Daisy7 Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 (edited) My husband is the type of person that brags about me at work he pretty much makes it very clear to everyone that he loves his wife etc. I do trust him in this sense and i know he would not cheat. However, there is this co-worker of his that is extremely friendly around him. We have had 3 get togethers at the house with a few people and a few coworkers and this girl works with him he trained her and what not so everyone pretty much from his office came over. The first instance we all had a few drinks my husband was pretty much drunk and we ended all of us going to the movies after, while there we were all chatting and my husband went ahead to get our movie tickets and i waited for him and this coworker just rushed by his side and tried to hold his arm and said i'll go with you, i didn't really care am not the jealous type. While in the movies he fell asleep through the whole thing, this female co worker sat on his side the whole time although he was all over me. no big deal i thought until the movie was over and she was leaning towards him and trying to help him up and i told her politely is okay i got him. The second instance i found a little friendliness was the second time we had people at the house and she was there as well (my husband invites her and his other coworkers in the office nothing special he invites everyone) anyways on this day we made some food and hung out and we all watched a movie in the living room, we were pretty crowded since there were at least 8 people in total almost 10. So i sat in one recliner to watch the movie and my husband sat in the big sofa, she then sat next to him afterwards she asked for a blanket cause it was cold in the house and tried to share it with my husband this was a little weird to me i got uncomfortable but left it alone. (through all this my husband is just clueless and thinks nothing of it and ignores everything and doesn't see anything like i do he is always hugging me and kissing me infront of his coworkers) my husband is very affectionate and always brags about me to everyone. The last time we had people over again is when i raised some eyebrows and told my husband i dont want her in our house anymore. We had again people over and music and we were dancing and drinking my husband was drunk but dancing with me the whole time and this girl tried to move me to the side to grind up and pretty much get close and get infront of my husband and was just wayyy too friendly with my husband i was like WTF based on this do you feel am overeacting or is that coworker crossing the line? My husband does not initiate anything with her does not give her attention or anything is just her. What would you do? I talked to my husband about it and he doesn't believe me he says i didnt see or notice anything (so dam clueless) he says that everyone at work knows how much he loves me because he always brags about me (my husband always wants me to visit him at work and drop by and pretty much to show me around) I just feel that is so disrespectful for his female coworker to act that way around my husband specially when i am right there even though he doesn't pay her attention! She is not the only female coworker there and she is the ONLY one that behaves this way. Any advice? my husband doesn't believe me and i do not want her in the house ever again, i honestly do not want her around and my husband is very jealous towards me if it was the other way around omg my head would be on a stick even if it is not me initiating anything. any advice, i really am starting to disklike this girl. each instances were months apart the last incident was this month. Edited October 9, 2013 by Daisy7
Mr. Lucky Posted October 10, 2013 Posted October 10, 2013 Two comments, neither of which answer your question: 1). There seems to be a number of events that include the description "my husband was drunk". 2). In this litigious time, alcohol, coworkers and subordinates is a problematic mix. He may want to cut back on both things... Mr. Lucky 4
crederer Posted October 10, 2013 Posted October 10, 2013 Sounds like she wants him but he doesn't want her. It's really just a fact of life. Take it as a compliment that your man has women pining after him but he chooses to be with you. My godfather employed me a few years back. Some woman who was hot as hell was hitting on him constantly and he constantly turned her down. He could have got all up in that, but decided not to. Not all men are jerks.
D-Lish Posted October 10, 2013 Posted October 10, 2013 How do you really know what your husband is like at work? It makes things much worse if the attention is super obvious and he plays the "clueless card". Kidding me? Your husband knows it's out of line- he knows what's going on. Given her behaviour, one must assume that he hasn't given her a red light at work (or anywhere else) with regard to her behaviour. Guys aren't as "clueless" as you want to believe. They like to play the baffled card whenever they can. Don't buy into it. Doesn't mean he's cheating- but he is definitely not respecting your marital boundaries. I think you're looking for answers as to what to do about the girl- HE is the one married to you, HE is the one you should be holding accountable.
Author Daisy7 Posted October 10, 2013 Author Posted October 10, 2013 (edited) Mr.Lucky This only happened literally 3 times out of the year he doesn't do it all the time, and this female coworker was not drinking. It was just a get together and as adults alcohol was present but my husband's "drunkness" is more like hyper and he is all over me, he pays her no mind, she is the one that literally goes out of her way and is too friendly around him. I mean someone who is literally 26 years old can't say they have never drank before or at least have gotten a little drunk before. What am saying is that it does not happen all the time, only 2 times out of these 3 incidents in a year, its not a routine. We were celebrating a friend's birthday, the third time we were celebrating as well whom was moving far away. So it is not always that this happens. My husband literally was drinking wine which he loves and thats about it. crederer: He really does not initiate anything or he does not even look at her at all. But it is incredible that she behaves that way around him when she knows am literally right there. Some people are incredible. D-Lish: My husband is very different at work, everyone complains about him been serious and so strict at work, even coworkers who are not present at the get togethers say so when i meet them outside of work, he is a complete different person he loves his job and takes it to the heart. My closest friend personally works with my husband and she tells me all the time how serious and strict he is. He is always asking me to drop by at work and everything, he really doesn't notice it, is really that girl. Its like she takes any chance she gets that i go for example grab a cup of water to get close to him the 3 times she she came to the get togethers at the house she behaved so weird to get his attention. My husband is always constantly kissing me and grabbing me and giving me a hug telling me i love you constantly and is very loving in front of all this people. So i don't know what this girl is trying to do. Edited October 10, 2013 by Daisy7
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