Shaun-Dro Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 Yea, this happened about a week ago. I thought it was just a patch but now I'm convinced that it's something psychologically amiss with her and I won't stand for it any longer. It's one thing to be trying to diet, which she doesn't need to do, standing at a mere 5'3 and weighing only about 105lbs, but to stop eating real food altogether just doesn't make any sense to me whatsoever. I'm getting the feeling she's looking for additional attention from me, rather than being a developing illness on her part. First off, she's always wanting affection. It's like she's starving for it. All of the constant kissing and making out is never enough. She prefers kissing to actual sexual intercourse, which is nuts to me. Normal people desire both. She hardly sleeps which is also weird, considering that she works part time and attends school full-time, she should be getting plenty of rest; not on the phone all hours of the night and in a consistently happy mood. Just 2 nights ago she called me at two in the morning wanting to talk and I ignored the phone so she sent me crazy texts accusing me of cheating. And now the latest caper with her refusing to eat anything except sugary sweet cereal throughout the day? What kind of girl is this? I think it's fair to drop her now before I become any more invested in her, and begin to witness the declining changes in her appearance which surely is about to come, giving this insane lifestyle she's partaking in. Of course, I'm going to have to expect her to send me texts of wanting to commit suicide if I follow through breaking up with her. I guess some of it is my fault for dating a clingy young girl with an unknown past, so go on ahead and start blaming me.
pteromom Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 First off, she's always wanting affection. It's like she's starving for it. All of the constant kissing and making out is never enough. She prefers kissing to actual sexual intercourse, which is nuts to me. Normal people desire both. I don't think that is out of the norm for women. Especially if she's had some kind of sexual trauma in her past. She hardly sleeps which is also weird Lack of sleep can cause ALL kinds of mental and emotional problems. And now the latest caper with her refusing to eat anything except sugary sweet cereal throughout the day? What kind of girl is this? Have you asked her why she is only eating sweet cereal? Of course, I'm going to have to expect her to send me texts of wanting to commit suicide if I follow through breaking up with her. If you decide to break it off and she says something about suicide, say "Are you seriously considering hurting yourself, because if you are, I am calling for help for you." If she says yes, call the police. Don't mess around with guessing if she's serious, and if she isn't, don't let her use it to manipulate you. 1
todreaminblue Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 (edited) trust me its an illness....she needs help i lose my appetite when i am clinically depressed....consistently happy moods after eating sugar all day is just a high she will crash and go low ....that is why women who starve themselves eat sugary foods to give energy...doesnt last long..and then you crash so you eat more sugar......which in turn causes sleeping problems...... dont think its all about you it isnt......it is in her and deeper than you can deal with it has probably been a reaction she has had long before you were around...you might not stand for it but she is living with it...and yes it is an illness......she does have psychological issues.... you cant stop someone from committing suicide but you can inform someone that you are concerned and seek appropriate help to deal with that......it is not your fault if she attempts to only if you ignore it and you truly do care for her........ could you feel responsible...so inform someone that si alll you can do for her is make ti known that you are concerned for her well being........ affection is kissing....kissing is affection...sex is sex.... a lot of women love the affection over just humping....and the affection before and after sex is just as satisfying as the act of sex itself to some women...i am one who actually loves affection with a man i love...i dotn want to kiss all the time thouhgh....it becomes prefunctory then and not special........sex to me on its own ...is mechanics and gymnastics....affection is caring and the difference between feeling like a prostitute with a few holes to inserta penis in and feeling like a woman who is loved and cared about........deb Edited October 9, 2013 by todreaminblue 1
stormy_1011 Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 Have you considered that your gf might be using drugs? Would explain the not eating, the up all night, the happy all the time mood and the desire for sweets. I'd look into this if I were you, doesn't look good 2
spiderowl Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 It does sound like an illness. I know many trusted authorities think that not eating is a way of getting attention but I think it's something amiss in the brain that the person themselves does not understand. I'd encourage her to seek counselling help at least. You may be in for a hard time if she is in denial over it.
