How to accept my ex wasn't for me? Treats his new girl better...

[elizabeth21]

We broke up in April over a year of dating and even tho I really cared about him, I guess he wasn't for me. He broke it off when I should have awhile ago because he just wasn't a good bf in general. Forgot dates, would barely text me, did nothing for our 1 year, would get angry easily at me and I ended up saying sorry all the time, and he never told me how much I meant to him or anything like that. We saw each other like twice a week and he thought I was clingy or high maintenance because I wanted more of his time. He's 17 and I'm 18 and I wore the pants. I want to be taken care of and being the one doing everything. I think he thought I was those things because I'm more mature and need a MAN and not a boy. I'm not a prissy girl like he thinks and he didn't get to see all my sides cause we barely hung. But after breaking up I realized all the cool sides I had that I never got to show him.

 

He's now dating my "friend" (said he wasn't ready for a relationship but he lied about that at the break up cause he didn't want to tell me the real reasons n hurt me) who's 17 and never had a bf. Idk if she'll just get hurt in the end like me and if it's just a honeymoon stage, or if he loves her more to change. It sucks to think he could love someone more and treat her better. She may have different standers of how she wants to be treated tho.

 

I cared about him a lot and should've ended it but I didn't. I was willing to put up with the unhappy moments to be with him. We did have a great relationship until the last couple months when things just got frustrating and he got more busy. Idk if I should regret being picky with our time together and how I was treated, but everyone said he was a jerk. He told me I deserved someone I wanted cause he said he isn't a romantic guy and probably never will be. I'm content with being single but it's harder he has someone new now and all happy...Advice?

 

And he used to care cause last year he told his friend he would be as emotional as a girl if we broke up..He used to be really sweet to me...I think me wanting more than what he could give turned him off of me....

 

I think in my next relationship I'm gonna try to not fall as hard and not please him so much because I ended up just hurt by caring so much...I did a lot for him.

[Heroeric]

Here's the best way to look at it, at least for me. What you and him had, regardless of how he treated the relationship in general, was an actual love relationship on your part. I feel like I can relate to your situation, I was in something sort of similar to your, but honestly one of the best things to do is don't tell yourself this isn't right, that it's wrong you feel this way. Its perfectly ok to feel this way, I believe there is a part in anyone who truly loved who would be thinking this when put in this position.

 

Regardless to say though, I don't think he will treat her better then he did you. I mean sure at first maybe, and maybe he will keep it up later on, but chances are slim and right now it's important to remember what happened. Dont blame yourself for staying with him, and don't regret the relationship. Realize that this is a learning experience. Every relationship is a learning experience, you learn what you want and don't want. Your gonna a hurt for awhile, and your gonna a have alot of questions, but always remember your not alone.

 

And don't think about him loving her more, love takes alot of time to develop. Who knows where their gonna be at in a months time, maybe they won't be together anymore then.