Someguy417 Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 So there is this girl that has liked me for a long time. We went out for the first time about six months ago. First date was perfect, excellent chemistry, even slept together. Two weeks later we were supposed to go out again, but I couldn't make it. Next thing I knew she ended up in another relationship. It lasted four months. We went out again, had a great date... however when it came down to getting down in the sheets, for whatever reason I got upset and couldn't perform. We got in a fight. Anyways, we went out again like two months later after a couple of months of on and off facebook arguing over differences. (first she wanted to be an exclusive couple, I refused, then when I had some time to think about it I decided to give it a shot then she refused.) She came back to me two weeks later and decided she wanted to go on another date. The date went well for the most part, except at the end we were kind of opening up to each other about our sexual pasts. Basically she didn't like that I used to sleep with call-girls while I was single. Since then, she has never initiated contact, and just giving me short word responses. Interest level has definitely faded. Is there any way to win her back? I've made up my mind and I want to be with her. Worst part is she used to be super attracted and into me and now I can almost feel her cringe when I message her. Any advice?
Maxtor Posted October 10, 2013 Posted October 10, 2013 Based on what i experienced, you cant do anything. Give her space, let her be.
Bubberfly Posted October 10, 2013 Posted October 10, 2013 You guys aren't even a couple and you're arguing over differences? If she's not into you anymore, she's not into you.
Author Someguy417 Posted October 10, 2013 Author Posted October 10, 2013 she still replied to all my messages and we have regular conversations, but she never initiates contact and no more calling me babe or baby I want to ask her out again but not sure if I should?
Skyraider829 Posted October 10, 2013 Posted October 10, 2013 I don't want to sound like I'm shooting your chances down as that is not what I'm trying to do but you can't make someone like you or renew their interest in you. The only thing you can do is try to be yourself and genuinely show her that you have something for her that others don't. You can only perform your part. Its up to her as to whether or not she accepts and invites you back into her life as a partner or not. 1
Mascara Posted October 10, 2013 Posted October 10, 2013 From what you've said, it sounds like it could be the call-girl thing. Which I understand - that'd be a deal breaker for me too.
todreaminblue Posted October 10, 2013 Posted October 10, 2013 the cringing part is pretty bad you know....how do you know she cringes?......if i were you i would just be open and honest i sound like a broken record....i just find when you are honest most of the time you get honesty back.....deb 1
jimloveslips Posted October 10, 2013 Posted October 10, 2013 I want to ask her out again but not sure if I should? What's to loose? A girl that won't sleep with you and thinks you're a creep for paying for sex or a girl that will sleep with you (even if she still things you're a creep for paying for sex) And whatever happens you can still be a creep that pays for sex. Do you need the hint... (Don't tell her about being a creep who pays for sex). By the way, I don't think you're a creep for paying for sex, it's her that thinks you're a creep for paying for sex. I don't think the paying for sex has anything to do with you're creepiness.
tlegend Posted October 10, 2013 Posted October 10, 2013 Advice? Don't admit to using prostitutes to a new girlfriend? Get yourself checked, stop using call-girls (if you want a ****ing relationship....), and get your **** together? My 2 cents. PS - You can't force someone to like you.
Author Someguy417 Posted October 11, 2013 Author Posted October 11, 2013 the cringing part is pretty bad you know....how do you know she cringes?......if i were you i would just be open and honest i sound like a broken record....i just find when you are honest most of the time you get honesty back.....deb I really don't know, but I get the feeling. She used to always call me babe and baby, use lots of smilies etc. She used to initiate the majority of the contact. She was the one who asked me out first. Initiated sex first. Told me she was missing me after our first date. Even messaged me throughout her last relationship telling me she wanted to see me. Even after our fight about the past, we still made out. I sent her this message last week "can I say that I've been thinking about you a lot and I'm missing you?" she said: "absolutely i miss u too love" But her actions are saying otherwise. It hurts
tlegend Posted October 11, 2013 Posted October 11, 2013 I really don't know, but I get the feeling. She used to always call me babe and baby, use lots of smilies etc. Oh man, you don't get it yet, do you? Here, let me re-arrange your post in a more clear format. Even messaged me throughout her last relationship telling me she wanted to see me. First red flag. Now you are in a relationship with that very same woman. She used to initiate the majority of the contact. She was the one who asked me out first. Initiated sex first. Told me she was missing me after our first date. I bet the other boyfriend was thinking the same **** you are by now. Even after our fight about the past, we still made out. I sent her this message last week "can I say that I've been thinking about you a lot and I'm missing you?" she said: "absolutely i miss u too love" But her actions are saying otherwise. It hurts Thats just being played. You even know it. I suggest you do a little soul searching and ride it solo for a while.
Author Someguy417 Posted October 11, 2013 Author Posted October 11, 2013 Welp, I called her up earlier tonight. She seemed happy to hear from me. She called me "darling" and said I was "cute" during the convo, for whatever that's worth. I asked her out to dinner next week, she said most likely but got the dreaded "have to check my schedule" because she has a bunch of things planned next week.
felicity1 Posted October 11, 2013 Posted October 11, 2013 From what you've said, it sounds like it could be the call-girl thing. Which I understand - that'd be a deal breaker for me too. Me too. Better to find a girl who doesn't mind the call-girl thing. "Checking the schedule" has always meant "no" for me.
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