bulls42 Posted October 10, 2013 Posted October 10, 2013 Okay...so this girl and I met through my mom's friend debbie and she is debbie's niece...she is a nurse and I'm a teacher both 28 both looking for long term relationship...she saw my picture and gave her aunt my number and in turn my mom gave me the number to call her...so i call her and we talk and text for a week everyday before meeting at a restaurant on saturday night...we get there i ask her u like what u see she says ur good and i tell her the same...the dinner goes great we talk learn more about each other at the end she goes my friends are meeting up would you like to come with me now normally id say no its okay but i figured go and make an impression...i go with her i converse with her friends and they like me and as i walk the girl to her car she turns and kisses me and says i smell good, i say to her do u wanna go to a soccer game next saturday night and she says yes...so we talk again all week and call twice and then saturday rolls around and she comes to my apt and we go to game together and again she says my friends r meeting up in ny do u wanna go i say sure...we go i meet even more friends its going great but i drink a little to much...we get bak to friends apartment and stay there and as were kissing i feel sick go to bathroom and throw up...she cleans up for me and says its fine but as we sit back down i tell her i want her to be my gf and my ex girlfriend doesnt compare to her shes great oh and i say ive been with 22 girls too...next day wake up shes fine we meet my friend for breakfast that goes well in the process of going there i tell her how i asked my ex gf to move with me and she said no a month ago and she tells me how i guy she liked never talked to her and it annoyed her and then as i say goodbye to her i say dani am i saying by dani or gf and she says dani for now but i want to be a gf soon to u...i call her and text her to make sure she gets home ok and she says yeah then i text her later that night and say r u busy and she says yes, next day i tell her have a good day at work and later on i tell her hows ur day going i just wanted to tell u ur beautiful she responds busy day hows ur day going i tell her good can i call u lata no response from her then i call her at like 8 and 930 then text her listen i apologize about this weekend i had fun i just said some dumb stuff i didnt mean then she text me next morning saying ohi passed out but ill text u later i wait all day and get nothing then i call her at 10 leave her a message on voicemail saying again im sorry i really feel something here i understand if u dont then she text me 20 mins lata hey i had fun this weekend your fine your a great guy but im not sure what im looking for right now i text her back saying ok stay in touch id still like to c u sometime then i text her later quick question do u want a serious relationship or just hook up and then she text back serious relationship then i text her saying i have alot to offer if u gave me another chance im telling u u d b happy and that she was really nice and deserved only the best i havent checked my phone cuz im to afraid of the response but what should i do next i mean i really feel she is the one and everyone tells me to let it go and move on but i cant and i know somehow someway i can get her back so please any advice??????????????????
veggirl Posted October 10, 2013 Posted October 10, 2013 unrecoverable. that was painful to read. you come off VERY clingy and VERY desperate and that is VERY unattractive! 2 dates and you're asking her to be your gf and blowing up her phone! ugh! DO NOT contact her. she thinks you are crazy. if she contacts you, for the love of god play it cool and freaking slow down. 2
Simon Phoenix Posted October 12, 2013 Posted October 12, 2013 First of all, use paragraphs. That story was completely incoherent and nearly impossible to read, which is why very few people have responded. Second of all, your dishes are done here. You came on way, way too strong and scared her off. There's no recovering from this.
MoooOinkBaaa Posted October 12, 2013 Posted October 12, 2013 My head hurts, my eyes burn, my IQ hit the floor. Are you an English teacher? If you find a girl you like, take it way slower. Let her think about the first day for a week, let her tell her friends how awesome you are. Let her get to know you bit by bit before opening up all your heart. No wonder you've been with 22 women. I bet one of those women could of been your soul mate but you don't know how to emotionally unfold a relationship. Were you just taking off from the last woman you met? 1
WhiteTan Posted October 13, 2013 Posted October 13, 2013 (edited) A teacher wrote this? I hope you're teaching phy ed.. you may wanna recompose your post so it looks like it was written by a literate person. Then more people will be willing to offer advice. Edited October 13, 2013 by WhiteTan
todreaminblue Posted October 13, 2013 Posted October 13, 2013 hey i post like crap...i love ellippses as you will soon be able to tell.....so not pulling you up .....on posting style i was going to say you moved to fast......for this girl anyway.......getting drunk is never attractive...for male or female...doesnt mean you were wrong to be open.....i always take it pretty slow.....i know guys as friends before i date and then i know before i even date them its probably going to be the guy date have lots of compatibility to start which is always good there are no guarantees though.......because i may be too much for that guy to handle..some times it doesnt work out...i only go for long term relationships ...i am not a casual dating person either but i dont push, i let it happen naturally and it normally progresses at the rate the guy is comfortable with, because i am actually fairly easy going.......lol...fairly hyper easy going.......but i dont blow up phones not my style..i get funny if i text one more text or phone call after no response.......i would answer texts as soon as i see them that is, if i find my phone...... you need to relax a little and not drink on dates......dont drink at all it sucks throwing up.......and just let it happen naturally ......organize dates for sure but once you are dating someone that should be fifty fifty anyway...you did some really nice things in there....you asked her out on a second date shortly after the first or at the end of the first that shows initiative you met people who were unknown to you but known to her and were comfortable with them, you were attentive and thoughtful to her, you apologized for drinking.....the morning after....and you were sweet and kind to her..when she even broke it off dating you...lots of heart warming stuff...... you just need to relax and i think the drinkign thing actually affected you and your insecurities,if a guy told me he had dated 22 women and they were part of some progression that was constant woman after woman.....not good.........i would think either you are flighty........or that these 22 women seen soemthing in you that wasnt so good... i would become cautious..in other words my radar would go into overdrive i would be watching you rather closely and not actually enjoying time spent with you...i would be waiting for something to happen...and then the constant phone calls would make me feel harrassed that would be my out......i would do a runner....next time just be yourself dont push too fast and i wish you the very best..dont drink and get drunk on dates...it is a major turn off for most women..........................deb
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