napy666 Posted October 11, 2013 Posted October 11, 2013 I am 26 and I live at home with both parents, only child, no job, no college education or degree, and no driver's license, permit, or car. I see myself being in this same spot by age 30. But to me it seems guys don't want to date me due to these issues of mine. Yeah I know I am 26 and most 20 something's or even teens have these things going for them. BUT of course there are some who don't got nothing or those who are in the same boat. I have tried countless times again and again trying to get these things but can't seen to get anything. I just feel so worthless and really hate myself and hate how no guys want to date me. It makes me wish and want my ex boyfriend back so badly and have that life again, where I didn't have to be single and deal with all of this pain and heartache of dating.
Chris715 Posted October 11, 2013 Posted October 11, 2013 I am 26 and I live at home with both parents, only child, no job, no college education or degree, and no driver's license, permit, or car. I see myself being in this same spot by age 30. But to me it seems guys don't want to date me due to these issues of mine. Yeah I know I am 26 and most 20 something's or even teens have these things going for them. BUT of course there are some who don't got nothing or those who are in the same boat. I have tried countless times again and again trying to get these things but can't seen to get anything. I just feel so worthless and really hate myself and hate how no guys want to date me. It makes me wish and want my ex boyfriend back so badly and have that life again, where I didn't have to be single and deal with all of this pain and heartache of dating. What's stopping you from getting a driver's license and a job? I would start there and plan long term to save up for: a car, your own apartment, and school (if you desire). I've felt equally worthless and hated myself recently after my ex broke up with me. This entire last year actually. There's a point where you have to say "enough is enough", get yourself out of the rut, and start progressing towards something. You're not worthless just because you're struggling right now
Chris715 Posted October 11, 2013 Posted October 11, 2013 And to answer your question as a guy, a college education, living situation, etc. is something I take into consideration with women but it's not the only thing. Honestly if I'm attracted to them or not and if they have a great personality are the two most important things to me, everything else is kinda secondary to those. So even if you're not in the greatest of positions right now, I know there's guys out there that will see you as a catch
MrCastle Posted October 11, 2013 Posted October 11, 2013 Guys tend to be more forgiving when it comes to stuff like that. At least from what I've seen. But as someone asked, what is stopping you from getting one, some, or all of those things? Where are you expecting your life to go? What are you doing with your life now? Is depression playing a role in this? Do you take or need medication? You should be working towards something. A job, going to school, studying to pass your driving test. Something.
Shepp Posted October 11, 2013 Posted October 11, 2013 (edited) I am 26 and I live at home with both parents, only child, no job, no college education or degree, and no driver's license, permit, or car. This wouldn't necessarily stop me dating you, if I liked you. I see myself being in this same spot by age 30 This, I have tried countless times again and again trying to get these things but can't seen to get anything. This I just feel so worthless and really hate myself and and this definitely would. Its not your life situation, its your attitude - sorry if that sounds blunt. but you can change those thing anyone can. so you've tried countless time? okay well stand up and try one more! and keep trying one more till you get your goal. Even if its not getting a degree - start a business. If you don't want to try getting your license become a keen cyclist, compete in races. You only get one life!! I always found it so attractive in my gf that she had such a **** start in life and yet shes had so much fight in her heart. Edited October 11, 2013 by Shepp 1
scorpiogirl Posted October 11, 2013 Posted October 11, 2013 Would you date you? I wouldn't. I've read where people have given you good advice about getting yourself together, but you fail to take it. Why are you even trying to date? If you spent half as much time looking for a job or improving yourself, as you do on this site and dating sites and chatting with men, you'd be so far ahead. Men and women like someone with ambition, someone who has a job, someone who has something to offer, someone who has their own life. 1
devilish innocent Posted October 11, 2013 Posted October 11, 2013 I don't know your entire story or situation, but have you tried therapy? I was stuck with many similar issues when I was at that same age. The only thing that eventually got me over it was going to therapy and getting new suggestions that I would have been too scared to try on my own. Without that, I'm not sure if I wouldn't still be living with my parents now at 36.
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