jaruuk Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 Was in a 4 year relationship. We broke up for 2 months. During this time, we stopped talking on the phone but we did continue texting. She found someone new during this time while I didn't. Around the 2 month mark, we physically met and have been having sex for a month. But she doesn't want to break up with the new guy because she's confused and is afraid to trust me again because I treated her badly. What does being confused mean in this case?
Mariposa10 Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 I don't know exactly since I'm not her, but probably she's testing the waters, she's curious about where things could go with the new guy. Why are you having sex with her?? She's in a relationship!! Do you love her? Do you want to get back together, or are you just in it for the sex?
Author jaruuk Posted October 9, 2013 Author Posted October 9, 2013 Of course I love her. I made a mistake in forcing her to walk away. So yes, I do I want to get back together. Why am I having sex with her? Because in my mind, it's like we never really broke up. Her finding a guy so soon was a complete shock considering we were together for 4 years. Technically, I guess I'm the other guy. But why does it feel like he's the interloper to me?
Mariposa10 Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 Of course I love her. I made a mistake in forcing her to walk away. So yes, I do I want to get back together. Why am I having sex with her? Because in my mind, it's like we never really broke up. Her finding a guy so soon was a complete shock considering we were together for 4 years. Technically, I guess I'm the other guy. But why does it feel like he's the interloper to me? Has she talked about ending things with the other guy. Nothing can happen as long as she's with someone else. I don't think you two having sex is a good idea. She needs to have time, so she can make a decision. She's cheating on her current relationship, that's not fair. Why doesn't she dump the guy that way at least she's not cheating.
Author jaruuk Posted October 10, 2013 Author Posted October 10, 2013 Yes, she has talked about ending it with the other guy. But because she's confused, she hasn't yet made a decision. Although she hasn't had sex with him for the month we were intimate, she is still talking and texting with him. Like you say, she also says she needs time to completely cut all contact with him.
barky2 Posted October 10, 2013 Posted October 10, 2013 I'm going to be blunt so bare with me You are filling a void in her heart right now As is the new guy If she really wanted to be with you she would be She's with him She's not coming back as long as you are her bootycall Cut this off completely and tell her to call you when she's single This will blow up in your face I promise you that Your " girl " is also banging someone else right now Barky 2
MoooOinkBaaa Posted October 11, 2013 Posted October 11, 2013 You wouldn't let her bang someone else when you were together so why would you now you're apart? If you've already apologized about treating her badly, break contact with her until she makes up her mind! Don't let her pick and choose between you two. Let her know what she's missing by not having you around, maybe she will realize this new guy doesn't do all those little nice things you used to. If you wants to be with you nothing you can do now will make her change her mind. She has to want you by her own accord. Anything you do now will only work against you. 1
Author jaruuk Posted October 11, 2013 Author Posted October 11, 2013 It's kind of hard to be banging someone else when I'm sleeping over every night, but I get the point. Thanks everyone for confirming what I suspected. That she has no intention of getting back together. Guess it's just ex sex.
Simon Phoenix Posted October 11, 2013 Posted October 11, 2013 Even if you were to get back together, the odds of her cheating on you are high. Don't ever be that guy that sleeps with someone else's girlfriend. No one likes that guy.
BC1980 Posted October 12, 2013 Posted October 12, 2013 It's kind of hard to be banging someone else when I'm sleeping over every night, but I get the point. Thanks everyone for confirming what I suspected. That she has no intention of getting back together. Guess it's just ex sex. Well, it wouldn't really be that difficult. I mean, you can have sex anytime of the day, so who's to say what she does when you aren't over at night? She is missing you but doesn't want to get back together with you. It's just that simple unfortunately.
melell Posted October 12, 2013 Posted October 12, 2013 Why people are interested in girls that act this way is beyond me.
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