Jakethesnake Posted December 4, 2004 Posted December 4, 2004 Hello i need some help!!! I was in love with this girl 12 years ago and found out one year after i was married she was in love with me too. I am now devoiced and she has ended a very abusive relationship. We are together again as best friends. But I still love her. Latly she is scared to even touch me or hug me. We have never been intimate before. When we speak at times she becomes very defensive almost light we are on oppisite sides. But we still love to each others company. I am finding it hard to be affectionate with her. I feel she not interested. I am afraid to touch her at times. She is hot and cold one day she is very friendly and wants to party and dance the other times she is cold. I do alot for her and she still complains on the small things. I don't get it. She wears my promise ring i gave her all the time. I want to tell her i love her but i am scared. I have a problem listing to her she says so i decided to focus more on what she has to say. How do i take this relationship to the next level. I do love her and and belive she has feelings for me too but we both been though so much.
clandestinidad Posted December 4, 2004 Posted December 4, 2004 How long ago was your marriage over? And how long ago did she break it off with the abusive EX?? If it was recently she might just be scared and confused, needing time to heal herself and trust again. By "recently" I mean within this year, as it usually takes many months to figure yourself out again after an abusive relationship. I was in one myself, so I know how she must feel. If I were you, I would give her space and let her be "cold" when she wants it. Its normal for her to be off & on, as it fluctuates daily. Just make sure she knows that you are there for her when she needs your support & security. Its probably not a good idea to smother her while she's going through these types of things....let her guide you for a little bit.
alphamale Posted December 4, 2004 Posted December 4, 2004 Originally posted by Jakethesnake she has ended a very abusive relationship. We are together again as best friends. How do i take this relationship to the next level. OK Jake: SOmeone has to knock some sense into you here. She has feelings for you as a FRIEND. You are a "nice guy" and she is attracted to "bad guys" (like most women). Chances of you taking this to the NEXT LEVEL are very very small. I suggest you accept it as it is (friends only) or you never see/talk to her again.
Author Jakethesnake Posted December 4, 2004 Author Posted December 4, 2004 I beive she has alot of stirred emotions going on in her head. With starting a new career and taking care of a child. Part time jo, School and me. I just want to know why she won't hug me but some. She come out to my fami;y events and dates. If she free on the weekend and doesn't have her daughter she will stay with me. She even stays over on the couch last week. then other times she flirting with me. I all felt last time she stayed over the timing wasn't wright. I could not make the move. I do love her and feel for her. Im confused.
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