your responses will be greatly appreciated and helpful.
innocntlisy1981 Posted December 5, 2004 Posted December 5, 2004 i can understand howu feel but u have to understand he is alot older than u so things are diffrent for him!!if u have a great relationship since u say you do what more cfould u want u already have alot more than some people could oever dream off.it will happen when tha time is rite.if its meant to be it will be.stop stressing bout it.just be happy
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