citruscrush Posted October 10, 2013 Posted October 10, 2013 This might be pretty long. So I met this guy about two months ago. I recently moved into a new city to pursue my dream job and I met him here. During the first few weeks, we've been teasing each other. I don't distinctly remember how we met or how we became close, all I know is that we've been teasing each other from the start. I think I kind of liked him since then but I didn't do anything about it since he has a girlfriend. After a few weeks, he kinda needed a place to stay for a week so being the closest one to work, I offered my room. He slept on the floor while I was on the bed. We teased each other when we're with friends but when left alone, we're always quiet. Too quiet even. We've had conversations though. About our attitudes and how we would behave around the person we like. We were very similar. We both have trouble expressing ourselves. He tends to be silent around the girl he likes while I tend to shy away from people who have feelings for me, no matter if I like them back or not. A few weeks later, he tells me he's broken up with his girlfriend. I'm the first one to know. He didn't seem sad or anything--he looked relieved even so I couldn't actually comfort him. Instead, we became even closer. He started telling me stories about his family and his ex-girlfriends--his first love and his now ex. I always find him sitting beside me or right across from me. When we're walking a group, he would walk a little slower than the rest because I always tend to walk a few feet behind the group. We would always brush arms and hands and pretend it never happened. One time, I was tickling him and he grabbed my hand, held it close to him for a whole minute and then jerked it away as if he forgot he was holding it. He'd always find a way to touch me--like stretching his arms a little too far that he actually brushes my arm. Or sitting beside me during our ride home, our legs brushing--neither one of us tend to move away. He listens to the music I like and casually posts on Facebook lines of the song we would sing together in his car. Or how he keeps track of my moods. How he'll try to make me laugh whenever I feel pissed or how he'll offer to pay for my things when he's the stingiest person I know. I also notice his stares or how when he cracks a joke, he always looks at me first to see my reaction. He started to sleep on the same bed as me but we keep our distance three feet apart since my bed is kinda huge. But as a group, he would always lie down beside me, so close I could actually hear his heartbeat. As you can see, I was pretty confident that this guy is into me. Then during one of our "nap" sessions, he tells me he's in love with this girl. That he's going crazy for her. And that he wouldn't do anything about it because he's sure this girl wouldn't like him back. And that their situation is a bit too complicated for a relationship to start. All he knows is he's the happiest when alone with her. And even though he got a better job offer somewhere else far away, he couldn't even be bothered to leave her. I wanted to be sure who it was so I kept bugging him about it but he would never directly answer me. Until recently, I found out who and to my surprise, it wasn't me. I know the girl and I've seen them together. He shows no sign of liking her when he's with her but he insists he likes her. Even my friends thought it was me. He still stares at me, looks for my reaction, finds every excuse to touch me, walks slowly beside me, recommends me music that I would like--all the while insisting he likes another girl. And I can't even confront him about it because the last thing I want to do is to create a conflict since we're in a very intense internship program. I'm also scared that things might get awkward between us once I confront him about it. What should I do? :/
kassy Posted October 10, 2013 Posted October 10, 2013 Take a little space from him, nothing too dramatic but just get on with life and don't always be there for him. Go out and do things without him and preferably things where you can meet other guys. If you don't have time for that with the internship then try online dating. Whatever you and your friends think you see in your interaction with him is clearly not correct. He told you straight out he likes someone else. I find it is always best to believe someone when they tell you something you don't want to hear. To be clear. He doesn't like you and want to be with you. He made that very clear. Go and actively find someone else you like who likes you back.
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