lynn1954 Posted October 10, 2013 Posted October 10, 2013 I'm losing the ability to take care of myself emotionally. I want my pain and my problems to go away. I think that I have a mental illness that's causing this. I hate myself, and I hate every bad decision that I've ever made. I think I'm a lazy person, and I don't want to fix my own life, I want someone to fix it for me. I want somebody to love me, but I feel not loveable
Author lynn1954 Posted October 10, 2013 Author Posted October 10, 2013 I feel hopeless, and I feel that the remainder of my life will be terrible. I know I should set a goal and pursue that goal, but I feel paralyzed. I feel that I will fail at any goal I set, so why try?
mammasita Posted October 10, 2013 Posted October 10, 2013 I'm so sorry that you're feeling this way, but nobody has the power to fix you but you. Can you talk to somebody? Family, doctor, therapist? I don't know how you feel about therapy, but IMO it helps immensely if you are open to it and you let it. Good luck to you.
Author lynn1954 Posted October 10, 2013 Author Posted October 10, 2013 I know that I'd never choose to end my life, but I'm having a hard time living my life. Everything seems so pointless and stupid. To me, there's nothing that seems worth doing. Why do I feel this way?
Philosoraptor Posted October 10, 2013 Posted October 10, 2013 Flip the coin. Not trying is sure failure, but you at least give yourself a chance by making an effort. But you never really fail unless you don't try, something can be gained and learned from every experience if you look at them not as black and white goals, but a journey to a destination.
Toddbt12y1 Posted October 10, 2013 Posted October 10, 2013 I am sorry that you are hurting. Lynn. You have to be willing to fix yourself. This process is difficult, and will have it's moments of failure, and success. You have to set reasonable goals with your life, to help you out of this immense pain. Frankly, it does not go away as quickly as we would like. A therapist, as the poster above said, would be an excellent idea. As they would be able to help you set helpful, and reachable goals. You will be able to regain your lost power, and control over your emotions. You have much to offer. Do not give up. Realize that better awaits. But, better often requires more effort. You are more loved than you think. You have a family or friends, right? I am sure they love you, and want better for you. You have to want this for yourself though. Love yourself. See yourself as the person you would like to be, how you know you are. This takes time and certainly requires that you go out, be active and do things with your life; sitting, sulking, will never help you to recover. Seek help too. Also: I care for your wellbeing, and sure that many other people on here do. We wouldn't be posting to you, if not. We want you to get better. Mainly for yourself. Now is the time to be selfish and get well for yourself. Other people can let you down, don't let yourself down. You are a remarkable person.
Toddbt12y1 Posted October 10, 2013 Posted October 10, 2013 You are depressed. Depression is an illness. You need to seek professional help, and possible medication to help you deal with your loss of interest in life. This is in fact depression. You need to seek help for it. As life has much to offer still. 1
love1336x Posted October 10, 2013 Posted October 10, 2013 life is KICK @$$!!! Sure life has it UPS and DOWNS. But the UPS what make life worth living for.... Like i always say.. On less you are dying of some incurable disease (heart break is curable btw) your life should never feel hopeless because there will always be a way.. there just always choices we make to benefit our lives!!! It's normal to feel down too and soak in the dowdiness because when you get back up you will be like "Damn... I was sad because of that..." hahahahah "love life"
love1336x Posted October 10, 2013 Posted October 10, 2013 I think I'm a lazy person, and I don't want to fix my own life, I want someone to fix it for me. I want somebody to love me, but I feel not loveable Well saying negative comments to yourself like that. You will get better... </3 Only person who can fix you, is you. You can't expect somebody to love you, if you don't love yourself.
ScienceGal Posted October 10, 2013 Posted October 10, 2013 Lynn, you should try therapy if you aren't already. I know what it's like to feel hopeless, and I can tell you that it doesn't have to feel that way. Your life can be, and FEEL better. You aren't alone.
maturityassets Posted October 10, 2013 Posted October 10, 2013 I'm sorry to hear you feel that way, but you aren't the only one to feel that way after a break up. I know after my break up I went into a despair/depression and since I'm a heavy reader of philosophy and psychology, mine took in the form of existential crises/nausea/angst and etc. Eventually despair/depression wears off but it does require work to increase your confidence in life. Whether it be through therapy to get at the core why you've become this way or doing activities to better identify your place in this world, such as self exploration or doing things you always wanted to but never got the chance, you will see value in your life and everything else around it. Just note in this time you are susceptible to radical changes of views, like for instance some become more religious in the hope for love or allieviating guilt, but often time that doesn't address your despair. Just be authentic to who you are.. Best of luck and feel better
mtnbiker3000 Posted October 10, 2013 Posted October 10, 2013 Read the book: 'The Power of Now' by Eckhart Tolle. Read it! Today! 1
ScienceGal Posted October 10, 2013 Posted October 10, 2013 Read the book: 'The Power of Now' by Eckhart Tolle. Read it! Today! And "A New Earth" - same author
flight E Posted October 11, 2013 Posted October 11, 2013 Know you r feeling hopeless and it's a good thing because it's a feeling and feelings change. You are not hopeless that feeling will pass. Please don't insult people who through no fault of thier are truly hopeless but still keep there headsup. Stand up man. Look at that scientist dat can't move any part of his body can't even talk. Is he feeling hopeless no. He is rather contributing to the world in grand ways. Get off you butt. Do what you have to. Am not belittling your pain am saying don't be selfish and think of only you. There might be gifts and blessings in that body and might that only you can give the world. Get up soldier and march on
flight E Posted October 11, 2013 Posted October 11, 2013 I mean gifts and blessings inside your body and mind that only you can give the world. So wake up man and keep marching
flight E Posted October 11, 2013 Posted October 11, 2013 Also applies if you are a woman wake up woman. You are a soldier. Keep marching people need you. The world needs you and we are not going to let you be that selfish loser. It's hard but you just have to stand up and be counted amonsgt the winners. We all love you
Reels Posted October 11, 2013 Posted October 11, 2013 I'm losing the ability to take care of myself emotionally. I want my pain and my problems to go away. I think that I have a mental illness that's causing this. I hate myself, and I hate every bad decision that I've ever made. I think I'm a lazy person, and I don't want to fix my own life, I want someone to fix it for me. I want somebody to love me, but I feel not loveable You are not only one with the same feeling, there are thousands of people here who feels the same. In fact, best you can do is, just do everything(productive) right now, then you can have a lot more time to dwell with your memories. I see no other way, honestly.
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