StanMusial Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 Yea, this happened about a week ago. I thought it was just a patch but now I'm convinced that it's something psychologically amiss with her and I won't stand for it any longer. It's one thing to be trying to diet, which she doesn't need to do, standing at a mere 5'3 and weighing only about 105lbs, but to stop eating real food altogether just doesn't make any sense to me whatsoever. I'm getting the feeling she's looking for additional attention from me, rather than being a developing illness on her part. First off, she's always wanting affection. It's like she's starving for it. All of the constant kissing and making out is never enough. She prefers kissing to actual sexual intercourse, which is nuts to me. Normal people desire both. She hardly sleeps which is also weird, considering that she works part time and attends school full-time, she should be getting plenty of rest; not on the phone all hours of the night and in a consistently happy mood. Just 2 nights ago she called me at two in the morning wanting to talk and I ignored the phone so she sent me crazy texts accusing me of cheating. And now the latest caper with her refusing to eat anything except sugary sweet cereal throughout the day? What kind of girl is this? I think it's fair to drop her now before I become any more invested in her, and begin to witness the declining changes in her appearance which surely is about to come, giving this insane lifestyle she's partaking in. Sounds like a textbook motorhead.
carhill Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 Sounds like a textbook motorhead. Reading the OP, I was going to opine 'tweeker' so I guess somewhat similar. Probably a good idea to look into it OP, to the extent you can.
FitChick Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 Another vote for drugs. Keep track of your wallet and credit cards.
Author Shaun-Dro Posted October 9, 2013 Author Posted October 9, 2013 trust me its an illness....she needs help i lose my appetite when i am clinically depressed....consistently happy moods after eating sugar all day is just a high she will crash and go low ....that is why women who starve themselves eat sugary foods to give energy...doesnt last long..and then you crash so you eat more sugar......which in turn causes sleeping problems...... dont think its all about you it isnt......it is in her and deeper than you can deal with it has probably been a reaction she has had long before you were around...you might not stand for it but she is living with it...and yes it is an illness......she does have psychological issues.... you cant stop someone from committing suicide but you can inform someone that you are concerned and seek appropriate help to deal with that......it is not your fault if she attempts to only if you ignore it and you truly do care for her........ could you feel responsible...so inform someone that si alll you can do for her is make ti known that you are concerned for her well being........ affection is kissing....kissing is affection...sex is sex.... a lot of women love the affection over just humping....and the affection before and after sex is just as satisfying as the act of sex itself to some women...i am one who actually loves affection with a man i love...i dotn want to kiss all the time thouhgh....it becomes prefunctory then and not special........sex to me on its own ...is mechanics and gymnastics....affection is caring and the difference between feeling like a prostitute with a few holes to inserta penis in and feeling like a woman who is loved and cared about........deb I hear you, Deb. She craves all parts of affection; from kissing, sucking on her neck like a madman. One time I leveled her with about 10 hickeys and she loved every waking moment of it. Never had a girl like that before but it was an interesting experience. About the sweet cereals to answer the above post, I asked her about it and she just laughed and says it tastes so good, along with cookies and lots of candies. I think I mentioned this piece in another thread months ago. She's just not eating anything useful and won't no matter what I've said or even suggested. She just wants more sugar like some kind of test-tube baby. Her consistent happy moods also annoy me because I don't know what to make of it. It's unusual and even a little creepy at times. I'm honestly still unsure of what to do because I do sort of care about her but am spooked out just the same.
FitChick Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 Strangely, you said on another thread: "Why are you trying to date women your age? Go for younger already. Less headaches on a whole. "
TheGuard13 Posted October 10, 2013 Posted October 10, 2013 Have you tried talking about this with her?
Author Shaun-Dro Posted October 10, 2013 Author Posted October 10, 2013 Strangely, you said on another thread: "Why are you trying to date women your age? Go for younger already. Less headaches on a whole. " Like I said, as a whole, not including everyone. And yes, to the other above poster, I've tried to open her up somewhat but she pretends to not want to listen or just switches topic. I tried to contact her again tonight, just to touch bases with her, but she has not answered my texts or phone call. Not sure what to do from this point. I'd really like some other suggestions in this matter before things get worse.
carhill Posted October 10, 2013 Posted October 10, 2013 Pick a couple random nights and have her tailed (a trusted friend would do) and see what results. If she's using, nights are her friend. The 2am phone calls are a canary. Also, getting pushback on any insinuation of there being a problem is an additional canary.
