dazed343 Posted December 4, 2004 Posted December 4, 2004 Is it bad to break up with your s/o (gf) before christmas even if you know things will not work in the future. I'd hate to be a jerk and make her feel really bad this holiday.
Groovy Posted December 4, 2004 Posted December 4, 2004 How long have you guys been together? Have you got her a gift? I was in a minor relationship, just 2 months and got dumped this week. All that made me mad was he slept with me and broke up with me by my answering machine, not that it was the holidays. I have a gift under the tree for him that I can't return! Just $20 but it's the thought I was going to give it to him and now I can't even have him pick the phone up if I call to talk about it. Have you felt this way for more than a few weeks? Sometimes I think guys change their mind about how they feel toward a women, especially in the beginning. If you are SURE than break it off with her, just not Christmas week. That would be too crappy. If you break it off with her be sure to have a conversation face to face or on the phone, not e-mail or an answer machine. Maybe let her know you really like her as a person and if you got her a gift give it to her and let her know you hope that you can be friends still. That way it won't feel so hurtful.
Miss_Prolixity Posted December 5, 2004 Posted December 5, 2004 Hi Dazed, IMO, I'd break up now. Why prolong it? If you're sure this is what you truly want, then no matter when you break up - it's going to hurt. Some might think it would be better to wait till after the Holidays, but I can tell you from personal experience that the pain is severe no matter when it happens. Plus, a lot of thought goes into the Holidays, I spent (not just monetary funds) a lot of time and effort preparing his gifts. And two weeks later, he broke up with me. Not to say that the pain would've been any less if he'd done it before Christmas, but the dreaded feeling that occured after the Holidays had an untranquail feeling that lingered.
sweetie7 Posted December 6, 2004 Posted December 6, 2004 I agree to do it now...although it will suck. I think it would hurt more to know my bf was with my throughout the holidays when he was really just waiting to break up with me. Under no circumstances do I want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with me!!
jamwinswim Posted December 6, 2004 Posted December 6, 2004 you could try negotiating the scene. you guys have only been dating for 2 mths, so you could say you would like to cool it off for a few weeks, because you're not too sure if you want to be in a relationship (note, say that, not "to be with her"). This way, you can make sure your decision is correct, and explain it to her that this is a mature decision and you would like her support on this. Cos thats what it is, making a mature decision to see if you want a relationship. And then if it falls thru, at least she saw it coming.
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