leavethepieces Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 We hadn't spoken in almost 3 months. I didn't think I would ever hear from him again with the way things ended. He is divorced now and called to apologize for everything. I have missed him so much and fantasized about such a conversation almost every day. I never thought it would happen. I don't even know why I'm posting this - I feel so messed up in the head.
SarahJames Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 How did things between you end? Did you know he was going to get a divorce? How did you respond to his call? I'm sure it's overwhelming. 2
starryeyedsurprise Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 Yes, I am sure we would all love to hear your story...how did it end? NC for 3 months is a very long time, and I am happy for you. However I feel that you have been pushed back to all those emotions and everything feels new again.
cif Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 We hadn't spoken in almost 3 months. I didn't think I would ever hear from him again with the way things ended. He is divorced now and called to apologize for everything. I have missed him so much and fantasized about such a conversation almost every day. I never thought it would happen. I don't even know why I'm posting this - I feel so messed up in the head. Sorry I don't know your backstory but like you I would love to get a phone call xMM apologizing... he never did. Do you think it was sincere? How did you end the conversation? Will you be seeing him?
Author leavethepieces Posted October 9, 2013 Author Posted October 9, 2013 Horribly. With him telling me he loved me and wanted to be with me. He left his wife but didnt tell her why. A relative of mine took it upon herself to go tell his wife about me. (Which HE should have done in the first place.) After that, he told me he didn't have the time to deal with me and it went downhill from there. I was so shocked I didn't know what to say. He asked how I was doing and I told him that I wasn't okay. He said that he doesn't want to get involved with someone who is still in a relationship ever again (which is a good thing). I just don't know. I'm totally overwhelmed.
Author leavethepieces Posted October 9, 2013 Author Posted October 9, 2013 Sorry I don't know your backstory but like you I would love to get a phone call xMM apologizing... he never did. Do you think it was sincere? How did you end the conversation? Will you be seeing him? I think it was sincere. He said to call him if I'd like - I would like to see him but I don't know what that would do. I have been plagued with dreams and depression ever since so its not like the emotions have gone away.
SarahJames Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 Horribly. With him telling me he loved me and wanted to be with me. He left his wife but didnt tell her why. A relative of mine took it upon herself to go tell his wife about me. (Which HE should have done in the first place.) After that, he told me he didn't have the time to deal with me and it went downhill from there. I was so shocked I didn't know what to say. He asked how I was doing and I told him that I wasn't okay. He said that he doesn't want to get involved with someone who is still in a relationship ever again (which is a good thing). I just don't know. I'm totally overwhelmed. Hm, well I think a good amount of us here would agree that there are way worst ways things could have ended than him telling you he loves you. Was him telling you that a problem because you are still in a relationship? Are you contemplating ending your relationship and being with him?
Cali408 Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 How is your marriage? You're still in the fog. Don't get together with him. Even if you were single don't do it. He told you he doesn't want to be involved. Plus, he is going through his own hell with his divorce. You have a child and a husband. Does your husband know? If your marriage is good, every time you think of him, do something nice for your husband. You should be upset that he called you and put you in this emotional state. Force your mind to stop day dreaming. Be grateful for the little things like your beautiful child. The emotions will abate if you try to force yourself to stop the fantasy. After a week, you'll feel better. 1
Author leavethepieces Posted October 9, 2013 Author Posted October 9, 2013 How is your marriage? You're still in the fog. Don't get together with him. Even if you were single don't do it. He told you he doesn't want to be involved. Plus, he is going through his own hell with his divorce. You have a child and a husband. Does your husband know? If your marriage is good, every time you think of him, do something nice for your husband. You should be upset that he called you and put you in this emotional state. Force your mind to stop day dreaming. Be grateful for the little things like your beautiful child. The emotions will abate if you try to force yourself to stop the fantasy. After a week, you'll feel better. I wish I could implement every word here. No my marriage is not great. My husband has even told me that he knows I'm in love with the OM. I WILL NOT leave my husband for him - he has proven to be unreliable. But yet I still think about him constantly.
sweet_pea Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 I really think divorce is your best option, especially since you have fantasies/get a thrill out of flirting/having sex with married men on top of this affair that you still think about constantly. What is stopping you from filing? I think for all parties involved, since your marriage is not going well and what not, divorce is the best thing to do.
Author leavethepieces Posted October 9, 2013 Author Posted October 9, 2013 I really think divorce is your best option, especially since you have fantasies/get a thrill out of flirting/having sex with married men on top of this affair that you still think about constantly. What is stopping you from filing? I think for all parties involved, since your marriage is not going well and what not, divorce is the best thing to do. I know. My husband has stopped me from filing. He wants to work it out. I do love him but I recognize that I have some serious issues.
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