salonbabe16 Posted December 5, 2004 Posted December 5, 2004 Post: 1 | Quote: My boyfriend and I have been dating for 4 yrs... I started dating him in the 8th grade and i am a senior now in high school about to go to college.... We have been through the worst possilbe situations any one could every go through in one life time.... and we have been strong threw them....We used to have to most amaizing sex and he used to actually want to be around me.... He always lets his friends talk down to me and get inbetween our conversations.... its starting to get annoying.... then the sex starting get cut down.... he says we have no place to do it cause he lives with his friend.... but we never had a place to do it before and we always did it then.... then now everytime i ask him to do something like go to the mall or go to do ne thing besides playing that dumb game that he thinks is going to make money which he has been playing for a half a year now he bitches all the time and then makes big scenes all the time... I dont feel beautiful and my best girl friend is no help cause i think she has a crush on my boyfirend... some one help what do i do????
gridiron Posted December 6, 2004 Posted December 6, 2004 Sorry to hear about your dilemna. First of all, it's ok for your best girl friend to have a crush on him. For her to act on it and flirt with or try to steal him is not OK, and would show that she really is not a good friend. As to what to do with your boyfriend, none of us really knows what is going on inside his head. If you give us more details, we may be able to venture a guess. But the best thing to do is to talk to him and ask him, if you have not already. If he does not tell you what he thinks is wrong or if he does not talk about how you guys can work this out or improve things, then it may be time to move on, as hard as that may sound right now.
Author salonbabe16 Posted December 6, 2004 Author Posted December 6, 2004 yeah i know he really loves me and he try's to show me ya know but he just doesnt get it...... he plays this viedo game all the time and i mean like all the time.... he smoke ciggerets and i ask him to stop and he tell me he is going to stop but then he is like deep down he doesnt want to so he isnt going to... then like he acts all different around ne girl around.... its annoying he says he would never cheat on me... i believe him, but then i always have a doubt cause my dad cheated on my mom all the time... He try's so hard to do the right thing all the time... but he piss's me off... the way he act and deals with things... he makes big scences..... our good friends jj and kate that have been a couple for 3 yrs...have been going through realationship problems and my boyfriend lives with jj... i was spending the night there and they where on the computer all night so around 2 i finally went to the living room to sleep and he was still playing his game... well he finally comes to bed around 3:30 4:00 and jj was still up ... and the whole time he had been writing kate a poem and planning this whole day for them to go and read it romanticly by a waterfall downtown.... NOT my boyfriend..... I dont think he even cares.... i think he is just used to me being there all the time I am a need not a want... and i dont want that... so he thinks everythigs ok..... I dunno i just wish he would care enough to make a whole day out of something like that.... it doesnt even have to cost money... like i tried starting a journal with him and he didnt even do that but he started his own journal to write poems of his own... which really hurts....i dunno.... im hurt right now... i feel like no one cares... i feel like a need not a want... what do i do from here...?????
gridiron Posted December 7, 2004 Posted December 7, 2004 Well, you have tried pressuring him and asking him to do things for you, such as playing the videogame less and quitting smoking. He has to want to change for himself, and it does not sound like he wants to at this point. It sounds like you have been trying hard for a long time now holding on to him. That has not worked and has only made him pull away more. Maybe you need to give him more space and spend less time together for a while. If he really loves you, that will make him want you even more. And that will give you more time by yourself to think whether you really can not live without this guy, especially given that he is not even meeting most of the needs you have right now.
TRUTH GIVER Posted December 7, 2004 Posted December 7, 2004 your only in highschool..this was just your first love expirence, everyone has gone through this..but believe me..when college comes around you will find a guy that is smater better and cuter and treats you way bettet..why settle for less..yes i know yOU love him...but who didnt love there first love as much as you do..but its time to expierence life..YOu wont regret it..i dont think no has..its only highschool, you have college, and after college to meet wonderful guys,..its inedible..even if you do stay with him..or at least try to you will no doubt indeed meet somone better that can offer you more..your in highschool you have millions of guys to meet and to choose from..and why stay with somone who cant make you happy? and makes you complain bout him on this site?..when you meet the guy your supposed to meet you will be to busy being inlove to even go online.soo be paient..and just live life..and dont stress its highschool.
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