Ninjainpajamas Posted October 10, 2013 Posted October 10, 2013 Sounds like a cry for help, in which there is nothing that you'll be able to fix on your own...she's going to need to see someone about this, she likely needs medication/treatment of some kind, at least counseling. People don't need to be on drugs to act out, their own brains can cause the same reactions and tendencies perpetuated by deep-seated issues likely a result of traumas never dealt with internally. You should encourage her to seek help, and maybe even go as far as doing some of the leg work or informing someone close to her and trustworthy in her family of her issues and your concern because she seems to be in desperate need of assistance and people usually don't know how to reach out for it on their own or in denial of needing it in the first place...their own perception of what is self-destructive and just a phase can be extremely warped by being accustomed to the regularity and pattern of it, they become complacent and accepting of it since it's usually cyclical and they fall in and out of it. I very much doubt she's going to commit suicide, but you never really know what she might do in the heat of the moment...it's very very unlikely she will not and doing it as a cry for help and for attention but it shouldn't be taken lightly either...it's not really your responsibility beyond that, these are her personal issues and she will definitely guilt you and do what she can to satiate her abandonment issues, she will want your help and guarantees that you'll stay by her side but it'll never be enough...don't try to understand or rationalize issues like this it'll just drive you crazy, it's not about making "sense", it's about emotions, coping mechanisms and being out of control. Something far beyond your knowledge and capability in treating, these are not relationship issues, these are personal issues. 1
Lokie Posted October 10, 2013 Posted October 10, 2013 If it is not speed/drugs, it could be an eating disorder. Or it could be drugs coupled with an eating disorder. I'm sorry you're going through this, as dealing with an addict is no picnic.
Lokie Posted October 10, 2013 Posted October 10, 2013 And quite frankly, I'm surprised some of the male posters on LS (who shall remain nameless) have not commented to "just be happy she's not a cow!" Because if you had posted that "My girlfriend cannot stop eating," you'd be getting a host of different responses.
NYC-BigKat Posted October 10, 2013 Posted October 10, 2013 If it is not speed/drugs, it could be an eating disorder. Or it could be drugs coupled with an eating disorder. I'm sorry you're going through this, as dealing with an addict is no picnic. Oh no I never knew girls could be so strange. Maybe its better being single u know .
crederer Posted October 10, 2013 Posted October 10, 2013 She has an eating disorder. Not likely a drug addict as this is her drug. It has nothing to do with you. It's all on her. You should bring it up (if you already havent) and try to find a solution.
anna121 Posted October 10, 2013 Posted October 10, 2013 She could also be suffering from a mental illness. Maybe it's just me, but you sound like you don't really care that much aside from not wanting to be there to watch her "decline". At the very least, inform her family and/or friends. 1
todreaminblue Posted October 10, 2013 Posted October 10, 2013 I hear you, Deb. She craves all parts of affection; from kissing, sucking on her neck like a madman. One time I leveled her with about 10 hickeys and she loved every waking moment of it. Never had a girl like that before but it was an interesting experience. About the sweet cereals to answer the above post, I asked her about it and she just laughed and says it tastes so good, along with cookies and lots of candies. I think I mentioned this piece in another thread months ago. She's just not eating anything useful and won't no matter what I've said or even suggested. She just wants more sugar like some kind of test-tube baby. Her consistent happy moods also annoy me because I don't know what to make of it. It's unusual and even a little creepy at times. I'm honestly still unsure of what to do because I do sort of care about her but am spooked out just the same. to me putting ten hickeys on a girl at once in a visible place is also your responsibility not just hers......makes girls look cheap and easy in my opinion when they are visible......yuck...sounds like you have serious issues with her.....i find it curious when people get annoyed with people who are happy...i would suggest some of those moods are a mask and for your benefit and others more than herself.......deb
NYC-BigKat Posted October 10, 2013 Posted October 10, 2013 to me putting ten hickeys on a girl at once in a visible place is also your responsibility not just hers......makes girls look cheap and easy in my opinion when they are visible......yuck...sounds like you have serious issues with her.....i find it curious when people get annoyed with people who are happy...i would suggest some of those moods are a mask and for your benefit and others more than herself.......deb 10 hickeys is so so many. I wonder why u did that & I wonder if she likes it so very much. I think she might like pain & might start hurting herself u know.
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