finealways Posted October 9, 2013 Posted October 9, 2013 Hi! I want some advice on how to manage and build my social circle(s). I don't curently have some very close friends that I do everything with, but I have about 10 people I somewhat regularly hang out with and could hang out with one on one and about 10 more that it wouldn't be weird to invite to some smaller gathering and who know how many more that I could invite to parties where they would sometimes show up. What I wonder is mostly, when organizing or throwing some smaller fun event like having a poker night or a film night or going to go gocarting or to a waterpark or something, how do I manage which I invite and stay on a positive note with everyone I know? I mean at a party sure I can invite the 10 closest or the 20 closest and some more but for a poker night sometimes maybe you want to be about 5-8 people or at a movie night I have only place for about 5-6 and if someone more want to come that's cool if they want to snugg up with some pillows on the floor etc or for a dinner night etc but still it feels like weird to know who to invite of theese aproximatly 10 somewhat closer people. I am not sure exactly which ≈4-6 of theese I would want as my tightest crew if that is the advice I will get, I just want to give value to people throwing fun things and improving my social life and comming in to contact with more people and eventually hopefully find one or a couple of friends that I feel really close to and have the most fun with and still have the other friends to do some things with but for now who do I invite? And most of the people I know have some contact with each other and will hear what others will be doing etc, it is not that I get invited to everything they do, I don't know how they choose, I just want to handle this as good as possible but I know I can't always make everyone happy and maybe it is better not always inviting everyone, maybe they hear fun things I throw and want in and invite me to more things to get invited the next time etc.. Any advice and thoughts on this is apreciated
coolheadal Posted October 10, 2013 Posted October 10, 2013 Easy to setup and organize group events. Seems like your singling out some friends from other friends. I guess you have your reasons for doing that. In google type: event planning checklist use the first PDF you see that should do the job for you. After that there are plenty of examples. You should really get your hands a software to help manage everything unless you want to hire Event planners which will cost you. Good luck on your endeavor!
Author finealways Posted October 10, 2013 Author Posted October 10, 2013 (edited) Easy to setup and organize group events. Seems like your singling out some friends from other friends. I guess you have your reasons for doing that. In google type: event planning checklist use the first PDF you see that should do the job for you. After that there are plenty of examples. You should really get your hands a software to help manage everything unless you want to hire Event planners which will cost you. Good luck on your endeavor! Hey thanks for replying. I think it is a good idea to make checklists when planning events but it is not that that I am wondering about. The case is that I don't have 1 or 2 or 3 or 4 or 5 really closest friends who I always use to hang out with I have more like 8-12 people or so that I hang out with in different situations and they all know each other a bit and party togheter and sometimes hang out in various constelations. It is just that sometimes when you want to invite some of them over for a movie night or a poker game and there is limited space or seats or possibilities to play or whatever I don't know who to invite really (or who not to invite). It is not that I have major prefferences between theese people, I just want to be social and have fun and to get closer friends with people and get invited to other things and meet new people and have more experiences etc and hopefully meet and get closer friends with some people that I WILL feel really close to and have the most fun with but for know I just want to be more social and throw fun little and big gatherings. And it is when I throw the small gatherings I don't really know which to choose, maybe it doesn't matter and they won't get that offended that I don't invite all of them every time I just know that sometimes I have felt disapointed that I haven't gotten invited to things when I thought we where close enough and I had invited the person in question etc but maybe you just have to choose some and the other people will have to suck it up or maybe they won't care much and I can always invite them next time or so. I guess I'm just confused and and it's not a big deal and it is hard for anyone else to really give a good answer to this, it would have just been easier if they where part of totally different social circles but I live in a small town where lots of people know each other and also I like to introduce different people I know to each other and invite them all when I throw bigger parties etc. Anyways thanks, It has somewhat gotten clearer just gettting my thoughts out in words and looking at them. Edited October 10, 2013 by finealways
coolheadal Posted October 10, 2013 Posted October 10, 2013 Oh but you can have more than one activity going. If you got enough room, like a basement you can have the movie going on there, then upstairs you can have the poker game going. Shouldn't matter who you invite over as along as they know you got poker game and then you have movie going on. Keep everyone entertain. I am sure who you invite might not show-up but those that do just be happy about it. Creating the social gathering or circles really not hard. If you do all the cooking and etc then you need some of these friends to step and give you a hand. Also make or ask them to bring a meal or some refreshments whatever you need. One can bring all the ICE, another the drinks, napkins an etc.. You got to be creative to deal with all your friends no matter how small or large the group is. Go with your intent that everything you do is positive and going to turn our just right for you. Think in THE NOW!
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