h0000 Posted October 12, 2013 Posted October 12, 2013 I felt scary this morning when i woke up,when I felt I dont miss him that much anymore. Maybe the scary part is that you forever let go of that large part of your life? Or its scary to accept that you failed..and you never have another chance again?
h0000 Posted October 12, 2013 Posted October 12, 2013 6 months. That's how long I waited. I was the dumper. She was the dumpee. I realized I wanted her back. When I contacted her she was already in another relationship. I was crushed. She said, the last time I saw her... when you broke up with me, it hurt so much. Then just one day, I stopped caring. I think you're just moving on. My ex is no married. I'm still hurt- and still miss her, 3 years later. But her one day, just deciding not to care anymore, was what she needed to fall in love with someone new. Which she did. Don't hang on to thoughts about whether or not he will come back. It doesnt matter. It is over. He may have a weak moment. Lonely around the holidays. Just remember it ended for a reason, and if you were to get back together- what ever made him end things in the first place will surely surface again. Close it off. what made you realize you wanted her back?
Author melell Posted October 12, 2013 Author Posted October 12, 2013 I think failure and knowing it's over came before where I am at now. When you no longer want them failure isn't a bit emotional contender.
JDPT Posted October 12, 2013 Posted October 12, 2013 It absolutely normal. I believe I reached that stage about a month or so ago. You realize that the relationship is so tainted, everything you once idolized is now in smithereens. And you really start to analyze the saying, "love is like broken glass, sometimes it's best to leave it alone than to hurt yourself trying to fix it." This is what I experienced. I don't wish for her to come back, I never did, in fact I honestly wish I never have to see her again, not because I'm bitter and angry at her (although I may be just a little) but most importantly because it will be utterly detrimental for me to know or see her and I'm working towards not caring anymore. You are freeing yourself your body is healing, your mind is healing it's a natural process, embrace it. You may feel like you have all this "free time" use it to work on yourself, take care of yourself and why not, treat yourself you deserve it. We have all been through the wringer and back it's time to focus on us. 4
Beautiful diamond Posted October 12, 2013 Posted October 12, 2013 It's a great feeling after a while! It's like getting the crap beat out of you, but waking up a hero/heroine for surviving lol. We made it! Our exes are somewhere crying a river, cause they just made us stronger! Hope is found! Hope was only loss when we wasted time fighting for our "relationships" lol. Be happy. The worst is over. For us anyways.......:laugh: 1
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