jcrew11 Posted October 14, 2013 Posted October 14, 2013 "Good Morning... My life changed yesterday. I need some time" .. I was all confused so I just said "oh, well whenever you are ready to talk I am here" he said okay. That was that, nothing 3 days later and nothing..ummmmm....wtf..now i am all confused and feel I was just dumped or something. Very odd and out of nowhere! How would you guys take this? Call me old fashioned - but when someone says, "my life has changed" - I think that deserves at least a phone call. I don't know how old the lady is, but texting is so impersonal
Author dlyall Posted October 14, 2013 Author Posted October 14, 2013 doesn't bother me...either way we always text and sometimes talk on the phone. We would see each other more in person more anyway.
Versacehottie Posted October 14, 2013 Posted October 14, 2013 I can actually understand what he did. Makes sense to me. If i were to put myself in his shoes, he may have thought that this new information would change what you thought of him and affect his relationship with you while at the same time been going through a TON of major feelings about the son surprise as well. I think the only thing you have to question or factor into how you feel about this guy is: if this is how he deals with "big events" in his life, does it work for you? and if not, would he be willing to handle differently in the future? The son surprise frankly could happen to MANY people. The part I think that would be difficult is that someone shuts you out of his life when a problem arises. I could even understand backing off or being a bit distant. But to tell you he's had a major life change & not be willing to explain is a little melodramtic....one thing though since it sounds like you have a nice relationship. This whole scenario is a chance to grow and build on what you do have and doesn't have to a be negative thing. I believe it could bring you closer.
Author dlyall Posted October 14, 2013 Author Posted October 14, 2013 well, we will forward from here...hopefully nothing even more crazy pops up!
Leigh 87 Posted October 14, 2013 Posted October 14, 2013 The thing is, My long term Ex would tell me the most serious things that happen to him; I was pretty much the closest person to him in his life. We were together a couple of years or more though and lived together. Though the last guy rang me first thing when his mother got admitted into hospital. Before he told his mates. I guess some guys are just different! Some tell their girls their worst issues that arise, where as some retreat more. At least your guy came back.
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